n00bs

PaigeMcC

I'm callin' you out!!

I'm too lazy to read the intro thread...it's long and it's hard to figure out who posted once and ran away or who is still around.  So n00bs lets play 20(or more questions).  Tell me a bit about  yourselves.  In return I'll answer some questions about me, provide advice, or just act like a moron.  Maybe some other "regs" will play too! 

So, what's up n00bs?

desertsun

Good call. I'm too lazy to keep up on the intro thread. 

Hazel_B

Yeah, I know what you mean.

lindsayrae1986

i'm here.  totally stressed out today...  AND i'm missing the departmental snack day lunch because of a dumb meeting...  nothing worse than that!! 

on another note, the bf and i went furniture shopping for the first time this week...  bought a queen size mattress and frame...  my word that was an experience i do NOT want to repeat any time soon!

have a great day y'all! 

hetshup

I'm  a noob. I never introduced myself in the intro thread. 

I like cheese and I like Pandas. 

GreenPepperBurger

It's annoying to see how many people fill out the intro thread but never contribute to the board. Lame.

In other news, it's my 4 year anniversary with BF!

bsidebella

Happy Anniversary, GPB!! Doing anything special?

GreenPepperBurger

Thanks, bside! We're lying low, as we're both broke at the moment. Just going to make a special dinner and hang out In a few weeks or so, his sister is throwing us a mini-anniversary Mexican fiesta.

Hazel_B

Sunbird, I know what you mean, not sure if I'm a regular yet or not.

deburnin

Happy anniversary GPB!

I'm definitely a n00b, but I tend to post a lot. lol I should be packing for my family vacation to the beach or cleaning my hamster's cage, but I'm in a lazy mood.

[Deleted User]

I've been posting for about 2 months now, does that still make me a noob?  I haven't read the intro thread in a while either, my computer is a dinosaur and it takes to long to get all the way to the end, so I just gave up on it.

I just got an exciting phone call...we weren't going to book a reception venue until after the bridal show on Aug 21, but went to check a couple of them out so we'd have something to compare.  The 2nd place we went to (on Monday - FI got to go with mom and me to that one) offered an amazing deal (won't say the price), but they're including appetizers, 2 entree hot lunch buffet (with salad and 2 sides), linens (incl chair covers/bows), cider toast, centerpieces (FI really liked the centerpieces), DJ and photographer...my mom's chin is still dropping from the price, she was expecting to pay almost double this deal.  After we met with them, we went home and talked it over, called back to set up an appt to come in to sign the contract...we're going in on Friday and I'm so excited.

bsidebella

GPB - I know how it is, I'm all for laying low Mexican fiesta is a win though!

And I too am in that weird middle ground like sunbird and Hazel. I'm not a n00b, but not a reg either. We need a special word for us.

GreenPepperBurger

Thanks, deburnin!

Noob + reg = noobular? I don't know.

loopy82

I've been actively posting for about a year now. I hope I am considered a reg - but I don't want to be presumptuous.

Bec20

I'm a long time lurker, but I've only recently started posting.

Hetshup, I love pandas too.  I've had panda calendars for a couple of years now.  The most recent one is what BF got me for my stocking this past year.

I haven't filled out the intro thing because I'm younger than most of you guys and I know that I won't be getting engaged for another couple of years.

catemeg

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_n00bs?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:36a9c8c7-ebc2-473c-a772-24fc159ffd9bPost:6a36780e-9cd9-47a9-9d1d-bf65af765a4e">Re: n00bs</a>:
[QUOTE]I haven't filled out the intro thing because I'm younger than most of you guys and I know that I won't be getting engaged for another couple of years.
Posted by Bec20[/QUOTE]

That's not the point of the intro thread - it's so we can all get to know the new people, regardless of whatever stage of their lives/relationships they're currently in.

Anyway, hi all!  I've been here about 6 months now, and I find it kind of amusing and kind of pathetic that there's a culture here that people who could post <em>regularly</em> for an extended period of time aren't considered 'regs'.  Sunbird and GreenPepper, you've clearly been around for a bit, so I'd consider you both regs, but I know my opinion on that won't matter in the scheme of things.  Who makes these rules?

