I hope I remember what he looks like

bajediva

Heya ladies,

I've been MIA for a little bit. Life's been crazy. And tbh, TK just wasn't quite where I wanted to be, with BF & I in the midst of wrangling. Have I ever mentioned how I do not think I'm cut out for this LDR business?!?! sigh. Anyway. I love the fool. So I'm working at it.

Finally, my job has given me the go ahead to schedule my summer training, & I'm going to take it in Lake Tahoe, the closest I could get to the Bay Area, where he lives. Send good vibes that I'll get approval to stay on for a month.

I've been so stressed out, I don't know when I'm going to get excited. I haven't seen him since January. And as much as I have been looking forward to being within countdown range, now I'm a little nervous. I know I'll get past it. I think. Sigh.

Where's Jeter at? And Paint? How goes it, gals, although you two aren't quite my LDR buddies anymore . Sisters in suffering where are you?? lol... Alright. Going to peruse the board and get caught up.

chipypony

Don't worry, I'm here, still looooong distance and still suffering with you. I haven't seen BF since March and I won't see him until August . It sucks, it really does, but I only have to finish 3 more degrees and I will be back home (hopefully 4 years!)

paintgirl

Hi baje! Good to see you back! I moved. It's ok. (It's awesome when bf is home, of course, but he's out of town for several weeks, so I'm B-O-R-E-D and a little lonely. He's the only person I know here.) Otherwise, all is well! The move was easy. It's nice to finally be here. Hang in there. It'll happen one day for you too!

PaigeMcC

Baje!! You're back! wo0t!I'm sending you good vibes and telling you that:
LRD IS HARD! But it's totally worth it when you get that ring on your finger;)

Hang in there love!

bajediva

Yay for company, chipy! You know how misery is . 4 years?? Please share the secret of how you maintain fortitude just thinking of it.

& thanks gals. I'm sure it's worth it. I know he's worth it. I just need to consciously focus on positives, like being happy I'm moving towards a stable future with an amazing man, which is better than the dysfunctional relationships I see around me every day.

Lazyzoey

Do not know why I can not stand a Distance Relationship, I wish I can see him everyday or no more than two days...If he leaves me more than 2 months, ohw...I will tear my hair, lol

tafft1

I'm sorry your going so insane I know the LDR stuff is horrible. What part of the bay area by the way ? As that is my neck of the woods It is hard staying poisitve all the time but it does wonders for your happiness and outlook..it took my FI to make me believe it was better for me and us Hope everything works out and yay for you being back we missed you!

noelle24

I've been LDR (3.5 hours) for 5 years now... so I can sympathize with your suffering.  You can do it!  It will all feel worth it when you finally get to spend time with him again.  And a month that close will be fantastic.  Keep looking for the light at the end of the tunnel!

chipypony

I would not be here and doing this LD thing if my BF was not as supportive as he has been. He tells me everyday how proud he is and how happy I make him and that it will be worth it in the end. Thats the ONLY way I can keep doing this, because its hard, and its lonely and sometimes I just want a hug. But its comforting knowing he feels the same way when he calls me up in the middle of the afternoon (well pacific time) stressed and needing someone to calm him down and tell him its going to be ok....on the plus side it has greatly increased our communication skills...

bajediva

@tafft: He lives in Concord & works in Marin, & thanks for the encouragement.

@noelle: Fantastic is a great word for it. Adjusting focus to find light now....

@chipy: Ha, yes, the official consolation prize of LDRs is those good old communication skills. I think it gets worse before it gets better, which may be exactly what was happening, but we're getting onto the right track now, I think.

bkinsey316

Im kind of in the same situation. My BF is deployed to Iraq right now. He just came home for 2 weeks R&R but it wasnt near long enough. Now I have a wedding to plan, by myself by november. Thank God for Skype. I get to talk to him and see him almost everyday. November cannot come quick enough. Then Ill be moving to Ft. Campbell with him, he is getting transferred there in February. Im stressed too, and the planning a wedding all by myself is new as of a week ago. :S Any advice would be great!