That's just creepy.

RoseofOrion

So, last night was my boyfriend's brother's 22nd birthday party, and since I've been intergrated into the family, I was there even though my boyfriend was working for the entire duration of the party. And though I've spent lots and lots of alone time with his folks (that 6 hour drive down to Lakeland for his brother's wedding alone with his parents and siblings... thank God these people love me/ I love them!) there were some turns last night that just made it a little bit... unusual?

I guess I'll cut to the chase. Does it/ did it feel odd to you when others started mentioning marrying someone? If anyone recalls my intro tread, I said I wasn't really thinking of marriage/ planning anything because there's nothing to plan. And while we had discussed it, in the past few months it's just become more real to me. Still not planning farther than the occasional fantasies of the location I've wanted since I was like, 15, because... umm, there's nothing on my finger... I have no job (darn economy), we're still in school, and he doesn't even have his own car yet! All we know is that we want to spend the rest of our lives together, and God willing, that;ll happen. So I find it really wierd to here people say that of my circle of "marriage-aged" friends that i'll be next. I feel like it's basically expected of us at this point, and, honestly, I'm fine with it, but it just feels awkward when people talk about it, especially when he's not there with me. I'm used to it being a very private discussion between the boyfirend and me. I guess I expected more opposition to it fro others. In fact, he told me his family would blow a gasket if they found out we were even THINKING about it this early (we've been dating 7 months).
I'm sorry, I know this post probably didn't make a whole lot of sense, or any at all, but it's just been on my mind. Plus, I've been studying for an organic chemistry exam for hooooouuursssss and all I've discovered is that chirality centers make me want to cry.

And hopefully this won't be a post and run like my last one.

lunarsongbird

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_thats-just-creepy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:34ff7b25-05d1-4067-bf2e-61d425fc5b91Post:655fc267-1f63-4c6e-b4a2-c167f6a01be8">That's just creepy.</a>:
[QUOTE]Still not planning farther than the occasional fantasies of the location I've wanted since I was like, 15, because... umm, there's nothing on my finger... I have no job (darn economy), we're still in school, and he doesn't even have his own car yet!
Posted by RoseofOrion[/QUOTE]

This. This is good.

You're correct- the fact that people are looking at where you are in life (no job, no car, school)- and thinking this would be a good time to get engaged- yup..you're correct- they are the weird ones.

Andrew's family- and family friends'- refer to us as married/engaged all the time and talk about potential wedding plans, but it's not so terribly unusual since we are moving into our very first home on Friday, we both have jobs and cars, and the ring has been attained- and a proposal is coming by the end of the year.

I'm glad that you are just being content with your relationship right now- that's how it should be. I think his family is just overly excited.

Ollie08

I'm going to ditto everything lunar said. And please, pretty pretty please can you use paragraphs next time? Especially on a Monday morning. :-)

karlee4ever

I think a lot of families do that without thinking. Thankfully you and your BF are wise enough to know that you're not in a position to plan a wedding right now. My cousins wear me out looking for a ring on my hand everytime i go home. Chill please. How will i ever be able to surprise my family with an engagement if they act this way. Its like a lot of ladies on this board will say.. You cant disregard these moments of your life by being obsessed with being " not officially engaged ". So i feel like families can sometimes steal this time away from us NEYers. Well, happy Monday everyone!