Were you more or less nervous than you thought?

LizzyRB

We are deciding if writing our own vows or repeating traditional vows after the pastor is better... Fi is concerned we will be too nervous to do our own vows, though he like the idea of vows from the heart. He is the more out-spoken one of the couple so I was surprised he was worried about us speking in front of everyone. We will have about 100 people watching us.

Were you too nervous to say your own vows? Wish you would have/wouldn't have said your own? Glad you did?

Any advice is appreciated!

AdeleDazeem

I was wildly uncomfortable with writing my own vows.  The words would have beenjust way too personal to say in a public ceremony.  My husband felt very much the same so we used the traditional vows.

I'm going to be honest, I haven't the slightest idea what was said.  The whole ceremony was a blur.  I'm grateful that my husband didn't read some heartfelt note to me at the time because I'm not sure I would've actually taken in what he was saying.  I also like the traditional vows - they were written for what a marriage meant through the ages.

cwill6212

We did both. We wrote a "personal vow" portion, which we read during a part of the ceremony. And then we still repeated traditional vows after the pastor. We had about the same size wedding and even though I was WAY more nervous than I anticipated, I actually remember our personal vows more than the others.

naomikb

I was less nervous.  I was definitely shaky/crying/had trouble getting all the words out clearly but that was just emotions of getting married, not nervousness.

We wrote our vows together, agreed upon the wording, did research online and pulled bits and pieces from all over.  The pastor said them and we repeated them back to him.  So it was a bit more personal because we said what we wanted to say (instead of the standard ones that were in the hymnal) but we didn't have to memorize anything.

Tanq&Tonic

We wrote our own vows and also read them directly without repeating after the pastor.  I didn't try to memorize because I didn't want the pressure/stress, and we weren't nervous at all.  Honestly, there really wasn't nerves at all around the day -- just excitement.  And because it was both written and filmed, we can revisit them frequently to make up for the 'blur' factor.

Summer2011Bride

We chose to do traditional vows, but it didn't have anything to do with nerves. We liked the idea of saying the same vows our parents, grandparents, etc. did. I don't think traditional vows are any less meaningful or personal. Do what you both want and feel comfortable with. Like a PP suggested, you could always say some of the traditional vows and then read brief personal vows as well.

Janefreedom

lol,  people feel nervous when the issue is really serious,   that means  he love you very very much

Cackle6

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[QUOTE]We wrote our vows together, agreed upon the wording, did research online and pulled bits and pieces from all over.  The pastor said them and we repeated them back to him.  So it was a bit more personal because we said what we wanted to say (instead of the standard ones that were in the hymnal) but we didn't have to memorize anything.
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</div><div>We did this as well. Our officiant said them a line at a time, and then my H and I repeated them together. We picked wording that was more personal to us than the traditional vows, and yet, like naomikb said, we didn't have to memorize anything. Just be sure that you have your officiant break up the lines so you don't forget what you're repeating halfway through the line! That happen to us for 2 of the lines, and so instead of saying "I will join with you in an ongoing struggle to create a world we all want to live in" it came out as something along the lines of "I will join with you to create an ongoing struggle..." lol. Oops. :)<p style="margin-bottom:0in;widows:0;orphans:0;"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman, serif">to create a world we all want to live in,</font></font></p>
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