Never Mind

tlogar

I apologize for the original post and appreciate the advice. I will steer clear of any other NEY rants in the future.

thank you!

ravenray

Did you not read the sticky?  Please do so then I would suggest re-writing your post.  We don't take kindly to women who are BSC and have planned their wedding already.  

 

 

Good LORD what is with all the BSC! 

AudgiePodge

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_going-lose-mind-doesnt-propose-soon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4acd6f2d-f9fc-4bf5-940e-8d837ccdf44dPost:adaf4c9d-0f4b-4374-9554-18669df72598">Going to lose my mind if he doesnt propose soon!</a>:
[QUOTE]Hi everyone! I like many of you have grown tired of waiting to get engaged to plan the wedding. I have an account on the knot, know the dress, color scheme and cake I want, but alas have no ring and its killing me! My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost four years (like 1.5 months shy) and we have been living together for about a year and a half. We began discussing marriage in early 2011 and started ring shopping this summer. We went to one store where I fell in love with a pear shaped diamond and custom setting (saw the two seperately and they would have to be put together). It was a great ring that met my needs (size) and his needs (price). I know that he has been talking to the jeweler and that the ring has been cast in wax. I know this because I snooped a little <strong>(patience is not my strong suit)</strong>. I also know that the wax is done and once he approves of the wax it will take three days to make the ring. I think he approved of the wax last friday which means the ring should be done and I am trying to be patient, but I am having a lot of trouble. If any of you have any advice on what to do in this situation, I would very much appreciate it. I appreciate our relationship the way it is and I love us, I just feel like I have been waiting forever for the ring and I am beginning to obsess about it. Please help before I lose my mind! Sincerely, Desperado
Posted by tlogar[/QUOTE]
Obviously.

bsidebella

Oh, FFS ... I quit!!

Elle1036

Oy.

How old are you and your BF?  What do you do for a living?

motoLyn

Sistah you are in the wrong place if you're posting that. I read the first two sentences and just stopped reading. Take a breath and calm down. He will propose when he is ready. Till then you got to CHILL. You can do it! I suggest an activity not related to weddings. Perhaps knitting?

Swazzle

WTF is in the water this week?!?!!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

bsidebella

Actually, I feel like this is more appropriate ...

ravenray

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_going-lose-mind-doesnt-propose-soon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4acd6f2d-f9fc-4bf5-940e-8d837ccdf44dPost:05e3d356-9096-4bc2-990e-5103048418cd">Re: Going to lose my mind if he doesnt propose soon!</a>:
[QUOTE]Actually, I feel like this is more appropriate ...
Posted by bsidebella[/QUOTE]
LOL!

bsidebella

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_going-lose-mind-doesnt-propose-soon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:4acd6f2d-f9fc-4bf5-940e-8d837ccdf44dPost:39296403-330d-436f-8ec2-8e5ca8ee1119">Re: Going to lose my mind if he doesnt propose soon!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Going to lose my mind if he doesnt propose soon! : LOL!
Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]

Everytime I see someone like the OP, I'm just going to post that picture...not even waste my time replying.

karlee4ever

*headdesk*

has there been a full moon or something this week? whatthesh!t?

lennonkdc

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_going-lose-mind-doesnt-propose-soon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4acd6f2d-f9fc-4bf5-940e-8d837ccdf44dPost:75a59a7a-df80-4ce2-94be-8ac9e59ebfff">Re: Going to lose my mind if he doesnt propose soon!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Going to lose my mind if he doesnt propose soon! : 1. That's great that you know what YOU want, but when you plan a wedding, there are TWO people who will have opinions and TWO people that need to make decisions.  So get rid of any plans you have already made and wait until you're engaged. 2. Just because a ring is done, it doesn't mean you'll get it right away.  My setting and diamond were bought separately, and had to be assembled elsewhere.  Then FI had to get it appraised, and then he had to get one of the prongs adjusted.  He proposed 30 minutes after it was fixed, but he actually had the completed ring for about 2 weeks (I think) before that.  He had the diamond for 2 or 3 MONTHS before that.  (I lucked out because neither FI nor I are able to keep secrets and tend to give each other gifts as soon as we have them.  Zero patience in this relationship.  Other girls have waited months or YEARS for the proposal after their BF bought the ring.) Your BF will propose when he's ready.  Don't pressure him.  Find a hobby to entertain yourself everytime you feel like snooping or mentioning the ring, your wedding, an engagement, etc.   I don't get all the BSC this week.  I know Halloween is coming up, but it's not like there was a Friday the 13th this month!
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]<div>
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</div><div>Yaga is wise. Listen to her.</div><div>
</div><div>Now be normal or go away.</div><div>
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loves2shop4shoes

You have size NEEDS for a ring?  REALLY?  REALLY?!

Head*desk.

karlee4ever

You want advice Desperado? Chill out, really it will be the best favor to yourself. Just because the ring is done does not mean that he is going to propose the day it is done. My cousin's BF told me that he has had the ring since March and wants to propose but he is waiting for a time when her family is all together (this happens to be in November). Soo... if my cousin was BSC like you she would probably have no life at this point.