Bec20

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_n00bs?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:36a9c8c7-ebc2-473c-a772-24fc159ffd9bPost:608a0ed4-c0de-40ba-9801-23263d61a492">Re: n00bs</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: n00bs : That's not the point of the intro thread - it's so we can all get to know the new people, regardless of whatever stage of their lives/relationships they're currently in.
Posted by catemeg[/QUOTE]

That's good to know.  I just didn't want to seem like the crazy, young girl who was getting ahead of herself.  But don't worry, I'm no tone of those people who plans on getting married pre-degree, without a stable income, because I'm "more mature than most people my age".

Sometimes, I think BF is crazier than I am.  He's told me several times that he wants to get married in May, says our main colour should be pink because that's my favourite colour, and so on.

loves2shop4shoes

Not sure if I still qualify as a noob, but I'm fairly certain that the regs would get pissed if I called myself a regular.

What's new with me?  Law school starts in less than 2 weeks and I'm FREAKING OUT.  BF is throwing me some type of surprise this weekend (since it's my last weekend with a life for the next 3 years)...I think we might be going somewhere but he won't say.  Who knows, maybe he'll finally propose (trying not to get my hopes up.)

Oh, and yesterday, I bought Gemini these doggy treats in the shape of eggs and bacon.  She likes them so much...it's adorable.

loves2shop4shoes

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_n00bs?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:36a9c8c7-ebc2-473c-a772-24fc159ffd9bPost:881334d0-e5ee-412f-9cae-564c11016195">Re: n00bs</a>:
[QUOTE]Maybe we are apprentices?  Assistant to the Regional Manager?  Lackys?  Just really hilarious people?  OR.... FUTURE REGS!!!   Bwahahahah!
Posted by sunbird627[/QUOTE]

I can see it now.  Someone who the board deems to be a "reg" is going to get a siggy that says "everytime you say future reg, a puppy gets hit by a car".  Sigh.

fontassidy

Meow?

Uhmm, this newbie went to a kick-ass Phoenix show last night! Anyone ever heard of 'em? No? They're French, and awesome. Here is some ear candy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4hGYANqDEyw

heyimbren

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_n00bs?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:36a9c8c7-ebc2-473c-a772-24fc159ffd9bPost:6a36780e-9cd9-47a9-9d1d-bf65af765a4e">Re: n00bs</a>:
[QUOTE] I haven't filled out the intro thing because I'm younger than most of you guys and I know that I won't be getting engaged for another couple of years.
Posted by Bec20[/QUOTE]

That's okay, Bec. I'm not close to engagement either. The reason I started coming here was ideas for my friend's wedding in May. Then I found this board and just stuck around for a bit.

It's lunch time, I'm hungry and I have cramps so bad I feel like someone stabbed me in the uterus and keeps twisting the knife. TMI I know.

I really want Subway!

GreenPepperBurger

What always bothered me is that it's deemed 'immature' to say 'future fiance,' but no one bats an eyelash when you say 'future husband.' I can see why there's more of a permanence to a fiance than a boyfriend, but engagements get broken too. I think that he's not a future anything until you say 'I do.' But that's just me.

fontassidy

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_n00bs?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:36a9c8c7-ebc2-473c-a772-24fc159ffd9bPost:b1b6b56f-cd96-481f-8e20-34a6bbbca90a">Re: n00bs</a>:
[QUOTE]What always bothered me is that it's deemed 'immature' to say 'future fiance,' but no one bats an eyelash when you say 'future husband.'

engagements get broken too.
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

Agreed. ...but I tend to fall down on the opposite side of, rather than avoiding saying either of those things, say whatever you want. I don't really see how it's immature to say 'future ____"....presumptuous? Yeah. But I'm not really one to avoid being bold when it comes to my own intimate relationship. *goes up in flames*

catemeg

Shoes, hang in there!  Law school is tough, but you can still do stuff on weekends if you're disciplined with your week.  In fact, you should try to do something at least every other weekend (except during finals) to make sure you and your BF stay close and have some fun together.  Just take a full day off every other week and make sure you get your work done beforehand so you can do that.  We managed just fine, and my boyfriend started up two different student organizations during his first year, too!  And was training 25+ hours per week!  So it's definitely do-able, it just takes discipline!

