Shopping Vent

Hazel_B

I hate falling in love with US stores. I fall in love with something and then come to the conclusion that I'm willing to deal with the shipping to the border and go to New York state to pick it up.

However, most of the time I can't do this because they won't accept my Canadian billing information. I'll deal with the border stuff myself, but they won't even let me buy it! Grrr!

Do you have a shopping vent?

NurseyK

YES. I hate walking in the mall now because of all the kiosks in the middle who sell perfumes, lotion, and cell phones. I want be a giant B and say no I don't want your gross hands on me and yes of course I already have a cell phone.  Instead I just lie and say that I already have it. I feel like I'm in Tijuana near the kids who try to sell the chicklets gum constantly harassing everyone. 

calindi

That does suck, Hazel.  Do you have a close US friend you could mail a check to and have them charge it?

Hazel_B

Hmmmm, FI has US banking stuff but it was supposed to be a gift for him. Maybe I can talk to a friend of his, but it feels weird. It's one thing to ship it to someone's house and deal with it then, but I can't even buy the damn thing.

Maybe FI will do it, so much for the element of surprise though.

peekaboo2011

I'm super weird.  If I walk into a store, by myself and you start telling me about your sales and what not BEFORE I approach you, I'll walk out of the store without buying anything.  If I'm capable of walking in and making a purchase, I'm capable of reading too.  Sheesh.

If I'm with friends, the above does not apply.

NurseyK

@peek - I'm with you, I don't like being approached either. The worst is Victoria's Secret, where EVERYONE comes up to you. 

calindi

I hate when you walk in a store, the greeter immediately says, "Well, my name is Jane and if you need anything, let me know."  You know they're telling you their name so that when you get to the register, you can say Jane helped you.  If you help me, I'll ask you for your name so I can give it at checkout.  If you volunteer it without ever helping me at all, I'm not going to give them your name.

MLekathLEEN

FGMIL is originally from Canada and she goes over every week to visit family. One girl always ships her Victoria secret orders to fgmil and she brings them over. She's always worried they'll check at customs and see all of this vs stuff in her trunk. I need to find a flat shoe to wear to work that doesnt cover my toe. I tried putting my ugg slippers on yesterday and it hurt so I know covered shoes will be out for awhile. my lovely new boss is a peach so I'm sure I'll have a hell of a time conforming to her dress code standards in the shoe department. I think I found some Cole Haan that may work but I'm not ready to spend $150 on ballet flats. Sorry about the lack of caps or weird grammar issues. I'm on my phone and this is too long to go over, plus I'm lazy.

motoLyn

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_shopping-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2a946b38-af24-4c02-8a27-0307c00a2cd4Post:42db9e22-eea9-4ca3-9b4b-dac6860d1cd0">Re: Shopping Vent</a>:
[QUOTE]I hate when you walk in a store, the greeter immediately says, "Well, my name is Jane and if you need anything, let me know."  You know they're telling you their name so that when you get to the register, you can say Jane helped you.  If you help me, I'll ask you for your name so I can give it at checkout.  If you volunteer it without ever helping me at all, I'm not going to give them your name.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]


I'm the opposite I like it when they greet me and tell me their name.  Then I can just say "Jane I need this" later on.  I dislike having to hunt down a sales person.  I don't really have a vent just a quirk where if there is too much to look through I get turned off and want to go home.  I dislike having to look through racks and racks of things. 

Beads921

I'm learning that I really love to shop by myself. It's stress-free, and you can look at the stuff you want to. Then I take it home and have a fashion show with BF (true story, he loves it), which is just as much fun as getting a girlfriend's comments at the store, if not moreso, or sometimes I'll send pics to my Mom if I'm not sure about it (she's more honest than any of my friends ever would be).

I do really hate being approached and watched. It kills me. If I want your help, I'll come ask. If I'm confused by a sale sign (which does happen), I'll ask you about it. If I need a fitting room, I'll go to the closest clerk no matter what. 

However, I also hate the shipping to Canada crapola. It's so annoying, and a huge reason for why I don't shop online.

bsidebella

<div align="left">In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_shopping-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:2a946b38-af24-4c02-8a27-0307c00a2cd4Post:a3cef83d-7f90-4761-87e7-9a310515cc9f">Re: Shopping Vent</a>:
[QUOTE]YES. I hate walking in the mall now because of all the kiosks in the middle who sell perfumes, lotion, and cell phones. I want be a giant B and say no I don't want your gross hands on me and yes of course I already have a cell phone.  Instead I just lie and say that I already have it. I feel like I'm in Tijuana near the kids who try to sell the chicklets gum constantly harassing everyone. 
Posted by NurseyK[/QUOTE]

I hate that too! I especially hate the ones that say, "Oh, can I see your nails, please?" I say, No thank you, my nails are fine! Then they ask me what I do to my nails, and I say, "UV gels". Then they try to lecture me about how bad getting the gel is for your nails. You know what, smarty pants? It's really not, and if it wasn't, that's none of your business. They're my nails. You know what else is bad for you? Tanning booths.

My other vent isn't really a vent, more like a confession. The other day I spent $45 at Old Navy, put it on the credit card and hid the receipt from FI. The worst part is, I didn't even buy that much! I bought 3 tank tops and 8 pairs of earrings (some women are shoe whores, I'm an earring whore).

