What string of events led you to your SO?

BookButterfly

I'm just curious... what string of events led you to meet your SO, and then get together with him? Was it pretty much inevitable that you'd meet, or would everything have fallen through if even one teensy tiny thing had gone differently?

I'm such a romantic. I love everyone's stories, so.. details are welcome!

I have to get to class, so this is a post-and-run, but I'll be back later to read!

peekaboo2011

I'm a special snowflake.  I have no SO.  But I'm sure once I get back out there, it'll be an awesome story

jemmini6

Mine was totally and completely random.  We met at a bar (like actually at the bar ordering drinks) at a place that had a really long bar too.  So if I'd squeezed in at any other place, except for right next to H, I don't think we would have met.

motoLyn

Crashed my motorcycle, FI gave me a lift home the  back of his, but I was with the EX at the time so FI and I stayed friends.  EX and I broke up and EX started to date and then get engaged to FI's EX so now BOTH of our EXs are engaged.  FI and I felt an attraction and decided to be FWB.  (FI had a rep of being a ladies man but I just wanted some fun without strings) then things got complicated when FI wanted to date for real and one thing led to another and now we're engaged.  And the our EXs broke up a few months after they announced they were engaged.  That was a train wreck waiting to happen.  So there is our story. 

oceana919

I met my DH at my masters thesis defense. A friend of ours had invited him because he thought it would be something of interest to DH (mutual research interest). Same friend invited him to come out for drinks with us afterwards. We ended up running into one another several times over the following month and connected more each time.

If any of those events hadn't happened, I can't guarantee we would have met. While we had mutual friends, I was in a very rough patch - my grandmother and uncle had just passed away, I was going through cancer testing and was sick as a dog, and was bogged down in finishing my masters and starting my Ph.D. I wasn't going out and meeting people. The probability of me meeting him if those circumstances and coincidences hadn't been in place was pretty low.

swhite2012

I actually probably have my ex-bf to thank. When I was applying to colleges, I was thinking about going pre-med. But my ex (High school boyfriend) was going into construction management and it kind of made me revisit my interest in doing architecture, which I had kind of lost in high school because I couldn't take drafting classes.  So I applied to schools thinking I was doing pre-med and didn't look at the architecture programs because I made the decision to do architecture after all the applications had been done. I had gotten a really good scholarship (almost full ride) to the University of Minnesota, but they didn't have architecture. It just happpened that the University of Michigan that I had applied to had a really good program, so that's where I ended up going. I met now FI through the architecture classes. When we first met I was still with the HS BF, but things weren't going well, so FI was someone I could talk to about it. Nothing happened until after the ex and I had broken up though.

So even though my ex was a complete tool, I really do have to credit him with finding FI

EDIT: FI actually didn't start talking to me until I dyed my hair darker and it came out basically black. Up until that point he thought I would be a "stuck up sorority girl" (his words) because I had blonde hair...lol. But then when I dyed my hair he realized I was interesting. We started talking and he realized that I listen to rock music (like him) and was the complete opposite of what he thought I was going to be.

ejay15

I first saw my boyfriend in German class when we were in college, so I guess I could say if I'd chosen to take Japanese like I'd originally signed up for instead, we may not have ever met! Or, if I'd decided to take the Intro German class rather than level 2 (I'd already taken 2 years in High School).

We actually first spoke outside of class (I recognized him at a bar and asked if we had a class together) then didn't really speak to each other again the rest of the year. The following school year we had another German class together and I kept seeing him when I was out and about and so we started talking and struck up a friendship then began dating soon after!

Ollie08

I went through a nasty divorce and was a single mom of two kids. I tried the dating thing and every single date was a disaster. I even had a friend call me out of a date one night with a "flat tire". It was that bad.

One of my BFFs that I started going out to lunch with and talking to more and more finally decided to set me up with his BFF. We arranged a meeting at a bar where I was playing poker, and FI showed up over an hour late. He almost didn't come.

By the time he got there I was intoxicated and not interested at all. Not even a little bit. I wouldn't even give him my phone number, but my BFF made me take his. I finally decided to text him and eventually we hung out again and we had a pretty good time. We ended up having a bunch more in common than I thought. I had no physical attraction to him for the first few weeks we were talking, but as we got to know each other better, all of that melted away and he became irresistable to me.

