Soooo umm yeah where's my ring?

jilly2121

Me and the bf went ring looking in June and I found this amazing setting at the Jeweler. The salesman started talking price and trying to get my bf to buy the ring right there. I said woahh i dont want to be here for that discussion and walked out and my bf followed about 5 minutes later. THe bf said we would go looking again next week,  I was a little bummed (ok i was borderline almost throwing a tantrum internally) bc I was hopeful that he had bought the ring but he was adamant that we would look again.

Fast forward the next week went looking again at different stores on Jewelers Row and still didnt see a setting that I really liked so i asked the bf to go back to the store where I saw the setting i fell in love with. He said fine, we go back to the store and the girl gets our paperwork and said and I quote "the ring isnt done yet it was ordered but it wont be in for a few weeks"...i was HORRIFIED for my bf and was really embarassed and happy and all kinds of crazy emotions when i heard that. But come on WHO DOES THAT? Who spills the beans like that? So there was nothing for me to do except act like i didnt hear that which was of course impossible for me not to have heard it. But im actually really bummed that the surprise was ruined!

Now that the cats out of the bag my bf nonchalantly told me 2 weeks ago my ring was done. NOW  WHERE IS IT?????????????? i know hes waiting to propose or paying it off and has to ask my dad, but come on its driving me crazy?

ANyone else experience this?

GreenPepperBurger

Whoa, nelly. CALM DOWN. You're totally robbing yourself of the experience. Just relax, enjoy your relationship and your boyfriend. You'll get the ring/proposal. It may take days, months or even years. There's no guarantee that just because the ring is done, he will propose right this second.

Once you're engaged, you're going to get thrown into the thick of wedding planning so just relax for now.

**Mutley**

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[QUOTE]Me and the bf went ring looking in June and I found this amazing setting at the Jeweler. The salesman started talking price and trying to get my bf to buy the ring right there. I said woahh i dont want to be here for that discussion and walked out and my bf followed about 5 minutes later. THe bf said we would go looking again next week,  I was a little bummed (ok i was borderline almost throwing a tantrum internally) bc I was hopeful that he had bought the ring but he was adamant that we would look again.

Fast forward the next week went looking again at different stores on Jewelers Row and still didnt see a setting that I really liked so i asked the bf to go back to the store where I saw the setting i fell in love with. He said fine, we go back to the store and the girl gets our paperwork and said and I quote "the ring isnt done yet it was ordered but it wont be in for a few weeks"...i was HORRIFIED for my bf and was really embarassed and happy and all kinds of crazy emotions when i heard that. But come on WHO DOES THAT? Who spills the beans like that? So there was nothing for me to do except act like i didnt hear that which was of course impossible for me not to have heard it. But im actually really bummed that the surprise was ruined!

Now that the cats out of the bag my bf nonchalantly told me 2 weeks ago my ring was done. NOW  WHERE IS IT?????????????? i know hes waiting to propose or paying it off and has to ask my dad, but come on its driving me crazy?

ANyone else experience this?
Posted by jilly2121[/QUOTE]


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tafft1

It will be okay just breathe You should be happy and thankful obviously he cares enough about you to want to take this next step , and it IS a big one , so maybe he needs to be ready too. You should feel happy and excited but not worry about the when too much. Just because he is waiting by no means his feelings have changed or he is any less wanting to be with you - but it is a big deal , not only for you , but for both of your lives , just try to remember that.

Many of the ladies here waited months or more even though their FI's had their ring..so we can't tell you why or when..but you should trust him and not rob him of everything. Maybe he is trying to surprise you since it got let out of the bag about your ring in the first place. Give him some credit and don't rush the experience , enjoy every moment.

hetshup

1) Ask him why he hasn't given it to you yet

2) There are many girls on here whose FI waited a long time to give them a ring. One guy left it in plain sight for a year.

3) No need for temper tantrums. If you are throwing temper tantrums, I recommend maybe rethinking if you are mature enough to get married. B\c wedding planning? Not all it's cracked up to be. 

tafft1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_soooo-umm-yeah-wheres-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7702fe72-6261-4396-8964-ea775b965340Post:fee25724-ae21-416c-989e-9c3c2bfd9676">Re: Soooo umm yeah where's my ring?</a>:
[QUOTE]1) Ask him why he hasn't given it to you yet 2) There are many girls on here whose FI waited a long time to give them a ring. One guy left it in plain site for a year. 3) No need for temper tantrums. If you are throwing temper tantrums, I recommend maybe rethinking if you are mature enough to get married. <strong>B\c wedding planning? Not all it's cracked up to be. </strong>
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

THIS..seriously. I only had to deal with planning for 20ish people and 4 months and it was enough..Hats off to you ladies for doing so much more :)

jeanacorina

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[QUOTE] wedding planning? Not all it's cracked up to be. 
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

Quoted for truth.

