S/O: Mental Health Day

lunarsongbird

I'm taking a mental health day today.

However- it's not completely mental- I had quite a tummy ache yesterday and had an awful headache all day. I didn't sleep well...and I'm being emotional and dumb today. I would really be pretty worthless in the office today. Of course the decision to stay at home also resulted in tears after wondering if I could even afford it. Andrew kissed me on the forehead and told me just to stay in bed today.

So I'm here...contemplating if Halloween candy is an acceptable breakfast.

If you were to take a mental health day with me today...what would be the cause? What's on your mind?

peekaboo2011

I was great when I woke up, but now I'm irritated.  So, this is my mental health day reason.  I just wish I could take it.  Damn being understaffed.  Only 4 more shifts and I'm done with that place.

So, I'm irritated.  Like, incredibly beyond irritated today.  Mast and I had talked about him buying fabric for me to make him an awesome manly apron.  I told you ladies this.  It was going to be awesome.  Well, his birthday (and Christmas) is coming up, and since he still hadn't ordered fabric, I went ahead and did it last night.  And then told him just not to do it.  Well, he informed me that he found a better apron at William Sonoma that has Star Wars.  SERIOUSLY?!  I just spent $30 on fabric and NOW you tell me that you found something you like better?!

Also, I found out last night that I can't apply to one of the grad programs I was planning on because they require the GRE Bio subject test.  Which is only offered 3 times a year and I missed the cut off date to register for the next one.  Next available?  APRIL.  Excuse me while I jump off a cliff.

becunning2

Halloween candy is most assuredly an acceptable breakfast the day after Halloween. 

I'm just grumpy about my relationship.  And school.  And work.  And GAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!

Mostly though, the BF hurt my feelings last night. Nothing he said was false or wrong or illogical, but it still hurt all the same and reminded me that it's HIS house with HIS parents as cosigners and I have NOTHING. He was talking about how he should take out a life insurance policy that would cover the mortgage for his parents since it's "their house" too. All true.  A good idea.  But it hurt that it's not on his radar to take care of me or that I have any "investment" in the house.

becunning2

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[QUOTE] Also, I found out last night that I can't apply to one of the grad programs I was planning on because they require the GRE Bio subject test.  Which is only offered 3 times a year and I missed the cut off date to register for the next one.  Next available?  APRIL.  Excuse me while I jump off a cliff.
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

<div>That sucks! :(  I'm thinking about retaking the GRE--they've totally changed their scoring system though! And I found my old scores last night from 7 years ago. I'm in the 18th percentile in math...  I rock my socks off verbally, but math? HAHAHA.</div>

lunarsongbird

 

Is this the apron? Peek- I think you could do something WAY better!

elannis

I'd like a day off because I've been doing overtime and have only had maybe 4 days with no work in the last 3 months. I am also nervous about my doctor appointment on Wednesday that is going to be pretty invasive. I am trying to figure out a budget for the wedding without people cooperating and also trying to save what we can for a house too. We have to meet the photographer on Friday (that sounds dumb, but I am super shy so I get nervous about things like that). We're not sure if FI's mom is coming up this weekend, but I think I'd just like for her to stay home this weekend because I need a break. She had a freakout last weekend for some reason FI and I are unaware of, which ruined the last day of our trip. We've been freakout-free for a few months up to that point.

For some reason I'm freaking out about it all at the same time.

peekaboo2011

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[QUOTE]  Is this the apron? Peek- I think you could do something WAY better!
Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>That is it.  So, if I can find Star Wars fabric, I still have 2 yards of beer fabric that I need to figure out what to do with.</div>

becunning2

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O: Mental Health Day : Beer /> Star Wars
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

<div>Beer < Star Wars < Peek making a beer apron.</div><div>
</div><div>Wine > Star Wars.</div>

lunarsongbird

I know that life is pretty darn awesome right now. I don't know why I feel this way today. Maybe I really am getting sick? Maybe the supplements my doctor gave me are wacking out my hormones more then expected?

So I feel terribly guilty about feeling this way today.

It seems like when I get upset about one thing....I get emotionally buried with all the stuff that makes me feel the same way. And when things are going well...these things don't bother me, but when I'm sad...they irk me.

I miss Andrew. I hate that we only get to spend two evenings together a week. I hate that he comes home at night and doesn't get to see me at my best, because I'm exhausted and have been trying to stay up to see him. I'm terribly butthurt that it appears that all of our animals prefer Andrew. Bo wouldn't even come down to play with me this morning- he'd rather lie down next to Andrew while he sleeps then have fun with me. :-/ (I know, I know, I'm being lame.)