If our BFF hadn't set us up, there's no way that we would have gotten together. We don't run in the same circles, and I never would have been interested in him just by judging the outside package.

Stina51286

Ha ours is funny kind of and long.
 
We met when I first turned 21 him 23 while out at the bars with friends (mutual). We hated each other! He couldn't stand me, he was an @$$. Well the more and more we started hanging out with mutual friends the more we got to know each other. FI was not the kind of guy that will talk to ppl if he didn't know who you were, well my drunken 21 yr old self at the time said F this im talking to him and idc if he doesn't talk back, ill just talk. Well the more and more I did this (we went out every weekend with the same group of friends) he started to slowly talk to me and I started to get feelings for him.
One night I was at our mutual friends house (a diff guy who actually liked me) and talking to him saying that I was really starting to fall for D, well that weekend we all went to a party at someones house and they were making smores, so I made one, little did I know D decided after I offered to make him one, he wanted half of mine, ok w/e little flirting going on. We leave the party and go to our local hang out where every single friend of ours leaves (even the one who was supposed to bring me home!) Yes that was their plan all along. So D has to bring me home or I was walking in 20* weather or calling my parents for a ride, so he brings me home and as he's driving me home my good friend is texting me telling me to kiss him...... and then now 3.5 years later we're planning the rest of our lives together!

TheMutleys

Interesting way to think about it. 

I voted special snowflake.  It wasn't quite random, and I am not sure that inevitable is a word I would use.  DH definitely had to work for it, and I am so glad that he did.

We met at my good friend's birthday party.  He was there because his roommate was infatuated with her sister.  I almost didn't go to the party because it had been a very long week and the bonfire was about 45 mins away.  I got off of work late, but figured what the heck.  I needed a mid-week break.   

However, he completely spaced on asking for my phone number that night.  He thought that we would just casually run into each other at a later date and all would be fine.  Not so much.  Almost 2 months later, he convinced his roommate that they should go to see my friend's sister where she was bartending.  This was all so he could ask her for my number. 

I honestly never thought I would see him again after the night we met.  Yet, after meeting him, I changed my plans for the summer.  I had such a great time just talking to him that I decided that he was the type of guy I wanted in my life and that I deserved better than what my ex could give me.  (I was not with my ex at the time, but was going to be moving to North Carolina for the summer to help him through therapy for PTSD.  That would be the very short story there.)

Once he called, we hung out the next night... and that was that. 

Elle1036

We actually almost met about 4 years before we actually met.  If I hadn't made a certain decision in my sophomore year of high school, we would have met when I was 17.  I don't think we would have ended up together, though, had that happened.

We met in college, when he joined my martial arts club.  I was a junior and had been involved with the club since my second week of college, and he was a sophomore just looking to try something new.  We both had other SOs at the time, so we were just friends for the first 6-ish months that we knew each other.

I don't think our meeting was completely random; it was the result of a shared interest.  One of many, actually.

MtlBride12

I was set up with BF, though I didn't know it at the time. I doubt we would have met otherwise since we live in different cities. My oldest friend moved to his city and knew BF from university. She invited him to her housewarming because she wanted him to meet me - but didn't tell me anything about it. We met at the party, hit it off, talked all night and almost everyday since then. At first we weren't sure we could make it work because of the distance, and he was just coming out of a kind of messed up situation with an ex, but after a few months of talking every day we decided we just couldn't give up on something that could be so great! And here we are

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Just this once I guess I'm a special snowflake...

I had been working at my current company for about 3 months. My manager invited me to a dance at her church...and starved for friendship, I decided I would go see if I could meet some people here in Denver. Well, turns out the dance was a VETERAN'S DANCE. Why she invited me, I have no clue to this day.

Her son in law was helping with food at said dance that night, and I guess he thought I was pretty cute. The next Monday at work, my boss said she wanted to set me up on a blind date with one of her SIL's friends. She'd have us both over to her house for pool and appetizers with her daughter and some of their friends. I decided i'd go...even though our office receptionist warned me against it...and that's how I met BF. I wouldn't say it was love at first sight or anything, but we connected pretty quickly and decided to go hang out some more that evening at a local arcade. Somewhere between skeet ball and monopoly we decided on a second date and we've been together ever since!

