howdy, folks! how's it going?

[Deleted User]

it's been a crazy 3 weeks... had my birthday, my son's birthday and a few other friend's birthdays too (all of us Valentine's day babies lol )

Any new engagements I haven't been made aware of? Nothing on my end except my BF and I are definitely planning on moving in together when my lease is up in March!! so excited!!

quick question to anyone who has a child from a previous relationship, or may know about this sort of thing... does my ex have any say-so about my bf and I living together? My son is mine full time, I have full custody and my ex didn't sign the birth certificate...if any of that makes a difference...

becunning2

Do you have any kind of custody agreement? Does he see your kiddo often? How in the picture is he? I think if there were some reasonable concern (like abuse), he'd have some say... But I'm assuming that isn't the case, so I imagine not!

[Deleted User]

Yeah, no abuse... He sees him every Thursday, has him spend the night there, and then drops him off at daycare in the morning... my son's 4... he also gets him one weekend a month (which he rarely actually takes him)... so yeah, he's involved, but not much, really... and not by my choice, by his...

I assume he wouldn't get a say, but I'm just worried that he'll try to pull something because he and my BF use to be friends and he doesn't exactly like him now...

becunning2

It sounds like he'd have NO leg to stand on then! So I'd focus on your happiness about your BF moving in and becoming a family.

[Deleted User]

yay! lol

I kind of had a feeling, but I just don't know, I'm probably always going to have a slight fear of him trying to take my son from me...

Ollie08

There's no way he could have that kind of control over you. The only way he could is if your son was in any danger. It might just make things a little rough between you for a while if the guys don't get along.

Ollie08

But if you're really concerned, I would talk to your attorney.

Lil B Mama

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[QUOTE]yay! lol I kind of had a feeling, but I just don't know, I'm probably always going to have a slight fear of him trying to take my son from me...
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<div>I know many of my single mother friends have the same fear, but from the level of involvement you have described, it's SO unlikely. Not like that will make you stop worrying about it, worrying is what mommies do :)</div><div>He doesn't get to decide who you live with. He would have to somehow prove your BF is unfit to be around children in order to have any say. Unfortunately it goes both ways. If he decides to have a girlfriend live with him, your son would be around her during visits unless you could prove that she's unfit.</div><div>The most important thing (that any court will recognise) is that you are providing a happy, stable home for your son. Your ex can't have any effect on your home life out of spite.</div><div>Best of luck, and congrats on taking the next step with your BF! :)</div>

Lil B Mama

Oh yeah, I'm a valentine's baby too! Nov 15th

dwest2201

Pretty much what Mama said. 

Both you and your ex can live with other people (roommates, lovers) at their own will.  So long as the person doesn't have a record (drug use, abuse, etc.) there is no reason that a judge would rule against either of you doing so. 

Also, it doesn't seem that he would want to or even have the time to try and take your son from you, if he threatens that then he's just being a jerk.  Don't let his behavior make you live your life in fear!  Enjoy your son and your BF and try to deal with your ex as amicably as possible, for your sons sake.