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I would love you opinons.. I think he'll ask on Christmas!

I am 20 years old and my b/f just turned 24 we have been together since i was 14/15 so.. 6years and currently live together. For the past 4 months I have gotten the feeling he's going to propose he's even asked me twice without a ring and has made comments saying if he had the money he would ask me properly..Well within this month he's even tried on my ring that i wear on my ring finger. Also to my belief my best friend JUST got engaged and after i told him this he started telling me how he's going to spend a bunch on my christmas present and how he's gving me something he's never given any girl before and it's a BIG one. Everyone has been asking if we are getting married he's also been a little bit out of character.? I would love to hear your opinon's ppl. <3 "Love Never Fails".
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  • tuarceathatuarceatha member
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    edited December 2011
    I guess I would ask if you two have talked specifically about getting married yet?
  • edited December 2011
    When you say specifically are u meaning like dates?? And we both have at first we even talked about eloping but I told him I wanted my family there since my family's so big..We've talked about colors who we want as our bridal party and all that just no ring he keeps tell me you know I'm going to marry you right or you know I'm goign to put a ring on your finger then throws me off by saying well if i had enough money I'd ask you to marry me.. the paxst 2 m onths I've noticed an increase in how much he's saving....
  • edited December 2011
    First off, welcome to TK, (and more specifically, NEY). :)

    Secondly, if you haven't had a chance, be sure to check out the pinned threads here on the board, they contain a lot of handy information.

    Thirdly, before we can deduce if said Christmas present will be an engagement ring, we will need answers to the following questions:

    Do you have any pets? (pics will help further the analysis)
    How do like your potatoes?
    What are your thoughts on Harry Potter?
    Would you be willing to eat a slow-moving piece of bread, particularly a roll, in the name of science?

  • edited December 2011
    It definitely seems like engagement is on his mind, but that doesn't mean it is going to happen anytime soon. FI and I discussed it for a long while before it actually happened. My best advice is not to be like me, and many other girls, and drop it from your mind. I never thought about it until he started bringing it up and then it was always in the back of my mind.
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  • fridaysdancefridaysdance member
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    edited December 2011

    My BF has been doing the same kind of thing. He's been wanting to hang out with my dad without me around (not like him at all.). Says he's giving me my present before we get to his grandmother's for Christmas because he "knows I'll want to have it early" as in to show off. I know he spent a lot of money on whatever it is, but I'm telling myself it's not a ring so I don't get my hopes up. It's hard though. He told me on our anniversary this year that he had seriously considered getting me a ring to surprise me on our date that night but reconsidered and was thinking about Christmas or Valentine's Day. We want to get married next year but he does not believe in long official engagements, so who knows when it will happen.

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  • thejucheideathejucheidea member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_would-love-opinons-think-hell-ask-christmas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53bb1754-f54e-4341-be62-79f235e1b743Post:265055c1-7f89-4c70-9c98-05fac0e95f2f">Re: I would love you opinons.. I think he'll ask on Christmas!</a>:
    [QUOTE]to: tdwpg1984 thank you for your opinon you could be right it may be something else I know it's not a necklace cuz he's given necklaces to other g/f's it's driving me nuts especially w/ how one minute I'm liek yes he's going to do it the next I'm like hrm... maybe I'm just reading to much into everything... who knows I'm counting down till christmas either way I'llbe more than happy w/ what he gets me I enjoy spending out holidays and life in general together so it should be eventful and fun
    Posted by soontobemrsferguson2[/QUOTE]
    ... I'm gonna need some more punctuation in that before I actually seriously read it.

  • edited December 2011
    First off, proper grammar and paragraphs are your friend. Second, how do you know that this big expensive gift he's never given a girl before isn't a blender or an iPad or a pony? Look, enjoy Christmas, okay? Because if you go through the day thinking that it's the day he MIGHT propose and his gift turns out to be a lovely tennis bracelet or a Kindle, you are going to be disappointed. Slow your roll.

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  • tuarceathatuarceatha member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_would-love-opinons-think-hell-ask-christmas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53bb1754-f54e-4341-be62-79f235e1b743Post:7be6ef2b-9a29-42e3-9a61-678a623a1461">Re: I would love you opinons.. I think he'll ask on Christmas!</a>:
    [QUOTE]When you say specifically are u meaning like dates?? And we both have at first we even talked about eloping but I told him I wanted my family there since my family's so big..We've talked about colors who we want as our bridal party and all that just no ring he keeps tell me you know I'm going to marry you right or you know I'm goign to put a ring on your finger then throws me off by saying well if i had enough money I'd ask you to marry me.. the paxst 2 m onths I've noticed an increase in how much he's saving....
    Posted by soontobemrsferguson2[/QUOTE]

    No. Not about dates or colors. I meant have you discussed marriage? Not weddings.