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I was enrolled at a large public university, but a week before classes I switched to a small private university.  a year later, H moved from NM to attend that university.  he saw me in the halls and liked my hair.  one day, he saw me talking to one of his classmates and came over to introduce himself.  I had a BF.  we got to know one another well and were great friends.  he felt like I really listened and didn't judge him, and he wanted to get to know me better.  I didn't know this at the time, but he would wait by the student union to find out when I would go there to study, and then just "show up" and sit with me. 

he was going through a bad time in life and was drinking all the time and just making really bad decisions.  there was no way I was going to date him, even if I didn't have a BF.

he waited on me for a year, and finally I broke up with my toxic BF.  eventually H and I got together after he semi-cleaned up, had a nasty break-up, and he thought about moving back to NM because he couldn't afford to stay and he didn't want to have to face me.  he decided at the last minute, to stay at the university.  this is when he finally cleaned himself up for good.

he still really liked me and told himself that if he could get me to go on one more date wth him, then he was going to marry me.  it took him a few months to get me to talk to him but his mind was made up.  a few months later I finally went out on a date with him again.  he really proved himself to me AND my family, and eventually he proposed and we did get married!

it was so random that I decided to change universities the week before classes, and that he decided to choose that university across the country to attend.  it was random that he decided to introduce himself to me because he liked my hair.  just a lot random, actually!

tuarceatha

We went to the same high school and had mutual friends by the time our paths crossed. We were in the same ASL class and apparently the first thing I said to him was "Hey do you know so and so?" to which he replied, "No." And we've been friends ever since.

flygirlmeg

I answered that it was a combo.  We met at his cousin's wedding.  She was a really good friend of mine from the Air Force.  I had just returned from a deployment a few days before and wasn't even sure if I was going to make the wedding or not.  The thing I think is kind of weird is that if I had never joined the Air Force 14+ years ago, I probably would have never met him.  But, because I joined and became friends with his cousin and already knew almost his entire family (uncles, cousins, etc), it seems like we would have eventually met at some point - even if it hadn't necessarily been at that wedding.  We hit it off immediately and have been together since the day we met.

bsidebella

I chose "Totally random. If one thing had gone differently, it wouldn't have happened."

I met my FI on the very first day of college orientation. I parked my car, knelt down to tie my shoe, and he strolled right by just as I was getting up. He said, "Hello!" and I said "Hello" back. Then we saw each other at check in (we ended up getting assigned to the same dorm building). Then we saw each other hours later, after dinner. We spent the rest of the night hanging out, getting to know each other. We stayed friends from that day up until the month we started dating - about 3 years!

The thing is, I was accepted into both of my colleges of choice. If I had gone to the other, not the one I ended up attending, I never would have met him!

doubleSS07

I would say that our meeting was chance..we met outside the dance club at Harrah's in Lake Tahoe.  I was wasted and so was he but for some reason I can clearly remember the moment our eyes met when we were passing and I felt something like "whoa" and it was the weirdest thing ever.  He lived 1 1/2 hours from me so I never thought much of dating him but he kept calling and texting so like a year later when he said he was coming down for training for work, I gave in and said ok to meeting up again.  Incidentally, his work training facility was a block from my apratment, so who knows if we would have run in to each other.

Our first official date was great, even after I spilled an entire soda on my lap, so embarrasing!  We saw each other a couple more times and he invited me to come stay the weekend at his house...that's where it got ugly.  I figured out that he had a GF, he said on again off again, I said I don't care its the same to me and that I didn't want the drama.  I was single and tired of crappy men and wasn't about to get involved with all that.  I didn't speak to him for a year, even though he kept trying to contacting me.  One day he called and left a message saying he'd broken up with GF and he'd been single for the last 6 months and couldn't get me out of his head and would I give him another chance.  Reluctantly and only after getting the "a girls gotta eat" routine from my bestie did I give in.  He drove 1 1/2 hours each way to take me to a dinner and a movie and we've been inseperable ever since.

polkadot111

FI worked at a little bookstore. I was hired there, and he came back to work for the Christmas season during one of his breaks. We met then. If I wouldn't have been hired or if our manager wouldn't have scheduled us during the same times, we wouldnt be together. I actually thought he was an old man or something because of his work locker decorations.

csousa1

Special snowflake here. I know I've told this story incessantly....butttt I'm going to tell it again It's going to be super long, since you asked for details. Feel free to skip!