And after the 1st year, I hear it gets a lot more do-able.  Still tough and a commitment, but you know what to expect.  Good luck!

ekathleen684

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_n00bs?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:36a9c8c7-ebc2-473c-a772-24fc159ffd9bPost:b1b6b56f-cd96-481f-8e20-34a6bbbca90a">Re: n00bs</a>:
[QUOTE]What always bothered me is that it's deemed 'immature' to say 'future fiance,' but no one bats an eyelash when you say 'future husband.' I can see why there's more of a permanence to a fiance than a boyfriend, but engagements get broken too. I think that he's not a future anything until you say 'I do.' But that's just me.
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

I don't like the "future" thing in general, FI, DH, baby daddy, whatev. I can understand why people have a problem with the FFI and not the FDH. With FFI, the girl may have no clue if her BF is going to propose in the future or not..it's mostly wishful thinking thinking on her part. With FDH, he has already proposed and marriage/husband title are in the immenent future. That is, unless the call it off but I don't think he'd propose if he didn't plan on following through with the marriage.

dwest2201

I'm not a noob for sure and I don't really worry about who is or isn't a noob, reg, whatever.  I do like that some of the same people post here and are much more level headed than some of the other boards though!

Anyways, I'm all for answering questions or acting like a moron... bring it on!

desertsun

Well, I for one am SHOCKED at the PRESUMPTION of some of you. 

YOU ARE NOT REGS AND NEVER WILL BE!! 

MWAHAHAHAHAHA!

...

Seriously though, there's certainly an old guard type group that's often referred to as "the regs." But I agree that it's a misnomer. If you know who tends to stick together, you're probably a reg. I don't see use of that term as a BFD. Call yourself whatever you want!

GreenPepperBurger

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_n00bs?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:36a9c8c7-ebc2-473c-a772-24fc159ffd9bPost:7b8aad4b-81e7-4a8d-a896-4c897d0db9b5">Re: n00bs</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: n00bs : I don't like the "future" thing in general, FI, DH, baby daddy, whatev. I can understand why people have a problem with the FFI and not the FDH. With FFI, the girl may have no clue if her BF is going to propose in the future or not..it's mostly wishful thinking thinking on her part. With FDH, he has already proposed and marriage/husband title are in the immenent future. That is, unless the call it off but I don't think he'd propose if he didn't plan on following through with the marriage.
Posted by ekathleen684[/QUOTE]

I agree - I can understand it too, but it still rubs me the wrong way. I mean, no one enters a marriage (at least I hope not), thinking they are going to get a divorce, but divorce happens all the time. Funny but off-topic - I went to this bar/restaurant called The Trailer Park Lounge, where the tagline was "Meet your future ex-husband!"

ekathleen684

I just thought of how you never see people refer to their SO as future XH, lol.

KD+BC

I hate when people use future FI and future husband. I guess the reason future FI is jumped on more is because there is no promise of further commitment with a BF. A FI by definition is someone who is planning on marrying you in the foreseeable future, hense the proposal.

fontassidy

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_n00bs?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:36a9c8c7-ebc2-473c-a772-24fc159ffd9bPost:7b8aad4b-81e7-4a8d-a896-4c897d0db9b5">Re: n00bs</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: n00bs : I don't think he'd propose if he didn't plan on following through with the marriage.
Posted by ekathleen684[/QUOTE]

Ohhh, so I have a story. This isn't meant as a refutation to your point, but it just reminded me of this....a friend of a friend's engagement recently got called off and when the guy told her he was breaking it off, he said that he knew when he proposed that the marriage was never going to happen because he hadn't been in love with her for quite a while at that point....and that he had just felt a tremendous amount of pressure to "take the next step" because they'd been together for so long and everyone was expecting him to ask her.

DAHHHHH!! So awful....

You can bet that after I heard that I went home and had a long discussion with AJ about how there was no way in hell I'd ever want him to ask before he was ready just because <em>I </em>was ready. He was reassuring and wonderful but can you even imagine?!

Anyway, just had to share that. I was so shocked and I hardly even knew the girl, but just felt terrible for her. One of my really good friends actually had his engagement broken as well.....4 weeks before the wedding. It's been very strange how many engagements/marriages in my circle of friends have been ending lately. It does make you take pause and evaluate your own situation, for sure. I guess in these instances I can see how you'd want to avoid putting any kind of pressure on a person and how "future _____" titles might play into that pressure. Just some food for thought.