Tonight might be the night..

littleredcrimson

Today is my second anniversary with my boyfriend and he's been displaying all the typical hints of proposing: getting super cuddly (when he normally is limited), suddenly concerned about money, being okay with the "m" word (we've talked about it before but more in a passive sense). We went to the Grand Canyon for our anniversary trip Saturday and I thought he would've done it then (umm hello, its the Grand Canyon, who wouldn't want to propose there if they could?). So I let it go and thought, well maybe in the near future.

Last night we were talking and he mentioned he wanted to take me to the place we had our first date or somewhere "just as special". I understand it's our anniversary but you don't just take your girlfriend to the place you had your first date to give her a necklace or something.

Am I too hopeful, or does this seem legit?

Beads921

Don't get your hopes up; I mean, it sounds like it might happen, but it also might not. You don't want to be expecting it then end up disappointed if it doesn't happen. If it happens, great, but it's always best not to expect these things!

Either way, I hope you have a fantastic night out tonight!

bethsmiles

This night will be so much better for both of you if you dont get your hopes up.  We have no way of knowing if he will propose or not but what I do know is that you are setting yourself up for disappointment this way. This will be a romantic and fun night whether or not a proposal is a part of the plan,  just focus on what you do know - your BF loves you and wants to celebrate your anniversary with a romantic night out, it doesnt need to be any more than that

calindi

You're too hopeful.  Even if it DOES happen, you're best to set your expectations low so you don't get disappointed.  He wants to take you on a special anniversary date - that's very sweet!  And guys tend to get mushy around anniversaries and stuff, but that doesn't necessarily mean a proposal is imminent.

Take a deep breath, and convince yourself that your present is a nice dinner with the man you love.  Who needs a silly necklace?

Wrkn925

He got you a candy necklace and a mismatched bikini from the Target clearance rack.  He told me.  I wasn't supposed to spoil the secret, but hey.

Seriously, don't get your hopes up.  Convince yourself it's not happening, so if it does, you'll be surprised.  If it doesn't, you won't be let down. 


BF and I have been seriously discussing marriage for longer than I want to admit. It seems like it was a decade ago when we picked a ring.    We aren't engaged.

heyimbren

Stop second guessing everything and just enjoy your night.

SenoritaCupcake

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[QUOTE]<strong>He got you a candy necklace and a mismatched bikini from the Target clearance rack.  He told me.  I wasn't supposed to spoil the secret, but hey. Seriously, don't get your hopes up. </strong> Convince yourself it's not happening, so if it does, you'll be surprised.  If it doesn't, you won't be let down.  BF and I have been seriously discussing marriage for longer than I want to admit. It seems like it was a decade ago when we picked a ring.    We aren't engaged.
Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]

<p class="MsoNormal"><em>Actually</em>, he knew you couldn’t keep a secret wrkn so he lied to lead her astray. And it’s not even a pony. It’s a Lisa Frank folder with drawings of a Pony on it. </p><p class="MsoNormal"> </p><p class="MsoNormal">Good news: they love each other very much.</p><p class="MsoNormal"> Isn’t she lucky?</p>

[Deleted User]

Take a deep breath, relax, and just go have fun tonight. No reason to worry about whether he will propose or not. Most guys are waiting for the "right moment". If you're freaking out and trying to guess at what he's thinking, he may decide to wait. And if he's not planning a proposal for tonight, you will be disappointed instead of enjoying the romantic evening he has planned for you.

mana8503

Trust me... I let my hopes get the best of me and was crushed.  He planned to do it, but sh!t happens.  He wasn't able to.  Just go, have fun.  Besides, BF took me to our first date and I got nothing.  It was just a nice to go where we first got to know each other.

PaigeMcC

Slow your roll.  Enjoy your time together.  Enjoy the anticipation.

Blue & White

We went to the same restaurant as our first date on our 2nd anniversary too.  I planned it that way (it's an amazing restaurant!) 