BF is my BFF's old BFF. Here, I'll use names - Jon and my bestie Lindsey used to be biffles - from the age of 17 through 25 (when Jon and I got together and, uh, kinda ruined things for a bit - although they are friends again now).

They met because Jon dated Lindsey's BFF in high school, Lisa. Jon gave up a couple of football scholarships to stay close to Lisa, and she dumped him two months later because she was bored and wanted to be single in college. Lindsey and her other friends thought Lisa handled it like crap, so they continued to be friends with Jon - even though it pissed Lisa off. Jon and Lindsey became best friends.

Fast forward to my senior year of college. I went to a school in RI, and Jon happened to live around the corner with his GF at the time. She even worked at the same restaurant I did for a while, but we had opposite schedules for the short while that our time there overlapped. Jon worked with the BF of one of my sorority sisters. For all I know, we ran into each other at some point down there - it's highly likely.

Lindsey started working at my Bertucci's right before my senior year, and I loved her. I was kind of in my own world at the time, hanging out with college friends, so I didn't make as much time to hang out with her (and her best friend Jon that she talked about), as much as I would have liked. But she did get an earful every shift about my crappy then-BF and how miserable I was.

Three months after graduation, crappy then-BF and I break up. I am distraught the following weekend, so Lindsey invites me to a party. I decide to go, and at the party another work friend of ours is oodling over this "wicked hawt" guy in the corner - Jon. I take one look at him (standing with his GF), and say, "I dunno, he's cute, but he looks miserable and pissed off."

Over the next year, Jon and I ran into each other at parties and nights out with that group of friends, and we had a very bantering relationship - always trying to one-up each other on teasing. His GF hated me, and was convinced he was cheating on her with me. Little did I know, he did have a crush on me the entire time.

In December of 2008, Jon and his GF broke up. Meanwhile, Lindsey and her FI had also broken up. She was thrilled to have her bestie back, all to herself, with no SOs to worry about. Three days after Christmas, we all go out to a bar. Lindsey is heavily intoxitated and taking serious issue with the girl that Jon is talking to. I try to tell her that it is just an old friend of his that he's catching up with, and I'm sure he won't be taking her home. She badgers me to go talk to him about it until I finally give up and walk outside. This was the conversation.

Me: "Hey! How's the flirting going, big guy? You know you can do better, right?"
Jon: "Yea, she's just a friend. I have my eye on someone else anyway." <Insert very telling nod/eye twinkle here />
Me: *turn to look behind me* "Who? Me?! Nahh..."
Jon: "You seriously haven't noticed that I've had a thing for you all this time?"

He proceeded to hoist me onto a nearby table and give me the best, most romantic kiss I'd ever experienced.

I told him it would ruin both of our frienships with Lindsey, so I wasn't willing to risk it. When she did find out, sure enough, she made it clear that she was not okay with it at all. In fairness to her, her life was not great at that point and she wasn't looking at things clearly. She also really thought we would end up hurting each other, with good reason. Jon told me that if he couldn't be my boyfriend, then he was going to be my best friend - he just wanted me in his life.

So, over the next few  months, Jon and I talked every day, all day long. We shared things with each other we had never shared with anyone before. We started falling for each other, but I was terrified of getting serious, and of losing my best friend, so I refused to give in to my feelings.

Then, on Valentine's day, out of the blue Lindsey invites us both out to a bar with her and her date. Since she had been trying to keep us apart all that time, we thought maybe she'd had a breakthrough. Then, Jon misunderstood a conversation with her that night, and told me that he thought she'd changed her mind and would be okay with us dating. I was thrilled, and let him come home with me that night. We did nothing more than kiss and snuggle, but it was an awesome night.

In the morning, he kissed me goodbye and said he was excited to see what happened next. After talking to Lindsey later that day and realizing she'd never said she was okay with it, I freaked out and called Jon. I was mad at him because I thought he had lied to be able to spend the night, and I let fear take over and told him it was never going to happen between us. He was upset, and left on an impromptu two-week vacation to Florida the next day.

My life kinda fell apart while he was gone. I got laid off, totaled my car, and found out my aunt had cancer. I called him upset one night, and he said he'd be on the next flight home. I told him no, but started to realize I may have made a mistake in dismissing him.