I'm beyond disappointed that we've been in our new home- and got engaged- and have only had sexy time...ONCE since then.

I'm wicked tired and haven't been sleeping well.

I'm mad that I'm still a temp- and getting paid diddly with no benefits- while our new associate is a permanent and has yet to impress me at work.

Yup. I'm just feeling darn lame today. Oh- and I miss my parents, sister, and springer spaniels. This is my dad with our Springer, Emma: 


And here is my sister with our other Springer, Henry- at the doggie car wash: 


Maybe I'm just experiencing an emotional let down from all the excitement? That happens, right? I've been undergoing some major changes!

peekaboo2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O: Mental Health Day : Beer /> Star Wars
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

<div>Apparently not when you're a 24 year old male with a serious nerd streak.  It is going to take quite a bit for me to not deck him tomorrow.  Seriously, Mr.?!  WTF?</div>

lunarsongbird

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O: Mental Health Day : That is it.  So, if I can find Star Wars fabric, I still have 2 yards of beer fabric that I need to figure out what to do with.
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

Make some wicked pot holders for all your male family and friends? Andrew would be stoked for a cool pot holder. LOL.

[Deleted User]

I almost took a sick/mental health day today, but decided against it since I took off a week or so ago to take my mom to the doctor.

I've had an upset stomach since I ate pho on Sunday.    I'm exhausted and overcommitted.  DH and I have both got a twitchy eye going on, too.  no good!  we are so behind in a bunch of stuff that we need to get caught up on, and I feel like we can't catch a break.

my mental health day would consist of running errands, cleaning, laundry, organizing loan payments, filing for health care reimbursement, researching next year's health care, and trying to figure out christmas lists for friends and family.  whew!

peekaboo2011

Lunar, I used to have those days with my ex after we got engaged.  Everything would be awesome, and then I would just be angry at him, or furious with the way that things were going for no apparent reason.

Just breathe.  Enjoy your mental health day and things will get better.  From what you're saying, all of the stress in your life is just coming out.  We all deal with shiit differently, and I get the feeling that you're like me in that you can only keep it together so long.  Just breathe.  Pajamas and chocolate and wine.  They make everything better

becunning2

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[QUOTE]  Pajamas and chocolate and wine.  They make everything better <3
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This is almost EXACTLY what I want to be doing.  But chocolate cake. 

</div>

lunarsongbird

Teehheee...


I've actually only taken one other mental health day in my life...How about you all?

[Deleted User]

I've never taken one.  I always come close, but then I feel too guilty about it. 

but I dream about Mental Health Days!    I'll live vicariously through yours.

peekaboo2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O: Mental Health Day : Make some wicked pot holders for all your male family and friends? Andrew would be stoked for a cool pot holder. LOL.
Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>Okay.  I actually don't know anyone other than him who would enjoy such things.  My family would just be concerned about the alcohol intake.  *sigh*</div><div>
</div><div>But, I could do a couple potholders out of it and maybe line a basket for a 9x13 pan to help insulate it.  The man loves to cook.  Thoughts?</div>

lunarsongbird

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O: Mental Health Day : Okay.  I actually don't know anyone other than him who would enjoy such things.  My family would just be concerned about the alcohol intake.  *sigh* But, I could do a couple potholders out of it and maybe line a basket for a 9x13 pan to help insulate it.  The man loves to cook.  Thoughts?
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

Andrew and I LOVE our insulated pyrex bag. We use it when we bring dishes to parties/get togethers all the time. This one is handmade: 

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I could see this being a big hit at a superbowl party.
<a href="http://www2.fiskars.com/Activities/Crafting/Articles/Sewn-Kitchen-Accents">http://www2.fiskars.com/Activities/Crafting/Articles/Sewn-Kitchen-Accents</a>

[Deleted User]

I was so close to staying home today that I was actually an hour late to the office. Something must be in the air here in CO!