It just felt so good to treat myself. I'm not supposed to put personal items on the credit card, like clothing. It's for gas, groceries and emergencies. I justified it by thinking if FI can go out and spend $30 on a video game he's only played once since he got it, I can get myself some new tank tops and earrings that I know I'll wear.</div>

marleylikeair

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_shopping-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2a946b38-af24-4c02-8a27-0307c00a2cd4Post:234bce9d-9190-4fbb-a7cf-d2927ece963d">Re: Shopping Vent</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm super weird.  If I walk into a store, by myself and you start telling me about your sales and what not BEFORE I approach you, I'll walk out of the store without buying anything.  If I'm capable of walking in and making a purchase, I'm capable of reading too.  Sheesh. If I'm with friends, the above does not apply.
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

THIS. Ugghhhh. I can't stand when people do this. Get. Out. Of. My. Face. Srsly. I just want to look at stuff and make a decision. The mall here has a pretty decent JC Penney with cute stuff, but on Saturdays, it's my personal definition of Hell. They've always got some big promotion and some chick trying to be all up in my grill. I even ran into a wedding-related promotion for some kind of package once, and they had actors dressed up as a bride and groom. The dress was awful and he was wearing tails and a top hat--a little over the top, much? I mean, I love a top hat and tails, but for a promo at the mall targeted toward a mass audience, it seemed totally out of place to me. It creeped me way the eff out!

Cate, I think people do that intro thing more to get you to come back to them and not someone else, so they can make the commission. And/or they've got a manager telling them they have to do it because some idiot research study says it'll help sales. Definitely annoying, though, if they're in your face about it right off the bat.

leia1979

I have to agree with Marley and Peekaboo. I just want to be left alone in a store. If I need something, I'll ask. I really start to get pissed by the time three or four people have asked if they can help me. Best Buy is one of the worst, because I find a lot of the guys who work there to be condescending. Little do they know...I probably know way more about what I'm looking at than they do.

deburnin

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_shopping-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2a946b38-af24-4c02-8a27-0307c00a2cd4Post:234bce9d-9190-4fbb-a7cf-d2927ece963d">Re: Shopping Vent</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm super weird.  If I walk into a store, by myself and you start telling me about your sales and what not BEFORE I approach you, I'll walk out of the store without buying anything.  If I'm capable of walking in and making a purchase, I'm capable of reading too.  Sheesh.
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

<div>Glad I'm not the only one. lol</div>

jeanacorina

Usually, it's the company telling the store associates they have to do these things. It's a little rare to find a natually pushy associate in my experience- unless it's really commission-based.

Victoria Secret is one of my least favorite places to walk into, but I love their stuff.

I don't mind if someone asks if I'm finding everything okay. I get it. It's cool. It's when I've just set my foot an inch into the store and they're asking if I want to be fitted for a bra. Who tells them to do that?! And I don't want your Angel Card or whatever it is. Stop it. I don't need to be asked 5 times in 15 minutes by different people.

I actually didn't go back to a VS store for over a year after I was offered the credit card 1) as soon as I stepped over the threshold, 2) while I was looking for my size in panties (seriously- just help me find my size, ok?), 3) while I was waiting for a dressing room, and finally, the kicker: 4) WHILE I WAS IN THE DRESSING ROOM trying on a bra the girl started talking to me about the card THROUGH THE DOOR. then, 5) when I was checking out.

Seriously? Through the dressing room door? Now, THAT is the associate's bad judgment right there. I get that that HAVE to do it, but they don't have to talk to me while I'm half naked trying to decide if this bra fits better than that one. Give a girl some peace!

marleylikeair

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_shopping-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2a946b38-af24-4c02-8a27-0307c00a2cd4Post:15bc92a5-f398-4e70-a92b-9202b26f735c">Re: Shopping Vent</a>:
[QUOTE]Usually, it's the company telling the store associates they have to do these things. It's a little rare to find a natually pushy associate in my experience- unless it's really commission-based. Victoria Secret is one of my least favorite places to walk into, but I love their stuff. I don't mind if someone asks if I'm finding everything okay. I get it. It's cool. It's when I've just set my foot an inch into the store and they're asking if I want to be fitted for a bra. Who tells them to do that?! And I don't want your Angel Card or whatever it is. Stop it. I don't need to be asked 5 times in 15 minutes by different people. I actually didn't go back to a VS store for over a year after I was offered the credit card 1) as soon as I stepped over the threshold, 2) while I was looking for my size in panties (seriously- just help me find my size, ok?), 3) while I was waiting for a dressing room, and finally, the kicker: 4) WHILE I WAS IN THE DRESSING ROOM trying on a bra the girl started talking to me about the card THROUGH THE DOOR. then, 5) when I was checking out. Seriously? Through the dressing room door? Now, THAT is the associate's bad judgment right there. I get that that HAVE to do it, but they don't have to talk to me while I'm half naked trying to decide if this bra fits better than that one. Give a girl some peace!
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

Oh man, seriously? While you were in a fitting room? Ridiculous. They must have been not only telling employees to push the card, but offering some kind of incentive to get customers to sign up.

PaigeMcC

Dude.  Buying from the US is generally not an option AT ALL for me.  Seriously, if I'm not physically over the boarder...it won't happen.  Apparently Nova Scotia isn't a real place.