Something's gotta give

IrishDreamer

*sigh* I just can't take it anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (and yes, all the exclamation points are totally necessary)

Here are just a few of my issues as of right now

1) BFF is having a baby any day, and I can not take time off nor do I have the money to go see her (This is pretty devastating for me... She understands, but i am crushed)
2) I have ZERO time for anything. Barely enough time to go to work and school, let alone do HW, clean my house, do laundry etc... something is always slipping. I have laundry all over the place, hw is usually done last minute, I am borderline breakdown
3) BF is reaaaaaaaaaally getting on my nerves. Part of this is due to the fact that I am so stressed and overwhelmed, that every little thing sets me off and makes me want to scream
4) BF keeps changing his mind about EVERYTHING! And when I say everything... i literally mean everything. House vs townhouse vs apartment, no proposal for the next year at least (per conversations of timeline, House then wedding, then kids... well if we keep pushing off buying a house, guess what else that pushes off??)
5) No social life - I am an extrovert...I need people interaction to not go crazy. I don't have friends here that see me as a priority, so yeah...
6) I have no sex drive. Zip. Zilch. None. I'm too EFFING TIRED!!! Which pisses off BF
7) My health and energy level blows. I have no time or energy to exercise, and I barely have time to eat, let alone eat well/right. BF is so far up my asssss about this - keeps telling me I'll have more energy and feel better if I work out. While I know this is accurate - I would be giving up more sleep or hw time - and i can't do either without crashing and burning

Okay, I think that's it for right now... I'm sorry to blabber on and on... but I have no one else to talk to and I'm going to fvcking go insane....Thanks ladies~!!

Elle1036

*hugs*

becunning2

I'm so sorry you're so stressed Irish. It doesn't make anything better. Where are you in your program?  Do you have a break coming up? (Can you take a break?)

Is your sanity worth taking a lighter class load?  

Can you take time for yourself to join a calming kind of group or something?  Like, trying out yoga or meditation or swimming or some other kind of solo relaxing kind of activity?

The stress won't help your ability to get a sex drive, communicate with boyfriend, and set up some firmer expectations for wants, so I'd really focus on how to tackle your stress so you can more calmly address the other issues.

and....

HUGS!

and... a cute kitten in a pumpkin costume!

Swazzle

I hope you feel at least a teensy bit better getting it all out Irish!! 

Sending you GREAT BIG HUGSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!

lunarsongbird

I'm at work now- so I can't really type much...
But have you tried the 5 HTP I sent yet? I really think it might help!

::hugs::

motoLyn

Irish I feel for you cause I have been there.  There is light at the end of the tunnel.  *Hugs* it is evil but you will come out the other end wiser and stronger.

karlee4ever

If it helps to know that you're not alone, you're not. I'm with you on nearly all of that. I love the idea of trying yoga or pilates like liv suggested. We should look into some programs in our cities. As for no engagement for a year... Well that year will go by really fast esp with a new house. Also pretty much agree with everything liv said. Maybe trying to be more intimate you can relieve stress that way??

peekaboo2011

*hugs*

I need to send your apron still.  But after reading this, I'm making you a care package.

Love you

IrishDreamer

I love you ladies so hard. I have been stressing so bad while sitting through my class tonight. Wondering how in the hel! I'm going to do this all. *sigh* I tried calling my sister, my BFF and my mom - all went right to VM. My mom called me back within 5 min, and then only stayed on the phone for 2min 47 seconds - I shiiit you not. I felt worse after getting off the phone than I did before!!! 

Cunning, I absolutely LOVED that pumpkin cat picture!

Liv, I've tried looking into yoga/pilates - the problem is most of the ones I can afford to go to - are during my classes or work  

Deanna, yes - but only a few days ago. BF read the label while on a label reading kick (he read the label on my tampons and started asking how long i use one, etc...) and was concerned about it being a diet pill or something... He can be paranoid.

Liv, I suck at taking online classes - I have no motivation to stay on top of it. And I do try to get into sexytime, and let's just say she doesn't cooperate. Which makes things more complicated. 

Rdr, I do feel a little better getting it out, not much, but better. 

The engagement thing doesn't really bother me, it really doesn't. It's more that BF keeps changing his mind about everything. It completely drives me up the frickin' wall. 

Peaseblossom55

hugs  I know the feeling I've been there before.  It will calm down eventually.

SKP82

*hugs* to you, hun.  I know this stuff can be sooo hard.

What I'm currently learning is that we put a lot of this pressure on ourselves.  For instance, instead of me thinking to myself "I HAVE to do this, I NEED to do that," it would be better for me if I used another phrase.  For instance, "I would like to get this done, I plan to do that."  It is hard to change our perceptions, but it has helped me some.

Maybe you need to take a few minutes every day and focus on yourself.  I know you have NO time, but take 5 minutes and just clear your head.  I think you are making it worse by thinking of everything that's not done. 

We are all here if you need us.  You know that.  I hope things get better for you soon.

Lots of love going your way!

ravenray

*hugs*  I am so sorry honey!  You are right you need to change.  What is most important?  School or work?  I think you might need to prioritize.  What needs to get done?  And taking some time for yourself is really important too.  Even if it is just 10 mins, sit down and read.  Talk to BF.  Have sex, or find ways to make sex interesting.  Better yet take a nap.  Treat yourself to a nice bubble bath!

 

On the BF subject, talk to him girl.  I know he keeps changing his mind.  What does he really want?  Ask him, and I know you have talked to him about the mind changing thing but maybe again?  Maybe you need to reconfigure your life plan together.  *hugs*  Love you girl and we are here for you  

P.S. I think I need to get you a care package too

lunarsongbird

In Response to Re: Something's gotta give:
[QUOTE Deanna, yes - but only a few days ago. BF read the label while on a label reading kick (he read the label on my tampons and started asking how long i use one, etc...) and was concerned about it being a diet pill or something... He can be paranoid.
Posted by IrishDreamer[/QUOTE]

Haha! Cuuutte....He was afraid of toxic shock syndrome! LOL. I take my 5 HTP at night- as it helps me sleep.

IrishDreamer

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_somethings-gotta-give?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:32df0633-d6f7-4508-ac2a-3313cbe9c6a1Post:3c2a275d-b219-44fa-abae-2836535a88bf">Re: Something's gotta give</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Something's gotta give : [QUOTE Deanna, yes - but only a few days ago. BF read the label while on a label reading kick (he read the label on my tampons and started asking how long i use one, etc...) and was concerned about it being a diet pill or something... He can be paranoid. Posted by IrishDreamer[/QUOTE] Haha! Cuuutte....<strong>He was afraid of toxic shock syndrome</strong>! LOL. I take my 5 HTP at night- as it helps me sleep. :)
Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]

It was ridiculous!! He had been home all day because he had the day off because of his shot - and watched The Drs. *rolls eyes* so then he went on a lable reading spree. I wanted to smack him.