Scary!

shipsinthenight

On the news tonight there was a story about a suspected murder. I don't wanna give too many details about the story because...as I was watching the story I see that the dead person and suspect were in my boyfriend's appartment complex! (so if I give details you'll all know where he lives for the next 2 weeks, and one death is enough I think) Dead person! Possible murderer! In his complex! The place I sleep every Friday night! Creepy! As my mother said, further proof that it's time for him to move (in with me )

On an unrelated note, all this moving in stuff has resulted in strange conversations with my parents. Finding out things...I...never needed to know...or wanted to...Has this happened to anyone else. Did moving in, getting engaged, or married result in awkward talks with one or both parents about their sexual histories? I don't need details, but it'd be nice to know I'm not alone on this one.

ADTonk

That is scary! Someone was shot in my ex-boyfriend's apartment a few years after we broke up.  Odd thing was, my ex's roommate ordered Domino's Pizza and the delivery guy found the body... and they didn't move right away.  I would have been out the next day.. forget the security deposit!

On to the topic of weird sexual histories of your SO's parents.  My BF's parents kindly shared with us the other day that his dad finally found a male enhancement pill that actually works.  He has high blood pressure and a bad heart so Viagra just doesn't work.  It's weird to have your "in-laws" tell you they're doing it again.  I would have been happier not hearing that!

[Deleted User]

That is scary! I used to live in the ghetto and hear gunshots all the time! Not a few days would pass where I wouldn't see a cop car.  Someone even walked up to BF and asked if he could borrow a crowbar!

ADTonk, if your future in laws didn't have sex then you'd never have BF!  While it is a little weird to hear about parents having sex, I think it's awesome if they still go at it.  Sex is important for relationships and it's something to keep alive as long as you can.  You want to have sex with your BF when you get that old, right? Just think of it like that and it makes it seem less "gross".

MLekathLEEN

The women in my family have always been open about sex and whatnot but my mom has recently been more open about talking about their sex life. Not sure it's because we're engaged or not but it creeps me out.

I recently learned that the first time my parents had sex when the night of my grandma's wedding to my dad's step-dad. That's how she knew their anniversary. Thanks mom, I really needed to know that.

DanieKA

I have had some frank conversations with my mother recently in regards to relationships. Not necessarily sexually, though every time I tell her I want to talk to her she thinks I'm going to drop a pregnancy bomb. But we've talked about the nitty gritty of relationships. We've talked about resentment and sacrifice and the many unglamorous aspects of sharing a life with someone. It's not meant to scare me, but meant to keep me grounded about reality. Having said that, my parents have been together for 41 years and are happy. But that doesn't mean every day or every year of that marriage was bliss. It's been very eye opening and very good to hear. 

Sometimes I get wrapped up in pretty fantasies of playing house, but relationships are so much more than shiny knotty things (i.e. cakes! and dresses! and venues!) 

peekaboo2011

Awkward, guys.  Although FILs have told me that FI's sister was conceived on their anniversary with FI at the foot of the bed because he was sick.  I really didn't need to know...

As for scary stuff, that would have freaked me out.  I used to live in Section 8 housing with FI (we didn't know until after we moved in), and one night after we'd been fighting, I took the trash out.  And when I got back, there was a creepy van outside the apartment, and as I walked down to the door, the neighbor came out and cornered me like he was going to grab me.  He let me go when I threatened to scream, but after that night I didn't leave the apartment after dark for ANYTHING.  And apparently, in broad daylight, the cops were chasing down an armed robber in the complex.  FI ended up an hour late to work because he couldn't leave.  I'm glad we don't live there anymore.  And you could never pay me to do that again.

Wrkn925

There was a murder here recently.  A husband and wife were separated, husband shot wife.

While the couple were separated, before the murder, the husband dated my roommate.  SO, he was in our house, ate dinner with us, and stayed overnight.

No real awkward conversations with the 'rents.

tafft1

When I moved out , my mom felt that was the best time to tell me everything she had done when she was younger for whatever reason - it was a good thing for our relationship because there was so much I felt I had to hide from her especially , but it allowed me to have that open communication I really needed. Ironically , I found out even MORE - good and bad - after she passed away , now that made it awkward as emotions were already flying high. I think we find it most awkward because we think of our parents in a certain light and realizing they are human and do things just like we do scares/freaks us out a little bit. But it's all normal , sex is healthy and awesom - even from our parents. lol.

Sparrow87

Somehow I started talking about BC with my mother, and she explained how my little brother ( who is 13 months younger than me) "accidentally" came to existence...  In agonizing detail. 

ADTonk

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_scary?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4a7a4f0a-2837-4100-b7c8-a6e1ccb1ad42Post:535b1550-124a-4b4d-99f1-2ddcead8593a">Re: Scary!</a>:
[QUOTE]That is scary! I used to live in the ghetto and hear gunshots all the time! Not a few days would pass where I wouldn't see a cop car.  Someone even walked up to BF and asked if he could borrow a crowbar! ADTonk, if your future in laws didn't have sex then you'd never have BF!  While it is a little weird to hear about parents having sex, I think it's awesome if they still go at it.  Sex is important for relationships and it's something to keep alive as long as you can.  You want to have sex with your BF when you get that old, right? Just think of it like that and it makes it seem less "gross".
Posted by amsybot[/QUOTE]

This! It's just ackward to hear about it, lol.  One benefit is that his usually very high strung mother (who I absolutely adore) has been just a little bit more laid back! Yay for endorphins!

Wrkn925

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_scary?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:4a7a4f0a-2837-4100-b7c8-a6e1ccb1ad42Post:5b024800-a094-4db3-916a-ce37c61987ff">Re: Scary!</a>:
[QUOTE]Somehow I started talking about BC with my mother, and she explained how my little brother ( who is 13 months younger than me) "accidentally" came to existence...  In agonizing detail. 
Posted by Sparrow87[/QUOTE]

I know how I accidentally came to existence.  And my sister.  And my half-sister.

My parents didn't have any kids on purpose.

peekaboo2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Scary! : I know how I accidentally came to existence.  And my sister.  And my half-sister. My parents didn't have any kids on purpose.
Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]

<div>Mine either.  Mom told me recently that she wasn't sure how to explain things to me when I learned to count.  My parents got married in June of 89, I was born in December of 89.</div>