My cousin E and I are the same age, we grew up together & were super close. She lived with my parents and I for about a year and a half in high school & went to my school because her family is kind of messed up. After that we stayed in touch. She visited me at school in NYC & I visited her in Philly a few times. The last time I saw her was my junior year of college though & that was 2006ish. I've tried to get in touch with her & make plans but I either wouldn't hear back or her phone number will have changed or it would be disconnected.
The day my Poppop died this summer she called me to send her condolences & to tell me she couldn't wait to see me on Saturday at the funeral, it just sucks that this is why we're seeing each other. She sounded really sad, which was to be expected since he was like a grandfather to her also even if she wasn't super close with the family now. Well she never showed up at the funeral & I haven't spoken to her since that phone call.
Fast forward 3 months later to last night. I get a text from her saying "Hey cousin, it's E. So I know we don't talk which sucks but I just recently got engaged & just want to make sure that you'll be a bridesmaid. I love and miss you very much." My first thought/feeling was one of complete shock. I'm really, very happy for her about getting engaged. But a bridesmaid? I'm so confused right now. I don't know what to do or say.
Also, I didn't even tell her I was engaged because we honestly hadn't spoken, it never even crossed my mind to call or text her to tell her. I wasn't even planning on inviting her to my wedding which I have been going back & forth about a lot lately. We just aren't close anymore. We don't talk, we haven't seen each other in 5 years. But we did grow up together and we were super close.
So now what? How do I handle this situation?