Finally! TK is working for me..Update (A little AW)

Bowlingchick825

I was having numerous issues yesterday and couldn't post like I wanted to! Since TK was pmsing, I decided to get things done around the house and take care of work things for me.

I had an interview on Monday morning for the fitness center up the street from my house, then had a working interview yesterday and GOT THE JOB! I am super happy that I got the job because now I feel like I'm not mooching off my bf (he's been working crazy hours and OT to pay the rent).  My bf is happy I got a job (I've only been unemployed 2 months) and is happy that he'll hopefully be able to cut back on so much OT (he's doing like 60-70 hrs/week which includes OT). 

We brought our GD Puppy to his last night of puppy class so he could graduate.  So much fun.  While at Petsmart, we ran into my BF's old co-worker.  His wife is pregnant and is due around Valentines day.  My BF said that she looked radiant and had always been very good looking.  I agreed that she looked radiant and left it at that.  But then the maternal clock started clanging away in my head. 

We got home and I got busy making lunches and pulling out the meats to thaw for our "wednesday night dinner feast" as my son calls it.  My BF walked up behind me, wrapped his arms around me and whispered that he couldn't get the image of me being pregnant with our baby out of his head. In my mind, my jaw hit the floor. 

Even after I got done with everything, he brought it up again.  I said that I wanted to think about it because while I'm physically ready, I'm certainly not financially ready for that type of commitment.  I start my new job today and want to be working for a while before we through a pregnancy in the mix. 

He woke up this morning and told me that he really wants a baby.  I want to have one as well, but I don't know how to tell him we should wait about 6-7 months before we even think about it.  Not to mention, I'd love to be engaged (married even!) before I go and have a baby.

So, that's been my last few days.  How's everyone else doing? I need to catch up now.

Back to your regularly scheduled knotting...

Stina51286

Congrats on the job!!!

While I cannot say anything about the whole baby situation bc we both don't want to have any, just sit him down and explain what your goals are for the next month, 6 months, yr and just let him know how you feel about the whole situation.

I am assuming he doesn't have any kids of his own?

Bowlingchick825

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[QUOTE]Congrats on the job!!! While I cannot say anything about the whole baby situation bc we both don't want to have any, just sit him down and explain what your goals are for the next month, 6 months, yr and just let him know how you feel about the whole situation. I am assuming he doesn't have any kids of his own?
Posted by Stina51286[/QUOTE]

Thanks! I am going to LOVE my job. :o)

He doesn't have any of his own and ever since his first nephew was born on Halloween this year, he's been overly enthusiastic about babies/toddlers.  He wouldn't keep his eyes off of his nephew when we visited at the hospital:


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He also couldn't get enough of my 16 month old nephew at Thanksgiving (sadly, I didn't get pictures of that as I was all over the place!).

I just hope he understands where I'm coming from when I tell him how I feel.  I'm sure he will.

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just say this: "We should wait about 6-7 months before we even think about it.  Not to mention, I'd love to be engaged (married even!) before I go and have a baby.  While I'm physically ready, I'm certainly not financially ready for that type of commitment.  I start my new job today and want to be working for a while before we throw a pregnancy in the mix."

I C&P'ed from your post.  if you're not ready to pop out some spawn, then just say so.  your reasons for waiting are extremely smart.  surely he'll understand... just don't beat around the bush.  my H always appreciates it when I come out and say something, rather than skirt around the issue.  waiting may not be FUN when you'd love to start a family RIGHTTHISSECOND, but it sounds like the best option for you.  plus, it gives you something as individuals AND a couple to look forward to!

dwest2201

First off, I think that it is adorable that he has a little bit of baby fever.  My BF gets like that sometimes and it makes my heart melt.

However, obviously now is not the best time for you all to have a baby financially with you having just started a job, TODAY.  Also, beyond finances if you feel that being engaged and/or married prior to having a baby speak up.  Tell him how you feel.  Reassure him that you love him and want to have a baby and sometimes you do think that you want it right now, but that you really want to be engaged and/or married first.

Peaseblossom55

yay congrats on the job.  None of have any real baby fever here.  We are just both aware of our age and time is a factor.  Defintely be honest and let him know you want to wait for having kids and the reason.  That is great he is so excited for it though.

Bowlingchick825

Well, we had a talk last night after we got done eating dinner and deciding on how the gate at the bottom of the stairs should go.  He was a bit upset that we have to wait, BUT, he understands completely about the job and finance thing.  He agreed that we could wait, but he really wants a baby and said we'll discuss it again in 6 or so months. 

On a side note: work is awesome and I couldn't be happier..