A couple of weeks after he got back, we all went to a St. Patty's Day parade together. On the way there, my sister got lost. Jon saw how nervous I was about trying to find her and give her directions (my sis gets panicky with directions), and took off running to meet up with her. By the time I met up with them, they were chilling and having a beer together at the first bar. She told me he was a keeper. My sister has never liked any other guy in my life - no joke.

I realized that day that I had fallen for him - interestingly enough, he later told me that the night before was when he knew he was in love with me. We were attached at the hip the entire day, which did not escape Lindsey's notice. She started complaining about it to my sister and another friend, and they told her she was being ridiculous and to let us do what we wanted. She finally saw reason, and sat Jon down later and told him to go for whatever made him happy. So he called me and asked me out on our first date.

On our way home from our first date, it was raining and his back right tire blew out as he rounded a corner. We spun out of control, slamming into a telephone pole, flipping and eventually landing right side up on someone's front lawn, inches away from a giant oak tree. We jumped out of the car -

Jon: "Oh my God, are you okay??"
Me: "Yes, I'm fine. Are you okay?"
Jon: *Grabs me and hugs me* "I'm fine. That was the worst three seconds of my life, not knowing if you were okay. I love you, Courtney."
Me: "What?? Jon, you just went through a shock, you might not mean that yet."
Jon: "No, I mean it. I love you. I know I just almost killed you, but....will you please agree to be my girlfriend now?"

And the rest is history  Yes, I realize this is the cheesiest story in history, but I've come to terms with that. Clearly the universe was prepared to go gang-busters to get us together.

bethsmiles

If we hadn't both decided to go to Montana State our freshman year of college and both been assigned to the same dorm we probably wouldn't have met.

GoldenPenguin

I voted special snowflake... we met in high school & dated when we were 15 & 16 years old - before either one of us had our lisences, I had terrible hair & no fashion sense, and he had acne, braces & total boy-band bleached blonde hair. I'm pretty sure we broke up because we just stopped talking to each other - because clearly, that's what you do when you're 15/16.

We reconnected on Facebook, decided we should hang out at some point when we were both in Maine, planned it - then I realized that it was a real date. He picked me up at my parent's house & drove us 1.5 hours to a fancy restaurant on the ocean, where we spent a good 4+ hours talking, then he brought me home. And we've been together ever since.

audrewuh

I was trying to get away from a bad group of friends and decided to join a student orgainzation and the encouragement of the guy I was FWB-ing with. I needed to get away from him, but it was hard when his friends were my only friends. 

I joined this group, thought he was super cute and sexy, but would never go for me, so I went for his bff. We dated (11 days) and I couldn't stand being so attracted to BF so I broke up with his BFF. BF was spilling to me about how he was over this girl that had turned him down a few weeks ago and I told him good, someone likes you (It sounds so childish, but it worked!). The next day, we were with friends watching a movie, he reached over and held my hand. He asked me out on our first date a month later, since I really wanted to make sure I liked him and wasn't just an emotional wreck. The rest is history!

His BFF was furious when he found out we were talking about dating each other since I had just broken up with him a few weeks before. They got into a huge fight and just made up about 6 months ago. Now things are back to normal, but it took a year and a half. Silly boys.

wink0erin

(Sorry in advance, I always write this out the long way because I find it hilarious)

I moved back near my hometown when I graduated and was having trouble finding new friends and fitting in, but I guess one day BF's brother randomly messaged me on facebook to see if I wanted to hang out with some other old friends (we were all friends in middle and high school). We all met up and had a blast, and ended up hanging out frequently over the next few months.

I was the DD one evening and went to pick up BF's brother at his house... he told me to walk on in and wait for him while he got ready. So I walked on in... and BF was sitting on the couch playing a game (they lived together). He looked at me all confused and said "Uhhhhhh... can I help you?" To which I responded (kind of freaked out) "I'm here to pick up *last name*"  BF said "I'm *last name*!!" I whimpered out "Your brother" and it was TERRIBLY awkward... I just stood in the doorway until BF said I could sit down and pointed at the computer chair. BF's brother's GF showed up shortly after that and I was so relieved.

Couple months later BF's brother's GF was having her 21st birthday in another town (45 min drive) and they invited me to join. BF's brother insisted that I come, even though I didn't really want to... I ended up going after a couple of his friends pretty much begged me. At the party I stood around with friends for a while but ended up in the kitchen. I noticed BF standing in the corner talking to a handful of girls but didn't pay him much attention because I was on a mission for jello shots.

