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Hear Me Roar

I know most of you are totally against the idea of a buck n doe (stag n doe, jack n jill, same diff), but where I come from they are super common. Everyone has one. A girl I went to high school with is getting married this spring/summer, and sent me the usual Facebook invite to her buck n doe (very common way to spread the word). We haven't spoken in a few years, so I probably wasn't going to go, but today I went to look at her profile, and see that we are no longer friends. Yep, she invited me to her buck n doe (aka invited me to give her and her fiance money), then removed me as a friend less than a week later. She's still friends with BF, I checked, and a few other people who I figured might have been deleted along with me who were also invited. I've never been offended by a de-friend until now. And I probably wouldn't care if it wasn't for that stupid invite. 

Ugh. I feel so dumb for being upset by this, but I am, and that's how it is (as juvenile as it might be). Any Facebook and/or friend complaints anyone else wants to share?
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Re: Hear Me Roar

  • Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'd consider it a win-win situation.

    But I LOVE purging my friends list.  It's like cyber spring cleaning.
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  • paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm sorry - I don't know you well and I don't know how well you knew this other girl, so I really am sorry if you're hurt by her rudeness - but I laughed out loud when I read this. For real. How lame is this girl that she invited you to a party and then went to the effort to "de-friend" you? Party invite / FB fail.

    Is a Jack and Jill like a bachelor and bachelorette party together? I'm generally not "against" anything that's a local custom. Example: I'm not a fan of dollar dances but I wouldn't diss someone for having one if it's a typical wedding event in the bride and groom's area.
  • Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited December 2011
    I like co-ed showers, I don't like paying to attend.  I'll bring you a gift, that's what you get.
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  • Beads921Beads921 member
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    edited December 2011
    Paint - I totally realize how laughable this is. A co-ed shower is sometimes referred to as a jack and jill, but sometimes you have to pay to get in, then pay for drinks, entertainment, etc (it's an afternoon shin dig in place of a buck n doe for those who don't drink/party as much...at least, that's how it goes here). You ALWAYS have to pay to get into buck n does/stag n does. And they're more just occasions to spend money and drink than showers. You don't bring gifts. 

    Wrkn - I like the win/win situation attitude. I'm going with it. I had no intentions of going anyway, but now I feel like I'm not even obligated. 
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  • paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    Oooooh... I get it. I think?
  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    A buck n doe/stag n doe around here isn't a "shower" as much as it is a fundraising party. But Beads is right, they're *very* common around here. Again I'm sorry if anyone likes them, but I detest them.

    The one thing that bugs me (but really, I laugh at it) is the people who complain about facebook and how they're just going to get rid of it.... using their FB status. Do they not see the irony?
  • Beads921Beads921 member
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    edited December 2011
    Paint - Don't worry too much about it. 

    Bren - I know, the Facebook status thing totally is ironic. I'm not keen on buck n does either. At all. I will go only under certain conditions (ie requirement for a family member or something like that, or I will know almost everyone there). They really aren't that much fun generally, and are just expensive. Stupid. But, for some reason, completely socially acceptable.
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