WR: I wish I was more excited (vent)

swhite2012

A friend from HS got engaged over the weekend and her FB has already exploded with excitedness about it. It kind of just makes me wish I was a little more excited about our wedding. Don't get me wrong, I am so incredibly happy to be marrying my FI, just not super excited about the wedding part. Anytime someone wants to talk about it, I'm really not all that interested. I don't know if it's because I don't like being the center of attention or what. It's not like I don't want to have a wedding, I do. I'm just kind of "blah" about it. Everything that we have picked I have liked, and there is nothing really wrong, I'm just not super excited.

Also part of me thinks it's just because I am so busy with school and work right now and I am just frustrated all around. I'm hoping that this semester break will get me more excited. It will really be the first time since we got engaged that FI and I will be able to spend some quality time together without me having to worry about school work. We're also planning on trying to do some registering, so hopefully that should be fun.

Any thoughts? Advice? Smack some sense into me?

HULU

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wr-wish-excited-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9216354b-affb-4808-993c-e4abcdb1e226Post:a4f37a84-add4-45e8-8d1c-fb94577cf12e">Re: WR: I wish I was more excited (vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]I found that I was way more excited for <strong>my MOH</strong>'s wedding than she was for hers and she<strong> was more excited for mine than I was</strong>. . . I'm not sure why it happened that way. But in the end we both had really great weddings, someone to share the planning with, and husbands at the end of the day. There isn't really anything wrong with not being uber excited about the actual day, IMHO.
Posted by cschiano[/QUOTE]

<div>Same here. Don't get me wrong, I'm excited to be marrying FI, but I do not like being the center of attention. At all. That's why we opted for a small wedding and we're trying to make it as casual and comfortable as we can. My MoH, on the other hand, cannot stop talking about the wedding, cannot stop asking questions about the wedding, and she always finds ways to incorporate the phrase "My duty as your bridesmaid" (since I'm only having one, so I don't know whether to call her a MoH or BM...) into any conversation we have. It drives me nuts. I wish I could just steal her energy and harness it for myself, lol.</div>

lunarsongbird

'Elo!!

Does it make you feel better to know I feel exactly the same way?
I also didn't feel any different when we got engaged. I even found my wedding dress and I'm still not feeling any different.

Maybe it's because it's still a ways away for us both?

polkadot111

Honestly I'm not excited for my wedding either. I hate being the center of attention. AND, I really just want to be married after being engaged for 3 frickin' years. I'm just ready. I could care less about the wedding. I don't feel like planning, and I don't enjoy talking about it when someone brings it up.  People hear I'm engaged and say, "OOOO! Do you have a dress?!!" I just go through the motions and tell them about it, but I don't enjoy it. Sometimes I feel like I should. But I just seriously am convinced that the wedding doesn't matter. I'll have a husband whether I have a beautiful dress or I just go to the court house. This is NOT a good attitude to have when I have millions of things to get done for the wedding, but no 'want' to do it.

So just saying you're not the only one!

jaycee7389

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wr-wish-excited-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9216354b-affb-4808-993c-e4abcdb1e226Post:f03ed70d-36a4-4ffd-b182-c96f6d858cb5">WR: I wish I was more excited (vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]A friend from HS got engaged over the weekend and her FB has already exploded with excitedness about it. It kind of just makes me wish I was a little more excited about our wedding. <strong>Don't get me wrong, I am so incredibly happy to be marrying my FI, just not super excited about the wedding part.</strong> Anytime someone wants to talk about it, I'm really not all that interested. I don't know if it's because I don't like being the center of attention or what. It's not like I don't want to have a wedding, I do. I'm just kind of "blah" about it. Everything that we have picked I have liked, and there is nothing really wrong, I'm just not super excited. Also part of me thinks it's just because I am so busy with school and work right now and I am just frustrated all around. I'm hoping that this semester break will get me more excited. It will really be the first time since we got engaged that FI and I will be able to spend some quality time together without me having to worry about school work. We're also planning on trying to do some registering, so hopefully that should be fun. Any thoughts? Advice? Smack some sense into me?
Posted by swhite2012[/QUOTE]


Feeling that way is all that really matters! Lots of people go through highs and lows with wedding planning. I have a strong love/hate relationship with it. There are plenty more times that I wish we were eloping than I am excited for the wedding. It's a lot of stress, and being in school/working/wedding planning is stress x3.

Just try to get stuff done during breaks or when you have less to worry about. Maybe it will be more fun and spark your interest because you don't have as much on your plate?

CASK85

I found that I was way more excited for my MOH's wedding than she was for hers and she was more excited for mine than I was. . . I'm not sure why it happened that way. But in the end we both had really great weddings, someone to share the planning with, and husbands at the end of the day. There isn't really anything wrong with not being uber excited about the actual day, IMHO.

swhite2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wr-wish-excited-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9216354b-affb-4808-993c-e4abcdb1e226Post:a4f37a84-add4-45e8-8d1c-fb94577cf12e">Re: WR: I wish I was more excited (vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]I found that <strong>I was way more excited for my MOH's wedding than she was for hers and she was more excited for mine than I was</strong>. . . I'm not sure why it happened that way. But in the end we both had really great weddings, someone to share the planning with, and husbands at the end of the day. There isn't really anything wrong with not being uber excited about the actual day, IMHO.
Posted by cschiano[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>That made me chuckle =)  Yeah, I'm hoping I can get into it a little more when I'm a little less stressed out.

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CASK85

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wr-wish-excited-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9216354b-affb-4808-993c-e4abcdb1e226Post:ac9c9b61-f46b-4588-8e3a-b5b8756b1ac9">Re: WR: I wish I was more excited (vent)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WR: I wish I was more excited (vent) : That made me chuckle =)  Yeah, I'm hoping I can get into it a little more when I'm a little less stressed out.
Posted by swhite2012[/QUOTE]
Glad I could make you laugh :)<div>
</div><div>Stress definitely makes it harder to be excited about planning. . . it just begins to feel like one more thing you have to do, ya know? Not this big special day.   You'll get there! (to the excited place)</div>