I know we've been over this a few times recently, and I've even given people advice on the topic, but it still sucks when it's you.
I have a friend, who I work with, and we've been friends for about six years now. I introduced her to my cousin about 2.5 years ago, because they were both looking for places to live, so they moved in together. Now, my cousin is a total Judgey McJudgerson, and we have had our issues over the years. I can never do anything right in her eyes - whether it's work, dating, living, etc. A couple of months ago, I cut ties with her... I had finally met someone who made me happy, I was in a good place with life, and she was still able to find something to nag at me about. I decided that having someone toxic like that in my life just wasn't worth it anymore.
Work Friend is similar, but less overt with her judging. She is the type of person who just can't seem to be happy for anyone else because she isn't happy. She wants to be married with kids last week, and her BF is dragging his feet on proposing.
Anyway, since the whole fallout with my cousin, Work Friend has been disappearing. We used to go to lunch at least once a week, usually more, email during the day, visit each other's offices, etc. Lately - nothing. She'll walk right past my office without so much as a "hello."
I emailed her last week, asking if something was wrong - and she wrote back "Sorry! On a conference call!" and then never responded again. Today I sent her another one that said "So are you defriending me in real life because I got another tattoo (**she always jokingly threatens to do this, because she hates them**) or is something else going on? Because I would rather just know than have someone who I have considered a really good friend for a long time just disappear from my life."
I haven't heard back from her. I'm guessing my cousin has something to do with it, but that could also be me being paranoid because I always feel like my cousin is undermining me. Part of me wants to not care, because I feel like she hasn't been a great friend to me, but at the same time, it's the whole - no one ever wants to lose a friend.
Bottom line, it sucks :-(
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