GreenPepperBurger

I'm really not inclined to give her advice after she badmouthed us another thread. See "Can't Not Knot."

jeanacorina

Already saw it. I am choosing not to comment on that.

[Deleted User]

I know it's not easy to be patient, but that's what you've got to do.  Since the "surprise" of his getting the ring was ruined, he may just be waiting to catch you completely off-guard so he can make sure it's a surprise for you.  If he's the right guy for you, then he's worth waiting for.  So just take a deep breath and relax.  It will happen when it's meant to happen.

jeanacorina

Angie, you're just a breath of fresh air!

hetshup

Oh and OP. If you think we are all big meanies, why don't you read some of the other threads? We tease each other. But you'll notice that we give strong advice and do not mince words. However, we are generally a pretty pleasant group. 

bethsmiles

Ok well I'm going to ignore the irony of you bashing us then coming to us for advice for now. But you really need to chill. He will propose when he is ready to. The best thing you can do is just stop worrying about it. I used to bug BF about proposing all the time. it was putting a seriuos strain on our relationship. Thankfully I found the ladies on this board and after lurking I realized I was being a BSC beebee. My relationship with BF is way better now that I chilled (we also talked about a timeline that we are both comfortable with). Just enjoy your relationship as it is.

oceana919

loves2shop4shoes

RELAX!  You'll get your ring when your BF proposes.  What's the rush?

My BF purchased my ring 6 weeks ago...still nothing.  I have no idea when I'm going to get it.  Maybe in 5 minutes, or 5 weeks or 5 months.  Who knows?  The suspense is kind of fun...but I'm enjoying where we're at right now:  I know he made a major investment in me and our relationship, which means he's definitely serious about marrying me; he also treats me like a queen and is the most wonderful person I've ever known.  I can live with that for now, rough life that it is.

jemmini6

maybe he's going to wait longer BECAUSE the cat is out of the bag.  that's one way to get the element of surprise back...just enjoy your relationship.  if all you care about is the ring (to the point of throwing tantrums) maybe you should look at WHY you really want to get married.  do you want to marry HIM, or do you just want to get married...?

ekathleen684

Maybe he's waiting for the right moment? Slow your roll.

nickchick

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[QUOTE]My fiance had the ring for 4 months before he proposed.  I didn't know he had it, but I guess he was trying to decide on the right moment.
Posted by laurenb09[/QUOTE]

Same here

torinad

I can TOTALLY relate to this. I know my boyfriend has the ring and both of my parents told me that he asked them for permission.   I don't know what the heck he is waiting for but waiting has really be testing me.  I have been waiting since May.

oceana919

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[QUOTE]I can TOTALLY relate to this. I know my boyfriend has the ring and both of my parents told me that he asked them for permission.   I don't know what the heck he is waiting for <strong>but waiting has really be testing me.  I have been waiting since May.</strong>
Posted by torinad[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry, but "testing" is waiting for biospy results. Or waiting in an ER after your SO has been in an accident. Or waiting for him to come home from Iraq. Get some perspective here.

Buck up, princess. My FI had the ring for six months before he proposed. Acro's had it <em>on her dresser </em>every day for a year before he proposed.

If you can't handle waiting two months for an engagement, you're gonna be a barrel of fun when you're pregnant.

Acrosthec

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[QUOTE]Acro's had it on her dresser every day for a year before he proposed.
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]

I am legend.

Oh yea, and calm down a bit dear.  He's probably just trying to surprise you, since the lady at the jewelry store spilled the beans and you know he has it.

Goldlie11

I think that there have been at least 2 posts about this within the last couple of weeks.  Some people here got engaged before their FI even had the ring because he was so excited to get married (like Mutley).  Others have waited a year (like the legend Acro). So, you can expect the ring any time in between.  

babybchbum

OP... my FI had the ring for a year... did you hear that A YEAR before be proposed. Hold your horses.

joiner521

....you need to chillax. You are turning into a bridezilla psycho. NOW THAT IS A TURNOFF FOR HIM.

jilly2121

Thanks for the advice Sunbird! Actually best advice on here. I dont understand all the name calling and attacking.

oceana919

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[QUOTE]Thanks for the advice Sunbird! Actually best advice on here. I dont understand all the name calling and attacking.
Posted by jilly2121[/QUOTE]

Except that no one, save for (troll)joiner, was calling you names.

And you weren't getting attacked, frankly. What little attacking you may have gotten could have possibly come from the fact that you self-admittedly nearly threw a temper tantrum when you didn't get your diamond <em>right nowwwwwwwwwwwww!  </em>::footstomp::

And ironic, considering the fact that you were bashing all of <em>us</em> in another thread.

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ekathleen684

Oceana- Where did you find that pot, it's adorable, LOL.

misskrysbaby

My fiancé had the ring for 2 months before he proposed. I know only because I had to send it off to be resized and had to know the order date. I say just calm down and enjoy the fact that your relationship is at this point! It's obvious he ordered it and it's coming sooner or later, just enjoy that thought!