On my way back out of the kitchen though, BF stopped mid-sentence in his convo with the girls, stepped through two of them, put out his hand for a handshake and said "Hi, I'm Stephen." I gave a blank stare and "I know." before I shook his hand. For the next hour he kept trying to talk to me, and kept asking me to dance... and I kept saying "I don't dance." I eventually caved in (after some drinks) and we ended up talking ALL night. 

After that we talked every day. I was a texter and he wasn't, but he added a texting plan to his phone within a week of meeting me. We saw each other at least once a week and spoke every day for months. At the time we met he was separated and going through a divorce, which was finalized a couple months later. After that he was still hesitant to jump into a relationship and I was afraid of getting hurt, so we kept it all quiet for quite a while. Eventually we made it official... and now I live with him, in the same house I waltzed right into unannounced almost 3 years ago!!

I got his brother for Secret Santa this year and I've considered writing him a thankyou note! lol

lennonkdc

We were totally random, and I don't think that if we had worked at the same restaurant we would have met at all. I started hosting at this one place and I hated it, I wanted to quit many times, but didn't. BF was planning on moving to California and cooking out there, he actually had an offer from a pretty good place in San Fran, but needed to save up some money. So he took a cooking job at the place I was working. The minute I saw him, I was  hooked. I wouldn't say that it was love at first sight, but more like 'I really need to get to know you' feeling. We worked together for 3 months, hung out from time to time, but nothing really happened. I quit for a bar tending job a few cities over. Well about a month after I quit, I was randomly drinking at the bar the workers from the restaurant hung out at, and we ran into eachother. We talked and it turns out that the bar I was working out was at the end of his street. He came down to visit me the next day, and had we went out for drinks once I got off. The next night we had our first 'date' and from then on we've been together. Its been almost 9 years, and I still think if I had quit, or if he had more money saved, we would never have met. 

wink0erin

Cliffs notes version:

I met BF through his brother, who may or may not have had a thing for me at the time, even though he had a GF (now FI). At one point I barged into BF's house to pick up his brother (I now live there) which was incredibly awkward. Officially met BF at his brother's GF's birthday party a few months later, where a tipsy recently separated BF blew off a handful of chicks he was talking to just to say hi to me, and kept flirting until I gave in and decided to talk to him.  

kaitlynmichelle

BF and I met in highschool.  Our parents worked at the hospital together and had known each other pretty much our whole lives but we'd never officially met.  I started noticing him in a lot of my classes/band when I was in grade 11, he was in 12.  

BF did go to private school for some time before we met, but decided that he really wanted to go back to the HS where we met.  If he hadn't come back, we never would have met.  Also, I almost didn't go to that HS since my parents really wanted to buy a different house when we moved to the area, but I would have had to go to the Catholic school in the area.  I actually made my mom laugh when I thanked her for picking the house she did so that we could end up meeting each other.

As to how we actually started dating, I thought he was really cute and started chatting with him in all of our classes.  He was (and still sometimes is) really shy so nothing happened for a bit.  We started hanging out after school and working on music projects together.   He told me that he'd wanted to talk to me for ages but was just too shy.  So no fun story as to how we met really, but I think it was sweet.

He did end up asking me out, and its almost been 7 years.  Being together changed a lot in my life too.  I really doubt I'd be living out in BC if we weren't together, and its been an awesome year out here.

Beads921

I'd say it's a mixture of the 2.

My friend was dating his brother, so they got to know one another fairly well. It was high school, and FI had spare at the same time as his (now) SIL and a bunch of her other friends (my other friends). I had art class during that period, which I usually skipped. We also got put on the same bus route that year. I used to see him on the bus, and we'd chat when we were waiting for it (along with SIL).This is how we met originally.

Then, almost a year after we originally met, we 're-met' at a party hosted by a mutual friend. This is more like the beginning of our relationship - we talked all night since we were the only sober ones there (we both had to work/drive), and then a month later we were a couple.
 
So, we had a few chances to get together (a whole year, or more, really), it was only a matter of time. The party was the final puzzle piece though.

mymissingpuzzlepiece

I feel that everything that happens to us is not by chance, or completely random at all.. everything is meant to happen. At the same time, certain decisions you make can change an outcome. 

