Location, Location, Location

emelri27

BF and I were talking, and we were discussing where we would want to get married. He mentioned that he would really like to get married in Chicago (where he's from), but I know that typically the bride chooses, and I'd really like to get married in my hometown. We finally decided that we'd talk more after I got a ring. I feel like I'm going to be planning most things, and it'd be so much easier if I was planning locally. I guess in the end it doesn't matter where, it's only one day, but I'd still like to get married in the church I envisioned. Did anyone else ever go through something like this? Any advice?

PaigeMcC

Slow down.  Lots of things can change between now and when he proposes.  I don't know about this "bride choosing thing", I've never heard that but maybe I'm just out of the loop.  I think it's a decision that, when you are engaged, you two will have to make together as a couple. 

You'll have to decide where the best place for both of you, your families and your guests would be - that could be where you are now, in your hometown, in his hometown or in Guam.  It really depends on your situation and who you really want there. 

We knew that we wanted to get married where we live now.  It made sense to us.  But that could have easily changed id we didn't live so near to both our families.  I think it's a situational thing.  So for now ,my advice would be to just slow down and enjoy your relationship.  Things change all the time and the location will come about from more discussion once you've gotten engaged.

bethsmiles

Traditionally the wedding is in the brides hometown (the tradition is not the bride choosing) but I agree with Paige - slow your roll. Its not anything to worry about until he pops the question.

emelri27

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[QUOTE] Just slow down and enjoy the ride, for now.
Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]

Haha thanks. I was just a little frustrated earlier, and I can be impatient at times. :) And the bride choosing thing is what all of my friends have done. I just assumed that's typical, but maybe that's just coincidental.

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]BF and I were talking, and we were discussing where we would want to get married. He mentioned that he would really like to get married in Chicago (where he's from), but <strong>I know that typically the bride chooses</strong>, and I'd really like to get married in my hometown. We finally decided that we'd talk more after I got a ring. I feel like I'm going to be planning most things, and it'd be so much easier if I was planning locally. I guess in the end it doesn't matter where, it's only one day, but I'd still like to get married in the church I envisioned. Did anyone else ever go through something like this? Any advice?
Posted by emelri27[/QUOTE]

No, that isn't typical. Typically the couple choose together. Once they're engaged. Marriage is all about compromise.  

I see nothing wrong with pondering possibilities in your head, but I agree that you shouldn't really talk more about it until you're engaged.

And I'm sure your friends' fiances had some input.

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I agree, nothing wrong with thinking about things, just don't over-think them right now, there will be plenty of time to "worry" about all that after you're engaged.

With that said, we're getting married in my hometown (where I still live).  It was never an option to get married in my FI's hometown because he's lived here for 15+ years and considers this home, now. 

When my brother and SIL got married, they got married here, even though SIL grew up in another state - all of their friends were here and she wanted to include them.