So Frustrated!

bethsmiles

I am so sick of one of my BF's friends. I hate being around him at all. He is incredibly rude all the time and just an irritating person all together. I've never met someone that I dislike more than this person. I can't believe that my BF is friends with this jerk. I'm really not the type of girl to tell my BF who he can or can't be friends with but sometimes I wish I was in this case of this one person. BF does understand that I don't like this person and he knows why as well. I guess I just wish BF would drop him as a friend altogether.

I'm always nice and polite to him but he just makes me want to scream at him. It gets hard to hold it all in. Ugh...there isn't really a point to this, I just wish I had never met this guy.

loopy82

Do you have to see this guy often? It is never fun being around people you don't like. Do you know why BF stays friends with this particular friend? Does he not see this friend the same way you do?

Beads921

Ah! I totally know how you feel. BF has a few friends I don't care for (hillbilly, tractor loving, socially awkward farmers...le sigh), but 1 in particular that I cannot tolerate. He's incredibly annoying (not rude or anything), and tells pointless stories (which aren't even funny) that usually aren't even true, or have been embellished to the point of being complete lies. BF and his friends don't really like this guy either, but he kind of hangs around anyway. I avoid him at all costs, because it's so hard to be polite. 

I guess you can't expect your BF to drop this guy as a friend all together - that's not really fair. If he bugs you that much, make a point to avoid him when possible, and then maybe he won't bug you quite as much when you do see him. Maybe your BF could try to spend time with him when you aren't with him? IDK. This is one of those sensitive issues.

KatyRoseM

I have some friends that Fi doesn't like.  We don't see them often but I see them alone or they visit and he just deals for a while.  Sometimes people just don't click and unless there is a real problem I would just let it go. 

bethsmiles

BF doesn't drop him as a friend because they have so many mutual friends it would just create awkwardness and drama within the group and we would probably see him the same amount anyways. And he knows why I don't like him (and yes its a real problem not just "not clicking" he has tried to break up my BF and I. Told me that BF's family didn't like me and informed me that all of my friends were going to hell because they aren't the right religion. I've vented about him before here). Usually I just try to avoid him, but he was at a thing we were at a couple days ago and I'll probably see him today at a friend's party. But I'll just avoid him like I always do...sometimes I just need to vent though.

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Beth - you're a real person now!    Like the pic.

When my brother was in middle school and high school, there was this kid who decided my brother was his best friend.  My brother really couldn't stand the kid (the kid had no social skills what-so-ever), but my bro was too nice to tell him to get lost.  He and his friends would make plans and somehow this kid would find out about them and showed up wherever they would.  Finally my brother tried just ignoring his phone calls and not returning them (this would go on for weeks), but then he'd answer the phone without checking caller id and it would be this kid.  The kid knew he wasn't welcome and even commented to everyone, but he acted like he didn't care and just kept doing it.  It took the kid moving away to go to college before my bro finally got rid of him.

There's always going to be someone you don't like being around when there's a group of people.  I think you're doing the right thing by just trying to avoid this person when you can.  And certainly continue to vent to us, because there is nothing worse than keeping things bottled up inside.