Engagement ring/gift for your man?

bajediva

Happy Friday, ladies!!!!

I started thinking lately about putting in the legwork to get an engagement gift for my BF, narrowing down what I would get so I can give it almost immediately if/when he proposes. I figure it can't be totally BSC to think of it now, since we already picked out an e-ring for me a few months ago. I know he'd love a new watch, but he likes to pick them out himself so i'm gonna see if i can work my detective skills (long-distance no less) to find out what he'd like, as i want it to be a surprise. or maybe if that doesn't work, i'll just flat out ask him.

are any fellow NEYs thinking about this? did any of you others get an engagement gift or ring for your FI/DH?

katanne9

I've never heard of anyone giving engagement gift for their FI. I don't hate the idea, I just haven't never heard of anyone doing it.

zipis1

I intend to get BF an engagement ring. I just have to figure out how I want it to work since ideally it would be something that works a bit like a woman's would (i.e. he would wear both it and the wedding band together post marriage), and I just simply cannot find something like that. So I may just have to get him one he can wear on his right hand after we're married, but that's only plan B.

I just flat out asked mine if he would like that, since I couldn't think of a good way to be sneaky about it. Plus I wanted to be absolutely sure he'd be OK with it.

Ana_2985

Sort of.  I knew we would be engaged before Christmas, so I bought him a really nice watch (a more expensive gift than what we usually exchange).  I didn't really get it for sentimental reasons, it was more because I knew he really wanted it and I knew how much time and money he spent picking out a ring I would love.  I just wanted to get him something to show I appreciated that.  So the meaning behind the gift didn't really have to do with the engagement.  When he looks at his watch I don't expect him to think "We're getting married." the way I do with my ring. Does that make sense?

I'm sure that my FI wouldn't want an engagement ring and I have no desire to get him one, so my only advice is to talk about it with your BF first to make sure it is something he is comfortable with.  Otherwise, you'd probably be okay with getting him a watch or something so it's not too engagementy.

hetshup

I'm getting him a BBQ- it's kinda a multi gift, engagement, anniversary & valentines day. I haven't bought it yet.

ashleyjo09

I think it's a good idea but I don't know what I'd get my BF. A watch is good and I also like hetshup BBQ idea. I'd just get him something he would love and wouldn't buy himself. However, I think I'd give him a gift a little later after we got engaged. Kinda like a Thank you or I love you gift...not necessarily an engagement gift where you would gift it 5 min after he proposed. Just my thoughts...

Acrosthec

I've heard of this before, but didn't really get FI a gift.  Right about the time he proposed was when our roof started leaking.  We were SO happy we were using my grandma's ring, because he could put the bulk of his savings towards repairing our home.  To do my part, the bulk of my paychecks went towards paying the mortgage, bills, insurance, and taxes on our home for Nov/Dec/Jan.  So basically, we gave each other a new roof without defaulting on our mortgage or bills, and I got an heirloom ring out of the deal as well.  :-)

bajediva

hmmm...ok then. i'm thinking of it as a nice gift to show appreciation for his sacrifice & effort. i guess i'm on an ok track.  mucho thanks.

when i said 'almost immediately' i meant more 'not long after'. i don't plan on squealing, "yes! yes! oh wait, hold on hon, i have something here in my bag for ya..." . just thinking i'll plan ahead so i'll have the funds on hand & not have to wait another month or two to work it into the budget.

@acrossthec: thank you grandma!

lzimm13

Lol I'm buying him a new phone. I asked him what he would want and thats what he said. I keep prodding him asking if he wants a nice new guitar or something a little more substantial, he keeps going back to the phone....theres I guitar I know he wants...I might just go and get it anyway!

rickylee244

I got him an "engagement gift".  FI is an avid scuba diver, does it for work and for fun.  Well, I made a promise to him, that after we got engaged I would learn how to scuba dive - And I did!  It wasnt a "gift" persay, but now I can enjoy the thing that he loves to do with him. 

oceana919

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[QUOTE]I got him an "engagement gift".  FI is an avid scuba diver, does it for work and for fun.  Well, I made a promise to him, that after we got engaged I would learn how to scuba dive - And I did!  It wasnt a "gift" persay, but now I can enjoy the thing that he loves to do with him. 
Posted by rickylee244[/QUOTE]

LIAR. You got your C-card so you could dive with me and Jen. :P