I need advice...

csousa1

DD - thanks for your help everyone, I know what I am going to do now!

oceana919

While I think that you need to handle this situation with a great deal of sensitivity, I do not think you should cancel the party altogether...I think a night with girlfriends who are there to celebrate with her and support her is probably exactly what she needs right now.

Is there any way to scale it back and still have a fun evening? Does it necessarily have to be a wild party out on the town? What if you have a nice get-together at a WP member's home - lots of fun finger foods/appetizers/desserts, party games, etc. You could even make it themed - tell everyone to come in their funniest PJs and have pajama-party type food and watch chick flicks. You'd still be getting everyone together to celebrate your friend, her sister could still be involved (in whatever capacity she's able to be) and it wouldn't break the bank.

Anyways, just my two cents...

csousa1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_need-advice-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:22b57668-af39-474c-b1b0-865fde2866d4Post:bb12ba78-8d1f-4b0a-a7a2-da4e47214395">Re: I need advice...</a>:
[QUOTE]I like Oceana's idea of a PJ party. <strong>Why doesn't your BFF's FI want to come anymore? 
</strong>Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

"Just doesn't feel like having a bachelorette." Honestly, that would have been nice to know BEFORE I asked all of her sisters and entire WP for their advice, only to now have them not be invited. And also before we were six weeks out from their wedding.

But I digress.

I will have to give the PJ party idea some thought. I know my BFF had her heart set on a night out on the town though.

Something has to give though, right?

bsidebella

I third the pajama party idea! You can definitely keep it at home, have some drinks, be girlie-girls. I know that would be right up my alley for my bachelorette (but then again I'm such a homebody).

How about hiring someone to come over, like a makeup artist to give make-overs, or a henna artist, or a tarot card reader or (and this might be a little racy for a 16-year-old) hosting a Passion Party (www.passionparties.com)? That way you can really make it a party without spending a lot of money.

csousa1

Thanks so much for the ideas ladies!! I feel better already.

Liv, I feel the same way. BFF didn't sound upset, but I've only talked to her about it through text. More emotion and information is bound to come out when I see her in person on Thursday night. I love ALL of your ideas.

Now that I think about it, since her FI is no longer attending, I may just ask her advice on the whole thing.

lunarsongbird

I think that having a really fun brunch the next morning after the sleepover would be nice too...a mimosa/bloody mary bar. VERY fun! Me loves some good brunch! I have some good recipies that can be prepared before hand.

 

Ana_2985

I like Oceana's thoughts and suggestions, but since you think your friend really wants to go out I'll add my own suggestion.

There were several girls under 21 in my wedding party. For my bachelorette party we went to Lucky Strike which is a bowling alley/restaurant/bar combo. If you've never been there, it's not like a typical bowling alley. It doesn't feel like you're at a 12 year olds birthday party, but there's no age requirement. It was great because we could have dinner and snacks and everyone over 21 had access to the bar. It was a lot of fun! After that we went back to my sister's house for more snacks, drinks, and games and most people spent the night and had breakfast with us in the morning.

Maybe you could try to come up with something like that? I think most major cities have a Lucky Strike, but there must be other similar alternatives too.