    But yes, welcome to NEY!
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_would-love-opinons-think-hell-ask-christmas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:53bb1754-f54e-4341-be62-79f235e1b743Post:b88cdf66-9291-440d-b655-f2e8154776a0">Re: I would love you opinons.. I think he'll ask on Christmas!</a>:
    [QUOTE]First off, proper grammar and paragraphs are your friend. Second, how do you know that this big expensive gift he's never given a girl before isn't a blender or an iPad or a pony? Look, enjoy Christmas, okay? Because if you go through the day thinking that it's the day he MIGHT propose and his gift turns out to be a lovely tennis bracelet or a Kindle, you are going to be disappointed. Slow your roll.
    Posted by bsidebella[/QUOTE]

    Sorry, sometimes I ramble on as if I wasn't taught correct grammar. Especially when on the internet. Your completely right I should enjoy christmas because, i may get something completely different. Thank you for your input. That help ease my mind while not driving myself crazy. :)
  • edited December 2011
    To: HULU
    Yes, we have discussed marriage. As well as our values/morals on marriage.
  • edited December 2011
    Eat this.

  • edited December 2011
    Yes, when I was 14 about to be 15 I met him, theres more to the story here.We dated for only a month or two at that point ,because my grandprents would not allow it. Him and I continued to talk over time, then started dating again when I was a bit older. I do agree though if I had a daughter or in general knew a 14yr. old dating an 18yr. old I would think WHAT IN THE WORLD!...but I'm in love with him, so when I look back at it all I dont see it as such a bad thing.
  • tdwpg1984tdwpg1984 member
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    edited December 2011
    I thought my bf was going to propose on our 2 year anniversary this year, because he was dropping many of the same hints (You're going to love your present, it's the most expensive present I've ever bought you etc etc) Plus I had found a brochure from my fave jewellery store, but it was something else. Still something nice (a day at a one of the best spas in North America). We've also talked a lot about weddings and getting engaged. It just hasn't happened yet. Do I think your BF is going to propose on Christmas? Maybe. But I wouldn't get your hopes up, in case he has something else wonderful planned.
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  • edited December 2011
    Do you have any pets? (pics will help further the analysis)
    How do like your potatoes?
    What are your thoughts on Harry Potter?
    Would you be willing to eat a slow-moving piece of bread, particularly a roll, in the name of science?
    HA HA Hulu you made my day and Yes we have pets he actually just bought me a kitten for thanksgiving. and we have an older cat thats his. I love my potatoes mashed ha ha and I LOVE harry potter. and in the name of science i may do ne thing who knows.
  • edited December 2011
    to: tdwpg1984 thank you for your opinon you could be right it may be something else I know it's not a necklace cuz he's given necklaces to other g/f's it's driving me nuts especially w/ how one minute I'm liek yes he's going to do it the next I'm like hrm... maybe I'm just reading to much into everything... who knows I'm counting down till christmas either way I'llbe more than happy w/ what he gets me I enjoy spending out holidays and life in general together so it should be eventful and fun
  • edited December 2011
    Lack of punctuation and grammar makes my head hurt.

    And, you have to get an engagement pony before an enagement ring.  It's the rules. 
  • edited December 2011
    I know you guys have been together for a while, but is there any reason you want to get married at such a young age?  What would be the harm in waiting a few years?
  • polkadot111polkadot111 member
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    edited December 2011
    I can't get past the fact that he was 18 and you were 14...
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  • ZaitelZaitel member
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    edited December 2011
    The thrashing of the age difference begins..... FIGHT!












    but seriously, even though the age between can set off alarms and unless she's willing to say more on that situation. It looks as though as hasn't done anything stupid towards her
  • thejucheideathejucheidea member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_would-love-opinons-think-hell-ask-christmas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53bb1754-f54e-4341-be62-79f235e1b743Post:8f8ec7ed-a62a-474b-8303-f10a122dd1cd">Re: I would love you opinons.. I think he'll ask on Christmas!</a>:
    [QUOTE]The thrashing of the age difference begins..... FIGHT!
    Posted by Zaitel[/QUOTE]
    Dude. At 14, she'd still be in middle school and he'd be a senior in high school or already graduated and heading to college. That's creepy as sh*t.

