Knock some sense into me please

prbright

So Matt came up to visit me this weekend, and if any of you ladies remember my dad was upset about us moving in together this coming March. Well M told me that he wanted to sit down and talk to my dad, man to man. So when my brother and his fiancee went to take their engagement pictures, my mom and I went with them.

Well that's when M and my dad decided to talk. When I got home I was dying to know what was said and how it went and if my dad is now more understanding about us moving in together. And this is what Matt said to me "Don't worry about it, it's between me and your dad." And of course, being me, I was like "Why can't you tell me, blah blah blah." And after tons of pleading, he stills refuses to say anything about what they talked about.

So of course, my mind jumped to that he had to have asked my dad for his blessing on marriage or something. Why else wouldn't neither of them tell me what was talked about?! And when I told Matt that by saying it wasn't any of my concern made me think silly stuff like marriage and I know that that's not going to happen for a while, he replied with "You don't know that." And just left it at that.

Someone talk me down off of this ledge and tell me I am completely overthinking all of this. Because I know I am. haha I need to stop driving myself crazy. It will happen when it happens.

loves2shop4shoes

FFS calm down.  He could've told your dad not to me mad about your moving in becaues he *promises* you're waiting until marriage or something of that nature.  Could've been "Sir, we were banging long ago.  Living together just means we won't have to sneak around and do it in my poor geriatric nana's garage."

You don't know what he said.  Don't jump to conclusions.

prbright

Bahahah that would have went over really well. "Sir, I'm banging your daughter. Now we just don't have to hide it. BOOM!"

csousa1

While I am inclined to agree with Shoes and tell you not to jump to conclusions, if it wasn't a marriage convo then I would be HEATED if he were my BF. I'm sorry, your conversation about living with ME is none of my business? Enjoy that selfie hand job in your parent's basement, where you will be living...by yourself.

But yea, he probably told your dad about the garage sex. No marriage. Go happily along in life as though you never heard about any of this

bethsmiles

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[QUOTE]While I am inclined to agree with Shoes and tell you not to jump to conclusions, <strong>if it wasn't a marriage convo then I would be HEATED if he were my BF. I'm sorry, your conversation about living with ME is none of my business? Enjoy that hand job in your parent's basement, where you will be living...by yourself.</strong> But yea, he probably told your dad about the garage sex. No marriage. Go happily along in life as though you never heard about any of this :)
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]

This is exactly what I was thinking. So I'm torn between telling you to drop it and telling you that it's completely inappropriate that your BF and your dad had a conversation that has everything to do with you but won't tell you about it.

But even if it was about proposing and marriage your BF actually asking could still be a long ways off.

prbright

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[QUOTE]<strong>While I am inclined to agree with Shoes and tell you not to jump to conclusions, if it wasn't a marriage convo then I would be HEATED if he were my BF. I'm sorry, your conversation about living with ME is none of my business? Enjoy that hand job in your parent's basement, where you will be living...by yourself.</strong> But yea, he probably told your dad about the garage sex. No marriage. Go happily along in life as though you never heard about any of this :)
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>This is exactly why I jumped to conclusions. And I was pretty darn pissed when he refused to tell me what exactly they talked about. All he would say was that "They got it figured out, my dad doesn't want to kill him, and everything's just fine and dandy."</div><div>
</div><div>
</div><div>WTF??!!!! No more BJ's for you mister. Or hand jobs in your parents basement. Suck on that one! </div>

prbright

I don't want to push the conversation with him because I do believe that if he thought I needed to know what happened he would tell me, and since he's so set on not telling me what was talked about, I think it's best if I just drop it and continue on with my life blissfully unaware and just assume all they talked about was garage sex.

Holy run on sentence batman.

Stina51286

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[QUOTE]I don't want to push the conversation with him because I do believe that if he thought I needed to know what happened he would tell me, and since he's so set on not telling me what was talked about, <strong>I think it's best if I just drop it and continue on with my life blissfully unaware and just assume all they talked about was garage sex.</strong> Holy run on sentence batman.
Posted by prbright[/QUOTE]

I would take up a new hobby to keep your mind away from it. Take it from me and other girls, even if it was about asking for your hand in marriage doesn't mean it is going to happen anytime soon. FI  had the ring for 6 months and I knew it before I actually got it and he proposed.

NurseyK

I would drop it. If he wanted you to know, he would tell you. Just trust that whatever is between them has been handled appropriately and won't affect you in any way.

thejucheidea

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Knock some sense into me please : Take it from me and other girls, even if it was about asking for your hand in marriage doesn't mean it is going to happen anytime soon. FI  had the ring for 6 months and I knew it before I actually got it and he proposed.
Posted by Stina51286[/QUOTE]
More than eight months at this point for me :(.