A few months ago, I started to bring up some of the problems BF and I were having at that point in time and how things were going (which wasn't very well).
We broke up impulsively, and then got back together.
And you know what changed?
Absolutely nothing. Things only got worse. About a month ago, something else changed. He was charged with drunk driving and ended up pleading guilty fairly recently. And when he first told me about the charge, I started to question everything.
So this weekend, after thinking it over, and talking to familiy about it, I broke up with him. I knew I wanted more out of a relationship than I was getting and I knew that I deserved more.
The drunk driving conviction means he lost his licence. Which means no coming to see me- since he moved in May, he's come down to see me twice (and once was for a wedding). Even though he's only 2 hours ish away. I've gone down numerous times on the train. He doesn't have a phone, and won't get one so we couldn't talk on the phone. All we had was a few facebook messages every few days.
And then I realized that I didn't really miss him. I was happy doing my own thing- but it was my grandpa who actually pointed out that it just wasn't fair how little effort he'd put in. I mean, how many times does a guy forget to pick you up for a date night because he slept in... at 7pm at night?
So I hope you don't mind that I'm around a bit here now even though I'm single
It's actually part of the reason I guess I stopped posting since I felt so weird about the relationship and knew that you ladies would tell me to just move on already.
And that is my big change. A good one.