Register for e-party????

Swazzle

My aunt is throwing an engagement party for us next month.  When I told my friend who is getting married in January she informed me that we need to register before this so people can bring us gifts from the registry.  I had never heard of this at all, maybe because hers was the first engagement party I had ever gone to in my life.  But I was thinking I really didn't like the idea of registering for the engagement party, I think it's weird to expect gifts then & also for the shower & then money or whatever at the actual wedding.  

We saw FMIL this weekend & she asked if we had registered yet.  When I said no she asked what she's supposed to tell people to get us for the engagement party.  I have no idea?!

I'm sure there's not really a right or wrong to this situation but I'm wondering what you gals have done if you've had an e-party/going to have an e-party or what your opinion on this is.  

jaycee7389

I never heard of people registering for e-party gifts until TK..but people definitely do so I think it is up to you and your FI. I personally wouldn't because I think it is a little much to expect gifts for an e-party, shower, and wedding.

orangehills

Oh no, def. no registering for e-parties! No one is required to bring a gift to an e-party,  it's only if they want to. So I would say, wait till the wedding to register!

Blue & White

I've been under the impression that a bottle of wine or money is the "normal" gift for an e-party.  And that gifts are completely not required.

I could be wrong, but I wouldn't look for a registry for an e-party.  Especially if I expected to be invited to the shower & wedding as well

Swazzle

This is exactly what I was thinking.  I think it's way too much to expect of people, I don't expect any gifts at our e-party at all.  So I  was suprised to hear that you're "supposed to" from people & then when I searched online it kind of gave the same advice. 

lennonkdc

Typically, E-Parties are not gift giving events the way that showers are. So, strictly speaking etiquette wise, you are right, there is no need to registrar. E-gifts are optional and should be left to the discretion of the gift giver, a bottle of wine or some other small gift is fine, if people want to be more generous they can do cash or gift cards (w/o being prompted by anyone to do so). Registering this early is silly - things go out of stock, seasonal items will no longer be available, ect; furthermore, registering for an E party can look gift grabby. 

I would simply tell anyone that asks about a registry they you will not be registared until before the shower, and that the love and support of family and friends is all you would like at this point.

PS- Aunt knows that an E- party is a Pre-Wedding event and all invited to it must also be on the wedding invite list? 

Edited for clarity.

Peaseblossom55

I've never heard of registering for an e party.  Any e party I've been to has been rather casual, and I'll get the couple a small gift, or the bride something small.

GreenPepperBurger

If you were having a shorter engagement, I would register for the e-party. But since you're not getting married for a while, I'd hold off and just wait until it gets closer to your shower. I am of the belief that you don't have to register in order to receive gifts - anyone that wants to give a gift will, regardless if there's a registy or not.

Swazzle

Thanks gals!!  I feel much better knowing that I don't "NEED" to register for the e-party.  I'll have to just have FI deal with his Mom haha