I wanna propose to him... IDEAS??

emilyt_1

We've both had bad marriage(s) in our past and I'm a bit nervous to take the plunge again. His idea was that when I felt the time was right, to just propose to him, that way I was on board. He would be willing to be married t/m... I'm the hesitant one. So my question to you ladies is: What is an awesome and unique way to propose to him?? He's big on surprises and parties and loves to plan. I'm not very creative, so I wanna blow his mind. We're both cops, so we love the adrenaline rush from that, we love to shoot, camp, fish, hunt, go to parties, nice dinners, travel, kayak, ski, etc...

PLEASE HELP!! )

AudgiePodge

Plan something that he enjoys doing. I'm not too sure if you were thinking of asking with a ring or a gift or anything, but I think asking at the end of the event you planned would be nice.

P.S Check your private messages.

loves2shop4shoes

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[QUOTE]<strong>We've both had bad marriage(s) in our past</strong> and I'm a bit nervous to take the plunge again. His idea was that when I felt the time was right, to just propose to him, that way I was on board.<strong> He would be willing to be married t/m... I'm the hesitant one.</strong> So my question to you ladies is: What is an awesome and unique way to propose to him?? He's big on surprises and parties and loves to plan. I'm not very creative, so I wanna blow his mind. We're both cops, so we love the adrenaline rush from that, we love to shoot, camp, fish, hunt, go to parties, nice dinners, travel, kayak, ski, etc... PLEASE HELP!! =))
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Before any proposals happen, I would get some couples counseling and discuss why your previous marriages didn't work and what you're going to do differently to make sure this one does work. 

Also, just because he's "willing" to be married doesn't mean he WANTS to be married.  I'm willing to get a tetanus shot every so often, but that doesn't mean I WANT it.

If you're hesitant, ask yourself WHY?  Do you need counseling to get over your previous bad marriage(s)?  Is he the right one?  Are you afraid of another failed relationship?  Don't propose until you feel 100% comfortable doing so.  Make sure this is something BOTH you and your FI feel 100% comfortable with and excited about BEFORE you propose.

I think in this situation, it's better to err on the side of caution when making marital decisions.

emilyt_1

We both know why our previous marriage(s) didn't work. We've both had counseling and we both know 100% sure this is what we want. Our relationship is still, what I consider, "newer". That is why I'm hesitant. I know your advice was meant as friendly, and I appreciate it, but I don't feel I need to "justify" my actions. This is stuff we both have discussed IN DEPTH. I apologize for the poor word choice of "willing". He WANTS to be married t/m if I was okay with it. We are the happiest we've ever been and are perfect for each other and WE know it's right and that it WILL work this time. It just took us awhile to find one another. Again, thank you for your advice.

heyimbren

Are you ready to be married again? I know you said that he wants to, and that's great, but what about you? Don't worry about a proposal until you're ready to propose and be engaged.

Other than that, just figure out something that you both love doing that would mean a lot to the two of you. I think personalized proposals are the best kind.

ETA: I also saw one of your other posts about the idea of an e-ring for him, have you thought about getting him a nice watch as an engagement gift? I know some girls are doing/have done that.

calindi

I plan to propose to my guy... though it will be after he proposes to me.  It's a gender-equality thing that works for us.  I'm buying him a very nice watch to propose with.  It's the male heirloom equivalent of an engagement ring - something he can pass on to future generations.

I suggest doing something personal and specific to you as a couple.  Think about things you like to do together, or any special memories.  For a guy, it's kind of awkward to be proposed to in public since it's not typically done, so I personally believe doing the proposal privately is better. 

Perhaps you could do some sort of scavenger hunt type thing?  Have a friend or two help you set it up - ideally someone who can be with him to help guide him through the clues.  Start by leaving a voicemail asking him to meet you somewhere - have the friend waiting for him with the first clue.  Have him go to a few places that were important in your relationship, restaurant you had your first date, place you met, place you fell in love, etc.  Leave clues at each place to the next place.  Have the last clue lead him home (to your home, if you live apart) and your friend leaves then so it's just you and your guy.  Have the house decked out in candles and flowers with music on (or something that works for him - a football game, if you guys like watching those together).  Take him by the hand and tell him exactly why you want to marry him, and then if you plan to give him something (like the watch), present it to him and ask him to marry you.