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An actual planning question (X-post)

So, here's my first planning question --
Fi's littlest brother (he has 2 that are 12 and 16 on his dad's side) and his littlest brother, Nick, is 8.  He's lived with Nick his whole life (unlike his other brothers, whom he's still close too) because Nick is his mom's other son.  Nick has now gotten really excited about the wedding and told FI that he doesn't want to be ring bearer anymore (he's done it alot I guess) and he wants to be best man.  Now, I don't think he really knows the specifics and things- I think he just knows that title and pulled it out of thin air.  Originially we talked about him being ring bearer - and probably actually carrying the rings, but now we're not sure.  FI doesn't want to make him best man because then he feels like he'd need to make his other 2 brothers the same thing - and he already planned on 2 of his best friends having the honor. 
Question is - since he's 9 - I understand he's a little old for the ring bearer title (doesn't really bother me, my niece the FG looks older than she is) is there something else we could call him?  Jr. Groomsmen has been thrown around - but, is there an even 'cooler' title to sell him on it? Honorary something-or-other?  Just wondering.  Just looking for ideas to give to FI so he can decide what to do.  I think his other two brothers will be groomsmen (not junior) even though they are younger... just in case that helps answer my long-winded question.
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Re: An actual planning question (X-post)

  • edited December 2011
    Best Little Man? 

    I got nothing.  GL.
  • edited December 2011
    I don't see why you can't just call him a Groom's Man (note the emphasis) and be done with the whole thing. He'll be the same as his other brothers, Groom's Man sounds just as cool as Best Man (to me, anyway), and I totally understand he feels too old/not included with the older guys to be a ring bearer.

    I wouldn't call him Junior anything, because it seems to me he's trying to be grown up. To me, weddings are all about this kind of thing: throw tradition out the window and make the little bro feel really special and included in the whole big deal.
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  • StephB1185StephB1185 member
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    edited December 2011
    haha, thanks Mutley! We're just not sure... he'll probably end up being a jr. GM, I just don't want him to think best man is the greatest thing and if he isn't best man his big brother doesn't like him. :-) 
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  • StephB1185StephB1185 member
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    edited December 2011
    thanks jeana! Perhaps we will throw the junior out - I'm not one for following those traditions too closely, so, it's always an option! :)
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  • hetshuphetshup member
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    edited December 2011
    Steph-- This is coming from someone who is losing her mind while planning, slow it down a bit. Take some time, I don't want you to get all wound up in minutiae and hate the whole process. 

    Best boy? Best pre-teen?
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  • StephB1185StephB1185 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks Hetshup! I'm not trying to get all worked up - and I wasn't really worked up, but I do type frantically and it probably comes across that way because I'm so dang wordy!
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  • edited December 2011
    Wow. Not sure I got all that since it's 9:30 here and I just got home. I second Jenna, not sure he would like being a Jr. anything. Call him a Groomsman and let him know that he is the same as the other brothers.
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  • Ana_2985Ana_2985 member
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    edited December 2011
    My sister had her godson, who was 9, in her wedding.  She just asked him to be a groomsman.  He stood with all of the other groomsman, walked down the aisle with a bridesmaid, and was in all of the pictures just like the other 25-28 yr old groomsmen.

    My godson will be in my wedding also.  He'll be 7 by then.  I didn't ask him to be the ring bearer b/c he knows his older brother wasn't a ring bearer.  I  asked him to be MY best man. 

    Call him whatever you or he wants.  It won't make any difference at all.  Although, personally I hate all Jr. titles. 
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  • katanne9katanne9 member
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    edited December 2011
    Agree with PPs. I would just call him a Groomsman be not worry about it. : ) I'm sure he'll be pumped
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