Crummy News - Vent

kellyt89

So as I've probably written ad nauseum on this board, BF and I are LD by 6 hours. We haven't seen each other since November 14th. He was tentatively planning to visit next Friday if he didn't have any rehearsals Friday afternoon (since he'd be taking a bus and has a performance Sunday afternoon). Well, lo and behold, he has a rehearsal from 2 to 4 on Friday. So now we won't see each other until the 29th or 30th of January, when I'm visiting his house for New Years.

This is the longest we'll have gone without seeing each other yet - around 6 1/2 weeks. Also, when I'm at his house, I sleep in his room and he sleeps in the basement because his parents are super conservative. Stupid me had already started to think about things we could do next weekend, even though I knew that it wasn't set in stone.

I'm just so sick of being LD and never seeing each other. The whole thing will be done in a month and a half - I'll be 45 minutes away from him and we'll be able to see each other whenever we want. I guess I was just really looking forward to seeing him, even if it was only for 2 days.

This will probably be a post and run because I like to sleep when I'm sad...but any LOLcats or advice/commiseration would be appreciated when I come back on tomorrow.

bethsmiles

*hugs* I remember what it was like to do LD with BF. We were nine hours apart and only go to see each other once every 6 - 8 weeks. Its hard but just keep in mind that it will be over soon.

HULU

-hugs-

LD sucks, I agree. I last saw FI a month ago (November), and before that, it was August. Before that? December. 8 months. It. blew. HARD. I'm not very good with words of wisdom or anything like that, but I send hugs and LOLcats your way!

According to Google Maps, we're 2,039 miles apart.

caitlin.cave

I get so sad when I'm really looking forward to something and it falls through.

I went to England and Ireland for a month this summer, and because it was for a class about older traditions of music, the professors requested that we leave our technology at home.  I did end up taking an iPod with me, so I had AIM, but that was my only communication with FI for the whole month.  It sucked pretty badly.

On the bright side, ONLY A MONTH AND A HALF UNTIL YOU AREN'T LD ANYMORE!! That's so great!

ravenray

*hugs* LDR suck.  I was 5,000 miles away from FI for 5 months and it sucked.  I know how you feel about looking forward to something then having your plans change.  On my way home I got stuck in a 3 day snow storm.  It was terrible, here I was thinking I was going home, nope not yet.   So I can relate.
Just focus on the silver lining.  In a month you will get to see him and in a month and a half you will be close to him again.    Just keep that goal in mind and these next few months should fly by. 

jorja86

I'm really, really sorry. Long distance sucks big time.

becunning2

I remember how grumpy I'd get when BF was overseas for 7 months. It was AWFUL. I was so lonely all the time.  And down. And the time zones were so disagreeably perfect that we could only really talk on weekends. HUGS.

It's nearly done--maybe you two can have a long skype date or something to make up for some of that long quality time.

polkadot111

FI and I are long distance as well. Right now we're only 2 hours away, but we were 6 hours away for three years. I know how much it sucks. Seriously it sucks. Would it be possible to still have a 'date night' on one of the nights you would have been home? Pull up skype and watch a movie toghether. FI and I do this sometimes. We'll have skype up and we'll countdown to pressing play and have a date night. Or else, on facebook you can play each other in scrabble or farkle or uno. We do that sometimes too.

Simply Fated

My bf and I were LD for awhile and you know what was kinda cool about it? It was towards the beginning of our relationship and it forced us to talk. I got to know him so well and I ended up falling in love with him.

Not get me wrong, I hated being away from him, but at least there was a bright side.

Don't worry, ti's almost over for you, right? Hang in there!

kellyt89

Thanks for all the kind words everyone. I had no idea that so many of you were LD or had been in the past. Knowing other people "get it" actually really helpd.

HULU, how far are you and FI that you didn't see him for 8 months? Your story definitely put my dinky 7 weeks in perspective, especially since you seem really happy in your relationship and planning your wedding.

HULU

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_crummy-news-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:5de5ffcd-6a24-4cb7-80ab-cd3bcc0cc01bPost:204a0b2d-7378-4042-8c59-ac768ee30aad">Re: Crummy News - Vent</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks for all the kind words everyone. I had no idea that so many of you were LD or had been in the past. Knowing other people "get it" actually really helpd. HULU, how far are you and FI that you didn't see him for 8 months? Your story definitely put my dinky 7 weeks in perspective, especially since you seem really happy in your relationship and planning your wedding. :)
Posted by kellyt89[/QUOTE]

<div>I live in Gadsden, Alabama, which is sort of in the Northeastern part of the state. About an hour from the Georgia line, and 3 hours from the Tennesse line. FI lives in San, Diego, California (which, just an FYI, is only about 2 hours from the Mexican border).</div><div>
</div><div>But I remember how it felt during my first LDR. My boyfriend at the time and I started dating our senior years of highschool. He ended up going to college 2.5 hours away, and I only saw him every other weekend. I thought I was going to die. Our relationship lasted 13 months. It's kind of funny looking back at it now.</div><div>
</div><div>Like a PP said, when you're LDR, without knowing it, you're focusing on getting to know each other, and not just "being around" each other and being seen with one another.</div>