Never Work With Friends...(vent)

swhite2012

Ugh. I am so pissed off right now, so I'm sorry if I come across a little anal.  I am good friends with someone in my program at school. We are working on a group project right now and we needed to meet to work on it this morning. She wanted to meet at 8am and I wanted to meet later, but she wanted to do other stuff. So I get my butt out of bed early on a day that I'm supposed to sleep in to come and work on this. I get here. She's no where to be seen. I call her and she doesn't answer. I call her again at around 8:30 and she picks up and says "I'm sorry, I just woke up..." EXCUSE ME? I got my a$$ out of bed this morning because YOU wanted to do this early and you can't even get up for it?

She's just super frustrating. She is always late and has no respect for other people's time. She thinks that 10 minutes late is no big deal. Well I'm sorry that you don't understand what responsibilities are, but I have two jobs while going to school full time in a rigorous program. I value my time and I do a lot to make sure I get everything done that I need to.

It's just so frustrating because she is a really good friend, and we get along really well when we're not working together. I don't want to mess up the friendship by telling her off, so I'm venting to you ladies here. Thanks for listening

DanieKA

That sucks! I know how you feel. I have a good friend who is chronically late for no good reason. It makes it hard to count on her for anything at all. It's crazy what people think isn't important and doesn't really matter (your time). I always try to avoid situations where my time is compromised by her. I only hang out with her now when I have ample time, and I always bring a book so that when I have to inevitably wait for her, I'll have something to do. 

I'd cut her out normally, but there's history there so that makes it hard. And I do enjoy her when she gets there. 

Hopefully you guys can get your project done soon! After that, I would try to avoid working with her in any capacity like that. Some people just haven't grown up all that much. Vent away! Being disrespectful of other people's time is a big pet peeve of mine. 

cu97tiger

Ugh, that does suck. Definitely let her know that she owes you a latte or a beer (whichever you prefer) for wasting your time. Play it off that way but with an edge so she knows you're serious

NurseyK

I agree, you have to let her know that you aren't upset in some not-too-confrontational way.

swhite2012

When she finally got there she was like "I get your point of view, but don't be mad at me". I just brushed it off because we really needed to work. She's just that kind of person, and it's going to be what it's going to be. I will just try to avoid working with her in the future...