He didn't propose.

And ya know what?  1.5 years later, we're still going strong.

Don't get your hopes up too high or it'll hurt when you fall

MLekathLEEN

Like PP's say, don't get your hopes up. I had a craptastic birthday and valentines day last year because I was in OMG he *might* propose mode. I was SO disheartened when he didn't and may have slightly resented him for it at the time.

Fast foward a few months, I had learned to love the relationship as it was. I was ok with being just BF/GF one I realized that once he proposes, you will never get this "just dating" feeling back. It was on our 6 year anniversary- two days after "ring shopping" and him telling me that he wanted to wait at least 6 months, that he proposed. I did not expect it at all and I honestly think it was 100 times better since I wasn't planning and anticipating it happening.

jeanacorina

Convince yourself it's NOT happening, that way if it does it will be a wonderful surprise, and if it doesn't you'll still have a wonderful anniversary date.

Honestly, you never get this time back- don't put pressure on the moment with expectations for the future. Just relax and let this happen when it happens. You'll be an old married hag like me before you know it- which is also great. And next thing I know, DH and I will be parents with spit up on every article of clothing that we own and I'll love that part of my relationship too. But there's no need to rush- we're enjoying right now. It took me a while to figure out how to do that.

It's much more fulfilling.

littleredcrimson

Thanks guys! I'm not expecting anything (just going to look my best and try to enjoy the night for what it is) and if nothing happens, then I'll be okay with that too Obviously if he proposes, excellent. But I'm ok if he doesn't

joiner521

chill sweetie. wait for it, lol.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]Slow your roll.  Enjoy your time together.  Enjoy the anticipation.
Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]
 
LMAO! I'm noticing a trend here Paige! lol

[Deleted User]

I thought my BF would propose on our 2 year anniv.  He was being way sentimental and SUPER secretive.  I thought he was showing all the tell-tale signs of proposing.  There was no proposal, there was jewelry involved, but no proposal.  I was disappointed because I had been expecting a proposal, which put a damper on my night.

I learned my lesson and I am enjoying every bit of my relationship instead of living in anticipation.

eliza261

i hope that your dinner tonight goes well either way! its not worth the stress i learned that, to go.. okay, now? how about now?... maybe later.. but now!...

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tonight might be the night.. :   LMAO! I'm noticing a trend here Paige! lol
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perkins81

So what happened? did he or didn't he?

Wrkn925

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[QUOTE]So what happened? did he or didn't he?
Posted by perkins81[/QUOTE]

Siily, Perkins.  This was a P&R.  She's not coming back. 

...They never do...

littleredcrimson

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tonight might be the night.. : Siily, Perkins.  This was a P&R.  She's not coming back.  ...They never do...
Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]

This definitely isn't a post & run. I was getting ready for my anniversary dinner that night and I've been working 50 hours since then. I've just been busy and I haven't posted.

He didn't (obviously, since that's what everyone said) but it was a great night regardless. We went to a really good Mexican restaurant in town and he took me up to the ski resort to stargaze :) He got me a Peter Pan bracelet I've been wanting for months (I'm obsessed with Peter Pan) Of course I still kind of expected him to propose, It was a great night even though he didn't.

littleredcrimson

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[QUOTE]So what happened? did he or didn't he?
Posted by perkins81[/QUOTE]

He didn't. But like I said earlier int he thread, I was okay with it. It was still a great night :)

Wrkn925

That's what a P&R is.  You post, run off, and come back later.  (Usually a few hours later, but you did 7 days.) Hey, I understand that work week, though.  I've been there.  It blows.  I hope you're getting paid worth it...

I'm glad you had fun.  It sounds like the night was a blast.  If you continue to view your relationship the way you just wrote it out, I promise you'll be a lot happier.  Enjoy your time together, and some time, he will propose. 

Now, you must provide a picture of your Peter Pan bracelet, because I have no idea what you're talking about.