This is exactly what happened with my FI and I. Sergio and I both worked at an athletic club but at different locations. He worked as a security officer at one and I worked as a receptionist at another. The day that we met, Sergio was training at my location so that if our security officer needed a day off, he could fill in. We had instant chemistry and something inside me changed when I saw his face for the first time. We talked the whole night... He walked me to my car at the end of my shift and we exchanged phone numbers. I wanted to kiss him already.. but I saved that for another night.

A couple of times our security officer called out and Sergio would fill in. It was exciting to see him when I got to work. Then our security officer broke his arm and Sergio had to fill in indefinitely. If our security officer never broke his arm, Sergio and I might have never gotten so close. Also if Sergio didn't just happen to read the newspaper one day looking for jobs and found that one we may not have met because his parents house is 30 min from there. And if my dad hadn't basically gotten the job for me, we wouldn't have met.

My life is amazing now that I have him.

lunarsongbird

eHarmony-
 
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=Lifelong Hapiness

(Look how nerdy Andrew looks in his profile picture! Swoon! I nerds!)

Andrew signed up for eHarmony nearly a year before I joined. He only signed up for 6 months- but then it automatically renewed him for another 6. He was mad...but not enough to call and cancel. I was the very last person he was going to try to date. His membership expired a week after we met.

dwest2201

Mine is long, sorry in advance! 

BF and I have known each other for about 12 years now.  We met at the beginning of our junior year of h.s. and found out that we were practically neighbors (we were about 15 houses from each other in a little subdivision, his house was just around the corner on the opposite side of the street) for about 12 years!  I had met a couple of his good friends who also lived in the neighborhood and went to his school (an all guys Catholic h.s.) a couple weeks before and he came along the next time.  Upon discovering this he said "Oh you have that big tree right?  Yeah your Mom is always out in the yard and flower beds, she's HOT!"...haha, I still give him crap about that!  So BF, his best friend and I hung out often and after about a year we were close, and were all single and just having fun.  On Halloween night (2000) we all hung out and BF's parent's house and decided that we'd have a "singles club" nights when we'd all hang out.  Well that night after leaving BF's best friend called me and asked me to be his girlfriend...so much for singles club! 

The three of us all stayed close, when his best friend (my BF at the time traveled for baseball tournaments) I'd still hang out with BF sometimes.  We went to their h.s. prom together senior year, but with separate dates...LOL!  We all went to different colleges and things changed.  His friend and I dated all through freshman year but broke up that summer, BF and I talked occasionally on AIM, but didn't hang out anymore (he was living in another city a couple hours away).  After about 5 or 6 years we became "friends" on Facebook and caught up a bit.  I was married and just had a baby at the time, coincidentally my exH and I bought a house directly across the street from BF's parents old house, we actually even looked at his parents house when it was for sale.  We chatted back and forth about that for a few days then went on with our lives.

About a year later after a lot of ups and downs (mostly downs) my exH and I decided to part ways.  On a weekend that exH was out of town and our son was staying with exH's mom I went out with a good friend of mine, another guy who went to BF's school, but one who I had stayed in touch with over the years.  We went to a local festival and what do you know we ran into BF!  We ended up hanging out and talking all night until the festival ended and then going to a bar and closing it down.  BF and another mutual friend (a guy who was trying to hook-up with me, but I wasn't interested in any man at that point) ended up crashing in the living room.  BF and I had exchanged numbers that night and vowed to hang out again sometime. 

My life was a bit of a disaster for a bit, BF and I caught up occasional and only hung out with mutual friends every couple weeks for the first few months.  After a while we started having "House" nights (worked out we both liked the show and that was the one night my exH was always around so I could get out for a bit).  After a few weeks of us hanging out alone all of our friends were asking if we were dating and we both said no.  After a little longer he told me that he would like to take me on a date once I was able to move out and get divorced.  When I moved he was the first and last person there and was a huge help, we were "talking" at that time, there was a connection/attraction but neither of us wanted to start something given the circumstance.  He invited me to a Halloween party with him that weekend and afterwards we made out; it was very clear at that moment that we both really liked each other and there was some major chemistry!  We began dating, he took me out to dinner sometime in November and then we began to get more serious.  It wasn't for a few months that I was able to get the dissolution paperwork together and filed, and another couple months before exH and I got a date.  It's been a bit of a roller coaster for us, but I honestly love him more than I ever thought was possible and I know he does me as well.