*deep breath...

ab502

i think he has the ring and i'm not sure how to act normal around him. how do you deal with knowing a big secret like this?!

tuarceatha

You tell strangers on the internet and never reply to their responses?

ab502

i guess that's one form of therapy...haha

lennonkdc

Ok, well first see your own subject line- deep breaths...it will help.

Assuming that you are correct and BF does have the ring, there is nothing you should do but put it out of your mind. I know that sounds difficult, but trust every single lady on the board when she tells you to do this (b/c many, if not all, will tell you this.) There are many ladies here who's BF's/FI/H have had the ring for weeks, months (one girl's had it for over a year, on their dresser, in plain sight.) 

Act normal, put it out of your head, and relax. This is the last time you will ever be dating someone- Enjoy it

Oh- welcome to NEY, tell us how you feel about Harry Potter?

Blue & White

do something else.  Your life should never revolve around your pending engagement.  So go on with your life.  Do the best you can at your job or school.  Take up some new hobbies.  Even if he has THE ring, he may wait several years before proposing so you should probably find something else to do with your time.

bsidebella

How do you know it's a ring and not a pair of fabulous earrings?

AnneR15

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_deep-breath?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:a2e1d0c1-2cb6-49a1-ba94-783c16080d36Post:4c6f2681-6e56-42db-b165-fef625751c13">Re: *deep breath...</a>:
[QUOTE]do something else.  Your life should never revolve around your pending engagement.  So go on with your life.  Do the best you can at your job or school.  Take up some new hobbies.  Even if he has THE ring, he may wait several years before proposing so you should probably find something else to do with your time.
Posted by Blue & White[/QUOTE]

This!

tuarceatha

Ah but I was wrong, that was not how you handled it!

Hi ab502! Would you introduce yourself? That's a grrrrrrrreat distraction from anticipating a proposal, especially if it is months, maybe years away. Especially since it sounds like you haven't discussed it?

ab502

hahaha ok you guys are really helping to put this in perspective... i just needed a verbal slap in the face to be brought back to reality. haha!

CCO2012

Hi and welcome.

I was with my BF when he bought the ring over 10 months ago... It is still not on my finger, and I don't think he has talked to my parents.

My advice, hang out here (these ladies are awesome) and take up new hobbies. I started sewing when my BSC (bat sh!t crazy aka major stress about pending engagement) got really bad. I have made all kinds of clothes and gifts etc. I have also started thrifting and garage sale-ing and upgrading my find with mostly spray paint. It has helped tremendously.

Good luck and be happy in knowing that BF wants to marry you. If you keep away from the thoughts and direct focus elsewhere, he will ask when he is ready.

lunarsongbird

I was in Alpha Chi at Chico State in California. You see pretty normal...but why don't you use capitalization? Is it a phone thing? Sometimes my phone doesn't like using proper capitalization.

Stina51286

My FI told me about my ring the day he bought it. He said he needed to tell someone but didn't want to tell his or my family as they have big mouths. The worst part, it was the same day as my best friends bday party and I was getting ready for it as he came home and had to tell me. Not only that, I COULDNT tell anyone. He just started putting money down on it. Well months went one March-July, I finally got to see it, only bc he needed to get my size. I didn't finally get it until August.

Yes you need to get it off your mind until you get it, but sorry its not going to be easy and it will always be on your mind.

karlee4ever

Welcome! My BF took me ring shopping back in June and never again brought it up. I am glad that i know nothing, it would be hard knowing! So do you usually track your BFs call log? You werent snooping for info in a moment of BSC weakness were you?

audrewuh

I'm so glad I'm not the only one my age that listens to npr. My BF makes fun of me for it all the time! Pleasepleaseplease tell me where I can take a sorting hat quiz! I want to confirm that I actually would be in Hufflepuff. Oh, and where did you go to college?

karlee4ever

Is that Boston Terrier yours? Do you have any other furbabies?

Elle1036

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_deep-breath?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a2e1d0c1-2cb6-49a1-ba94-783c16080d36Post:fccb2eb1-b6a0-4923-b8db-5262d2a44cc6">Re: *deep breath...</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm so glad I'm not the only one my age that listens to npr. My BF makes fun of me for it all the time! <strong>Pleasepleaseplease tell me where I can take a sorting hat quiz! I want to confirm that I actually would be in Hufflepuff.</strong> Oh, and where did you go to college?
Posted by audrewuh[/QUOTE]

<div>Just google it.  There are tons of them out there.</div><div>
</div><div>And there's one on Pottermore, but it's not open to the public yet.</div>

ravenray

Welcome!  The girls have great advice listen to them.  Try not to think about the ring, it will come when he feels like it.  Don't worry and hang out with us!