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So I have to ask - in your time on TK what's the best advice you've ever received?
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Re: Best advice

  • calindicalindi member
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    edited December 2011
    Nothing specific, but the general idea to hold my horses, not get ahead of myself, and be patient for the engagement.  BF and I had talked about lots of details for a wedding, and I was really anxious to just start planning.  But I got a little ahead of myself, so I stopped talking about it, stopped browsing Style Me Pretty, and stopped trying to figure out when he'd propose.  This site keeps me in check - when I get envious of friends who are engaged, it reminds me that it'll happen and it isn't a race.

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  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    edited December 2011
    ahahaa I love that pug's hat!!

    The best advice I've ever gotten was to accept nothing less than a pony! lol

    No seriously though, the best advice was one day when I was sitting here really fuming because a few friends got engaged and I was waiting...and for jebus sake we'd been dating 3 years!!  And someone asked me if I loved my FBD, if we were happy with our house and our pugs and our lives, if it took a ring to tell me that we were starting our lives together - and I realized that it didn't, we had already started our lives and I was happy. I didn't need a ring or a proposal or anything like that...I was happy now. 

    That was probably about a month or two after I joined...and it calmed me...and I waited and it happened.  The NEY biotches keep me calm...even when I'm stressing.  The uppity bitches are my zen helpers;)

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  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    edited December 2011
    And ZOMG 500 posts for breezer!


    And 11 months til my wedding...my patience paid off;) LOL

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  • deburnindeburnin member
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    edited December 2011
    What Cate said. I joined TK so that I could look at the rings after BF and I had gone to look at rings the first time and I didn't find anything. I stumbled on the community and really just used it as a distraction from certain things that were going on in my life at the time. I started to get obsessed with wedding stuff basically as a coping mechanism and the posts here about being patient and just enjoying our relationship really helped me slow my roll.
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    edited December 2011
    The best advice I've gotten is to wait to get married. I can't believe that a year ago BF and I were planning on getting married in January. And other than that this board just keeps me sane while I wait and watch all of my friends get married.


  • HeartOverMindHeartOverMind member
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    edited December 2011
    That I should be happy and content with my relationship now and to not wait for my life to start with BF, because my life with BF has already started and all the memories we make now will last forever.
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  • edited December 2011
    Basically that I'm 20 and that I have plenty of time to get married. Like, DUH.

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  • edited December 2011
    The best advice I ever received was from my aunt.  She once told me, no matter where you go or what you do, remember that you will always be your mother's daughter, your brother's sister, my niece, etc.  If you are about to do something that you wouldn't want ALL of us to know about, chances are you shouldn't be doing it.
  • Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_advice-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:3c7e14ab-fc6d-46f1-8dc3-c48a73c8853cPost:e97be6c2-c213-4a44-95fb-575ba5a93830">Re: Best advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]The best advice I ever received was from my aunt.  She once told me, no matter where you go or what you do, remember that you will always be your mother's daughter, your brother's sister, my niece, etc.  If you are about to do something that you wouldn't want ALL of us to know about, chances are you shouldn't be doing it.
    Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

    Ouch! Stuff like that sticks with me, too. 
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  • edited December 2011
    Like most everyone else, best advice was when I was anxious about getting engaged and was knocked down a few notches and told to just enjoy our time together before the engagement.  Which, I took that advice and was very happy that I did because I was extremely surprised when he proposed.
  • leia1979leia1979 member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with those who said the advice to slow your roll was a good one.

    Also, non-TK, but my coworker gave me great advice when I was pissy about the jewelers taking so long with my ring last week. She said, "What's a couple days when you're going to wear it for the rest of your life?"  As soon as she said that, I realized how right she was and (mostly) stopped feeling pissy.
  • babybchbumbabybchbum member
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    edited December 2011
    I have 2:

    Don't dress for the job you have Dress for the job you want.

    Don't be afraid to live for today because tomorrow may never come.
  • MLekathLEENMLekathLEEN member
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    edited December 2011
    I learned to wear sexy undies for a job interview. I haven't had one yet but I'm pretty sure it's good advice.

    ..and what everyone else said. NEY helped me learn to enjoy my relationship as it was and to not get anxious about a proposal. Once it happens, that's it. 

    I think waiting went by much faster when I wasn't anxiously waiting.
  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_advice-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:3c7e14ab-fc6d-46f1-8dc3-c48a73c8853cPost:0f99ba1d-b660-44d2-8202-2de6569ef5da">Re: Best advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>I learned to wear sexy undies for a job interview.</strong> I haven't had one yet but I'm pretty sure it's good advice. ..and what everyone else said. NEY helped me learn to enjoy my relationship as it was and to not get anxious about a proposal. Once it happens, that's it.  I think waiting went by much faster when I wasn't anxiously waiting.
    Posted by MLekathLEEN[/QUOTE]
    I've heard that too! I've never done it but maybe when I'm interviewing for internships.


  • edited December 2011

    On the Knot the best advice I ever got was from awhile ago when I got my first flame. Ah, the good old days. I remember Cate (I think) telling me that if I wasn't happy with my body size now, I never would be. It made me honestly think about how I was eating and what I was doing to myself.

    Oceana and Desert both gave great advice: Just because someone doesn't agree with you and gives you anything other than the feedback you want to hear. doesn't mean it isn't good advice! Thank you ladies.

    Outside TK I guess it would be to follow your guy instinct because it will usually point you where you need to go.

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