Ok so, I'm really happy to have found this board. I haven't been with my partner for that long but we have known each other for quite a while. We both say that we were under each others' noses all this time. It will sound strange but very quickly into our relationship, we both know that we totally "click" on many levels. This has brought on a sudden and dramatic change in me (not lust and hormones, I swear!).
I have never been like this before. I've always been quite commitmentphobic and a bit like a stereotypical guy (I'm female). I played the field in college then I stayed single for a few years afterwards while I started my career. I then had a long term relationship where I was totally undecided about where it was going. We had lots of problems and were totally incompatible as people, but the relationship carried on for years while I was kind of ambivalent.
I never fantasized about my wedding. I always figured that I would get married and have kids some day in the vague and distant future. I even looked really weirdly at all of my friends on FB who were getting married. Now, I have been hit by cupid's arrow or something. In the last month, since realizing that my SO feels this way too, I have completely dived into the world of girly, mushy romance and embarrassingly find myself reading about and watching Wedding/estrogen tv/websites/books, fantasizing about that "some day", and getting really excited. I believe that you call this BSC. I'm so embarrassed and I definitely can't talk to my real life friends about any of this. My core friends are all willfully in the single girl club, which is where I was until now, rolling our eyes at our friends who were getting married. I'm really not ready to tell any of my IRL friends how I feel. One of them told me soon after I started dating SO, "But you can still keep dating other people while you are dating him." Eh no.
So on that merry note, I realize that I am in a new place in my life. I no longer need to sit around overanalyzing bad male behavior (at least in my own life!). I'm not ready to be married yet, but I do know that I want to spend the rest of my life with this person. He is "the one". I do realize that it is early days in terms of our literal romance but that whole thing about how, "you just know", well, I just know and I feel a little bit like I must be crazy to know this soon but I do. So now, I am in limbo land, waiting for a socially appropriate time to take those next steps while we coordinate our lives more and more. This seems like a great forum because you are all in the "waiting room" too so to speak.
So with that long introduction, I have a question for all of you. Perhaps it has been asked before but how did you know that your guy is "the one"? What are the little things about him that tell you that he is so right for you? What is it about your relationship that feels so right? What is it that you see in him compared to others that makes you know that he is special?
Ok, I've talked enough so I will wait to answer.