  • Joker1628Joker1628 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_would-love-opinons-think-hell-ask-christmas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53bb1754-f54e-4341-be62-79f235e1b743Post:7e248a66-10ee-4da1-8ade-cc7c4df29132">Re: I would love you opinons.. I think he'll ask on Christmas!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Do you have any pets? (pics will help further the analysis) How do like your potatoes? What are your thoughts on Harry Potter? Would you be willing to eat a slow-moving piece of bread, particularly a roll, in the name of science? HA HA Hulu you made my day and Yes we have pets he actually just <strong>bought me a kitten for thanksgiving. </strong>and we have an older cat thats his. I love my potatoes mashed ha ha and I LOVE harry potter. and in the name of science i may do ne thing who knows.
    Posted by soontobemrsferguson2[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>You do realize that she was joking right? Poking fun at the fact that youre asking people to tell you when you're going to get engaged. And none of us can do that for you..</div><div>Also, he bought you a kitten for Thanksgiving? I didn't know you were supposed to give gifts on Thanksgiving. Maybe you'll get a puppy on Christmas.

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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_would-love-opinons-think-hell-ask-christmas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53bb1754-f54e-4341-be62-79f235e1b743Post:67d6e230-b5c2-4493-a520-e931d5afab62">Re: I would love you opinons.. I think he'll ask on Christmas!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I would love you opinons.. I think he'll ask on Christmas! : You do realize that she was joking right? Poking fun at the fact that youre asking people to tell you when you're going to get engaged. And none of us can do that for you.. Also, he bought you a kitten for Thanksgiving? I didn't know you were supposed to give gifts on Thanksgiving. Maybe you'll get a puppy on Christmas.
    Posted by Joker1628[/QUOTE]

    Actually, I'm pretty sure she wasn't joking. We like to ask people strange questions.
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  • lennonkdclennonkdc member
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    edited December 2011
    True Story- My BFF's cousin was dating this guy, and had a kid with him, and she was convinced he was going to pop the question Christmas day. He was dropping hints about how much she was going to love the gift he got her, how it was some thing she had wanted for a really long time, how he'd put so much thought into it, ect. She kept going on and on about how she just 'knew' he was going to propose. On Christmas Eve  before they start to get ready to go over to her parents house, he says he wants to give her the gift, b/c she'll want to have before seeing everyone. He has her close her eyes while he set everything up. When told to open them she saw....A brand new iron and ironing board. 

    He had not be trying to mislead her and really had thought long and hard to find a unique gift. She really hated her old iron, and kept mentioning how she wanted a new top of the line one.  When she stepped back, all the hints made sense, but she wanted it to be an e-ring so bad, her Christmas was ruined. 

    Moral of the Story- It could be a ring, or it could be an iron, so don't read into things too much.



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  • AudgiePodgeAudgiePodge member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_would-love-opinons-think-hell-ask-christmas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53bb1754-f54e-4341-be62-79f235e1b743Post:969a1121-502b-470f-914f-ee5590428ed3">Re: I would love you opinons.. I think he'll ask on Christmas!</a>:
    [QUOTE]FI didn't get ME a Thanksgiving present.  WTF.  Engagement off. P.S.  I'm laughing to myself that you had to post this on two boards to try to get the responses you like, and it didn't work.  
    Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
    They were only posted 13 minutes apart and only received one response on this thread by that time.
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_would-love-opinons-think-hell-ask-christmas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53bb1754-f54e-4341-be62-79f235e1b743Post:969a1121-502b-470f-914f-ee5590428ed3">Re: I would love you opinons.. I think he'll ask on Christmas!</a>:
    [QUOTE]FI didn't get ME a Thanksgiving present.  WTF.  Engagement off. P.S.  I'm laughing to myself that you had to post this on two boards to try to get the responses you like, and it didn't work.  
    Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

    Me too, WTF!

    Also, we need a "hunts down posts of newbs on other boards" award for Yaga! lol
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  • zitiqueenzitiqueen member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_would-love-opinons-think-hell-ask-christmas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:53bb1754-f54e-4341-be62-79f235e1b743Post:488b3e15-087f-4d32-81cd-9aa7ad83ded7">Re: I would love you opinons.. I think he'll ask on Christmas!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Yes, when I was 14 about to be 15 I met him, theres more to the story here.We dated for only a month or two at that point ,because my grandprents would not allow it. Him and I continued to talk over time, then started dating again when I was a bit older. I do agree though if I had a daughter or in general knew a 14yr. old dating an 18yr. old I would think WHAT IN THE WORLD!...but I'm in love with him, so when I look back at it all I dont see it as such a bad thing.
    Posted by soontobemrsferguson2[/QUOTE]

    Ohhh, you were <em>about</em> to be 15. That makes all the difference in the world.