So yes, knitting is a good option as moto suggested.

bsidebella

I bet she's also the type that thinks anything other than a diamond isn't a "real" engagement ring.

lennonkdc

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_going-lose-mind-doesnt-propose-soon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4acd6f2d-f9fc-4bf5-940e-8d837ccdf44dPost:ab6d7a0e-f011-4b8e-a3e6-37441848ee62">Re: Going to lose my mind if he doesnt propose soon!</a>:
[QUOTE]You have size NEEDS for a ring?  REALLY?  REALLY?! Head*desk.
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I missed that. </div><div>
</div><div>*Shakes head, loses faith in humanity*</div>

leia1979

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_going-lose-mind-doesnt-propose-soon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4acd6f2d-f9fc-4bf5-940e-8d837ccdf44dPost:adaf4c9d-0f4b-4374-9554-18669df72598">Going to lose my mind if he doesnt propose soon!</a>:
[QUOTE]I like many of you have grown tired of waiting to get engaged to plan the wedding. I have an account on the knot, know the dress, color scheme and cake I want, but alas have no ring and its killing me!
Posted by tlogar[/QUOTE]

Based on these two sentences, I know that you have not lurked. Don't pre-plan. You are robbing yourself and your someday FI of a positive experience.

bawidget

This has to be a troll. Seriously there have been too many this week. We're getting tricked before Halloween.

ravenray

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_going-lose-mind-doesnt-propose-soon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4acd6f2d-f9fc-4bf5-940e-8d837ccdf44dPost:84691db3-1c03-4a82-8ef1-bcdb4cab07b7">Re: Going to lose my mind if he doesnt propose soon!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Going to lose my mind if he doesnt propose soon! : Everytime I see someone like the OP, I'm just going to post that picture...not even waste my time replying.
Posted by bsidebella[/QUOTE]
LOL I really like this idea!  DO IT!

thejucheidea

Man, chill the f*ck out.

We've had our (completely ready to use) ring since May and I haven't lost my damn mind yet. Take a deep breath.

So anyway:

ravenray

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_going-lose-mind-doesnt-propose-soon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4acd6f2d-f9fc-4bf5-940e-8d837ccdf44dPost:3b82991c-f3f3-4bd8-9a37-c3f3720c5371">Re: Never Mind</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh hell no.   OP it's really rude to delete your post.  In addition to the kittens killed for your pre-planning, puppies are being tortured for your DD.   Posts like these help not only you, but other lurkers who think the same thing.  Plus you've been quoted, so there is no point in deleting.  Everyone can see what you said anyway.
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
Eh I kind of told her too...  Oh well. 

thejucheidea

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_going-lose-mind-doesnt-propose-soon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4acd6f2d-f9fc-4bf5-940e-8d837ccdf44dPost:6e1a8124-ae7f-476c-9ca2-0eaa920169fd">Re: Going to lose my mind if he doesnt propose soon!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Going to lose my mind if he doesnt propose soon! : *Shakes head, loses faith in humanity*
Posted by lennonkdc[/QUOTE]
Pic is relevant:


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AudgiePodge

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_going-lose-mind-doesnt-propose-soon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4acd6f2d-f9fc-4bf5-940e-8d837ccdf44dPost:adaf4c9d-0f4b-4374-9554-18669df72598">Never Mind</a>:
[QUOTE]I apologize for the original post and appreciate the advice. I will steer clear of any other NEY rants in the future. thank you!
Posted by tlogar[/QUOTE]
That was quick.<div>
</div><div>OP, I don't think this board is what you think it is.  Take a while to lurk, then feel free to join us :)</div>

GoldenPenguin

But aren't you glad for normal, non-pre-planning, non-BSC newbs like me & Dani!? :-)

OP - Not only are you BSC for pre-planning your entire wedding, but don't you feel like you're taking all the fun out of the entire process by snooping & trying to figure it out ahead of time?? My BF asked for pictures of what I liked, and I sent him those, but I'm 1. not expecting anything anytime soon and 2. not asking him when/how/where. I want to be surprised. Isn't that part of the fun??

motoLyn

Banana?

polkadot111

Hey now, don't be downplaying my size needs! This is serious stuff!

AudgiePodge

My size needs are very well satisfied.

SKP82

Sounds like you did much more than "a little" snooping, OP.

peekaboo2011

I no longer have size needs that are unfulfilled (because, OMG HOLY HELL), but rather frequency needs that are unfulfilled.  Bah.

Perhaps the BSC is the lash back from all the puppies and rainbows lately?  We're losing our street cred.

[Deleted User]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_its-wp-tuesday-night?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:96498c3d-7830-4224-a6b0-1b31968c1058Post:4ef0c906-0ff4-4813-9dd4-7df6ae8043a9">Re: It's WP Tuesday Night!</a>:
[QUOTE]I hope you feel better! I'm having amaretto hot cocoa and hopefully I didn't just jinx my bedtime.
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

I miss being super involved in the board. I lurk more than I post now. I just don't have the time that I used to have. It makes me sad.

ETA: What the hell? This was supposed to be a response to Ash on SB. Get it fucking together TK.

ravenray

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_going-lose-mind-doesnt-propose-soon?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4acd6f2d-f9fc-4bf5-940e-8d837ccdf44dPost:b4a1b7bb-f994-4f08-a86f-229139f73ee2">Re: It's WP Tuesday Night!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: It's WP Tuesday Night! : I miss being super involved in the board. I lurk more than I post now. I just don't have the time that I used to have. It makes me sad. ETA: What the hell? This was supposed to be a response to Ash on SB. Get it fucking together TK.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
I am so confused!