I had a HORRIBLE headache last night. The left side of my brain hurt so bad my left eye was actually tearing up. I went to lie down around 6pm last night and never got out of bed. Never had dinner, never took a shower, nada. At 4am I still had my headache and decided there was no way I was making it in to work at 6. I took 3 Ibuprofen and went back to bed. At 5:30 I felt better and decided I better haul my butt into the office. Now I'm here wishing I had stayed in bed. At least the headache is gone for now though...

peekaboo2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O: Mental Health Day : Andrew and I LOVE our insulated pyrex bag. We use it when we bring dishes to parties/get togethers all the time. This one is handmade:  I could see this being a big hit at a superbowl party. <a href="http://www2.fiskars.com/Activities/Crafting/Articles/Sewn-Kitchen-Accents" rel='nofollow'>http://www2.fiskars.com/Activities/Crafting/Articles/Sewn-Kitchen-Accents</a>
Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>DING DING DING we have a winner!!!!</div><div>
</div><div>I <3 you!  That would have taken me forever to find/come up with!</div>

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]I'm mad that I'm still a temp- and getting paid diddly with no benefits- while our new associate is a permanent and has yet to impress me at work.Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]

Hey - do you have an up to date resume you could send me? My mom works for DeVry University and she mentioned they have a campus in Colorado Springs. I told her about the type of work you're doing and how amazing you are and she seemed to think she might be able to find you a permanent position with DeVry! I thought you were happy where you were, but if you're interested you can send me your resume and I'll see if she can find any openings out there. She's been with DeVry for about 4 years now and loves it!! I think she mentioned their career services department might be a good fit for you!

lunarsongbird

becunning- I'm so sorry that your BF is being uber lame. I hope you get the chance to talk to him about his comments soon.

Ely- Your FMIL sure does seem like a handful sometimes- However, I think you handle it very gracefully. I'm like you in that I let everything hit me all at once. Typically I don't feel very stressed at all...and then one day I'll think, "AAAH! I'm totally overwhelmed!"

Coco- Bad pho, Bad! Sorry to hear that you aren't feeling well. That sucks. Will you and DH have time to catch up with some stuff this weekend?

Allusive- I'm sending you healing thoughts. I really hope your headache doesn't come back. That sounds SOOOO painful. I wonder what caused it.

lunarsongbird

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O: Mental Health Day : Hey - do you have an up to date resume you could send me? My mom works for DeVry University and she mentioned they have a campus in Colorado Springs. I told her about the type of work you're doing and how amazing you are and she seemed to think she might be able to find you a permanent position with DeVry! I thought you were happy where you were, but if you're interested you can send me your resume and I'll see if she can find any openings out there. She's been with DeVry for about 4 years now and loves it!! I think she mentioned their career services department might be a good fit for you!
Posted by allusive007[/QUOTE]

Oooh reallllly? Hm...Interesting!!
I'll update my resume and have it for you by Sunday when we meet?

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O: Mental Health Day : Oooh reallllly? Hm...Interesting!! I'll update my resume and have it for you by Sunday when we meet?
Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]

Perfect! Or you can email me an electronic copy. My mom is in DC...so i'll be emailing it to her anyway. No rush. I don't even know what they might have open...but she seemed genuinely excited about the idea of you working for DeVry...and I think you'd be a wonderful fit!

Thanks for the well wishes on my headache too. I think it's stress related? Work has been crazy and I've been getting horrible shoulder/neck pains. I think that's why the Ibuprofen worked...because none of the other "headache" medicines did a thing...

becunning2

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[QUOTE]becunning- I'm so sorry that your BF is being uber lame. :( I hope you get the chance to talk to him about his comments soon.
Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]

<div>No point. It just comes back to the same conversation I'm avoiding having:  So, are you going to get your stuff together and figure out whether you want to marry me or not?  Because that answer hasn't changed.</div>

lunarsongbird

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O: Mental Health Day : No point. It just comes back to the same conversation I'm avoiding having:  So, are you going to get your stuff together and figure out whether you want to marry me or not?  Because that answer hasn't changed.
Posted by becunning2[/QUOTE]

Is he asking you that...or are you asking him?

becunning2

I'm not asking anymore, but he's the one who has been keeping mum on that front. 

lunarsongbird

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[QUOTE]I'm not asking anymore, but he's the one who has been keeping mum on that front. 
Posted by becunning2[/QUOTE]

That's incredibly frustrating! How long do you think you can wait around for an answer?

becunning2

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O: Mental Health Day : That's incredibly frustrating! How long do you think you can wait around for an answer?
Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]

<div>I think when I graduate in May. We'll be together for three years in January. The really frustrating part is that I don't know if it's because HE doesn't know or if it's because he thinks it should be 100% a surprise to me if he proposes (true story). So I get really grumpy sometimes and overthink when stuff like yesterday happens. And then I get crazy fluttery when like a week ago happens and we're discussing student loan repayment strategies and he wonders whether they'd count my spouse's income--like I'll be married. *facepalm*</div><div>
</div><div>I'm grumpy. Really grumpy. </div>

lunarsongbird

Grumpy. 

orangehills

I've had a cold. I'm probably leaving early today if I can because I don't feel good and just want to sleep and get over it already!