    How old were you when you were "a bit older"? 15 about to turn 16?

    Your grandparents should have called the police.
  • desertsundesertsun member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_would-love-opinons-think-hell-ask-christmas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53bb1754-f54e-4341-be62-79f235e1b743Post:7be6ef2b-9a29-42e3-9a61-678a623a1461">Re: I would love you opinons.. I think he'll ask on Christmas!</a>:
    [QUOTE]When you say specifically are u meaning like dates?? And we both have at first we even talked about eloping but I told him I wanted my family there since my family's so big..We've talked about colors who we want as our bridal party and all that just no ring he keeps tell me you know I'm going to marry you right or you know I'm goign to put a ring on your finger then throws me off by saying well if i had enough money I'd ask you to marry me.. the paxst 2 m onths I've noticed an increase in how much he's saving....
    Posted by soontobemrsferguson2[/QUOTE]

    <div>Have you talked about your futures outside of a wedding?</div><div>
    </div><div>What are your dreams for your careers? Are you on the same page regarding work/life balance? Are you going to college? How will you save for a car, a house, children, retirement? Will you move for a job or do you prefer to stay in one place?</div><div>
    </div><div>What do each of your parents think of you getting married?</div><div>
    </div><div>A life together is so much more than a proposal and a wedding day. You are so young and you have so many changes coming in your life over the next few years. I would encourage you to, at the very least, consider a very long engagement instead of rushing into a marriage.</div><div>
    </div><div>No one can tell you if/when your BF will propose. What would be a better question for you to ask is: "How can my BF and I best prepare for a marriage and a lifetime together?"</div><div>
    </div><div>Also, FWIW, I dated an 18 year old when I was 14, and it was not gross or weird at all. He was a senior; I was a freshman. He just had a fall birthday. We were in marching band together and had mutual friends that spanned the high school age range. He was a great boyfriend and we still keep in touch. I personally choose not to make assumptions about that particular age gap without knowing more about the individual circumstances.</div><div>
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  • edited December 2011
    I wasn't looking for any posts that I like, honestly just peoples opinions. I actually was just going into my sophomore year. I was younger than everyone in my class, and he had just graduated. As I said before when we first dated it didn't last long because of the age factor. I would like to have a long engagement since we both are still finishing up college, and I cannot see my life with anyone else. Although I am young I have gotten an amazing opportunity to have him in my life and share it with me. I am thankful for every thing in life I get to experience with those I love.YES, of course I'm looking forward to him asking me even if its years from now... even it's not a ring we both are fully committed to each other. It's nice to see that people aren't as understanding as I thought they would be.Everyone acts as if they have never been in love before. I wake up everyday just as you do and deal w/ the same emotions and circumstances that life brings everyone. This one will be taken with a grain of salt. 
  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_would-love-opinons-think-hell-ask-christmas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53bb1754-f54e-4341-be62-79f235e1b743Post:7139259c-a2e5-452b-abf2-958685cb78e8">Re: I would love you opinons.. I think he'll ask on Christmas!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I wasn't looking for any posts that I like, honestly just peoples opinions. I actually was just going into my sophomore year. I was younger than everyone in my class, and he had just graduated. As I said before when we first dated it didn't last long because of the age factor. I would like to have a long engagement since we both are still finishing up college, and I cannot see my life with anyone else. Although I am young I have gotten an amazing opportunity to have him in my life and share it with me. I am thankful for every thing in life I get to experience with those I love.YES, of course I'm looking forward to him asking me even if its years from now... even it's not a ring we both are fully committed to each other. It's nice to see that people aren't as understanding as I thought they would be.<strong>Everyone acts as if they have never been in love before.</strong> I wake up everyday just as you do and deal w/ the same emotions and circumstances that life brings everyone. This one will be taken with a grain of salt. 
    Posted by soontobemrsferguson2[/QUOTE]

    *eye roll* Honestly, comments like that make you seem immature. I can assure you that all the girls here have been in love and are in love with their SO. Granted there have been some judgmental posts regarding the age gap in your relationship but there was also a lot of good advice.


  • thejucheideathejucheidea member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_would-love-opinons-think-hell-ask-christmas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53bb1754-f54e-4341-be62-79f235e1b743Post:7139259c-a2e5-452b-abf2-958685cb78e8">Re: I would love you opinons.. I think he'll ask on Christmas!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Everyone acts as if they have never been in love before. I wake up everyday just as you do and deal w/ the same emotions and circumstances that life brings everyone.
    Posted by soontobemrsferguson2[/QUOTE]

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