OMG just shoot me in the face!! ( Vent, Annoyed,Barf!)

rxjen

On my local board there is this freaking lady from New Orleans thats has asked where to go dress for her Daughter's wedding which is not going to happen till 2012.I also looked at her posts history and it's all" we cant find a venue" or "we looked at this" or "we" "we".....WTF?!?!? Whose wedding is it?

Edited:Vent Over

calindi

Yeah... some of them need to be reigned in.

In a similar theme, I just found out this weekend that I've got an overeager Momzilla on the rise!  She had sent me a hypothetical guest list about a year ago for our side of the family, which is when I told her that she was getting ahead of herself.

Now, she has apparently booked me a Day of Coordinator!  For an event that won't happen for another 2 years!  It turns out she was out to dinner with one of her good friends (they're both in event planning for universities - they plan big parties and such on campus).  My Mom was talking about how I would be getting married in about 2 years, and her friend said how much she'd love to be a fly on the wall.  And somehow they concocted this idea that the friend would LOOOOVE to be a DOC for me, and my Mom thinks it's just the greatest idea ever since she could totally trust the DOC and wouldn't have to stress.  Don't get me wrong, it's a great idea, this woman is way overqualified and a sweet person, but it's rather premature.  It's kinda cute they're so excited, though.

rxjen

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[QUOTE]Yeah... some of them need to be reigned in. In a similar theme, I just found out this weekend that I've got an overeager Momzilla on the rise!  She had sent me a hypothetical guest list about a year ago for our side of the family, which is when I told her that she was getting ahead of herself. Now, she has apparently booked me a Day of Coordinator!  For an event that won't happen for another 2 years!  It turns out she was out to dinner with one of her good friends (they're both in event planning for universities - they plan big parties and such on campus).  My Mom was talking about how I would be getting married in about 2 years, and her friend said how much she'd love to be a fly on the wall.  And somehow they concocted this idea that the friend would LOOOOVE to be a DOC for me, and my Mom thinks it's just the greatest idea ever since she could totally trust the DOC and wouldn't have to stress.  Don't get me wrong, it's a great idea, this woman is way overqualified and a sweet person, but it's rather premature.  It's kinda cute they're so excited, though.
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That is very sweet of your mom for watching your back and making sure you get a DOC she trust however this Momzilla on my board seems kinda crazy.....

lindsayrae1986

a friend of mine is getting married in a few months and her mom is completely handling the wedding.  she said she doesn't know exactly what's been done or what needs to be done because her mom is doing it all.  oy.

figment23

I plan to tell my mom when to show up roughly 2 weeks beforehand to avoid this kind of thing.

She never got married and I have a feeling she will be a full-on momzilla if I tell her anything this far out.

jemmini6

My mom has been pretty good so far, in fact, she seems really disinterested with the details (which isn't really a bad thing, I'd rather have her not ask at all then want to know every single tiny little thing).

The only thing she's getting a litte ahead of herself on is my makeup.  All we have booked as of yet is our venue and photographer and she's already lined me up with a make-up artist.  Granted, my mom has been friends with her parents for years, so it's not like she randomly started looking up people, but still.  A year out is a little premature to be booking makeup...

coastiegrl25

Makes me think maybe the MOB is paying for the whole thing...actually I would have loved for someone else to do all the planning and just ask me certain questions here n there to see what's important to me.

Elle1036

I'm a little jealous of Cate (and even of this crazy woman's daughter).  I have no idea what to expect from my mom when I start planning, but I don't think it'll be much.  Plus, I'm still worried about how I'm going to tell her once I'm engaged.

Maybe she'll surprise me and get super excited.  She told a few of her friends how long BF and I have been together, and they pretty much set to work planning an engagement party.  LOL. 

leia1979

I understand, Elle. My mom is pretty quiet about it (though she did tell all her friends, because I've received congratulations from a few of them). My dad is absolutely anti-wedding. He offered me $10k to elope and he is not paying for the wedding. He just doesn't want to have to attend, apparently.

I really wanted to ask my mom about dress shopping yesterday, but it didn't seem like the right time.

And Jen, yes that lady sounds totally nuts.

callalily13

Im definitely nervous my mom will become a momzilla. She planned my sister's wedding because my sister was in Seattle and the wedding would be in Palm Desert, CA. She planned every single thing out after my sister told her the basic things that she wanted. My mom is a perfectionist and anal-retentive, so im worried she will try to take over my wedding. Luckily I still have a long time until I need to start planning, but I know that once it gets close she will be nuts. I recently moved into my own place and she has been helping me furnish it. Whenever I show her what I like she says no and that it will be something else becasue I have "bad taste." It is her money, but at the same time I will be the one living with it for the next 5-10 years

GeauxTigers17

I don't know, I think if the bride is fine with it and the parents are paying, it's not that big of a deal. I'm getting married next December and my parents graciously offered to pay for it, so I'm letting them do whatever they want. I trust my mom's taste and I know she wont handle things like the church for us (obviously we need to be the ones talking to our priest) but I couldn't care less what my cake looks like or what hors d'oeuvres she picks. Maybe I'm a weirdo, but I care a lot about the ceremony, and very little about the reception.

My best friend's mom told her that if she wanted to plan a wedding, she could have a daughter....so yeah, it takes all kinds! hahaha.

calindi

I just think it becomes a big deal when the wedding becomes the property of the Bride and the MOB, not the Groom.  I get that not all guys want to be involved, but it seems wrong when he's left out of it completely.

My Mom will likely be doing a lot of legwork for us on the ground, as we plan to get married near my parents but we live 2000 miles away.  However, my Dad has made it very clear that he's taking the reigns away from my Mom so she doesn't get carried away - he's writing me and my BF a check for the total amount that he wants to contribute, and that's it.  BF and I will create a separate account for the wedding expenses, put that in check in plus whatever we can put aside ourselves, and thus ultimately we have control of the budget and all decisions.  My parents had a really rough time with families dictating what would be or would not be part of their wedding, and eventually they wished they had eloped due to the drama.  They have sworn up and down that they will not do the same thing to me, and thus won't need to "rubber stamp" every decision in the wedding.  So I might be rather naive, but I think it'll work out okay with rather little drama.  I'm very easy going, but quite good at putting my foot down diplomatically when necessary. 

mellimel19

I am thankful that my mom is not a momzilla like the lady in that post. My mom grew up in Eastern Europe, where weddings were a pretty simple affair. No crazy elaborate reception, no engagement parties, no bridal showers (she didn't even know what a bridal shower was until it was time for my sister to get married). So she's not familiar with all the tradition, detail and general hoopla that goes into planning a "modern American wedding." I'm actually pretty grateful for that, because it allows me and FI to plan the wedding we would like without having to worry about her trying to hijack the planning and complaining how ridiculously expensive everything is and what else we could be doing with the money... FI and I are paying for the wedding ourselves... BELIEVE me, we are painfully aware of how much things cost!

mzm153

To me the problem is not my mom but my other relatives. My mom actually is the one that tells me to take my time and make sure things will work out before that. Got tons of extended relatives asking me when I'm getting married, if they will be invited to my wedding, and that they would like me to get married in their towns (my family is Brazilian and my relatives are pretty much scattered throughout this big country). Just my family and extended family would be more that 100 people excluding friends and BF family. On top of that they expect me to have a Catholic Wedding (I grew up catholic) and it would be interesting when they find out I became a protestant (non-denominal). Looks like my extended family planned all of my wedding.