Man I feel old...

[Deleted User]

Ok, so I'm not really that old...but this year's pending birthday is feeling like a larger milestone than it should. I'm turning 28 it about a week. I KNOW THAT'S NOT OLD. I just don't feel "young" anymore. I notice my cousins who graduated college earlier this year and I can't help but feel old. I think it's great when I'm in bed before 10pm and I feel old. I don't usually have more than 1 drink when I go out and I feel old. I tell BF "our kids are never dressing like that" and I feel old.

So this past weekend a girlfriend and I went for massages and lunch. We were a little late getting to the massage place so we rushed in and barely had time to see our masseuses before heading back to our individual rooms. Well, about 10 minutes into the massage my masseuse (a younger gal) asks what plans I have for the rest of the afternoon. I tell her we're having a girl's day and she says "oh, is that your daughter?". Excuse me?!? My what??? I was very nice about the whole thing, and I know she only saw her for less than a minute, but there's no way I look old enough to have a 26 year old daughter...and my friend doesn't look that  much younger than me. ugh. I had a good laugh about it later, but it still kinda stung.

Anyway, here's the most recent pic of me i've got (i'm on the left). The girl i'm with is not the same friend as above, but she's 27 and probably looks younger than my other friend. Please tell me I don't look like an old maid.



And feel free to share your "mistaken age" stories if you've got 'em.

[Deleted User]

you don't look older than your age.  AT ALL.  just shrug it off.  I'm 25, and I look about 17...  combine that with my height (4'10"), and it's just NOT a good combination.

  I get comments all the time (especially at work, it's really hard for me to move up the ladder)...  they sting a little, but what can you do?  so just shrug it off.  oh well.  who is that lady, and will you ever see her again?  nope! 

but you do not look older and you're very pretty!  I love your hair coloring, BTW...  absolutely gorgeous.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]you don't look older than your age.  AT ALL.  just shrug it off.  I'm 25, and I look about 17...  combine that with my height (4'10"), and it's just NOT a good combination. :(  I get comments all the time (especially at work, it's really hard for me to move up the ladder)...  they sting a little, but what can you do?  so just shrug it off.  oh well.  who is that lady, and will you ever see her again?  nope!  :) but you do not look older and you're very pretty! <strong> I love your hair coloring, BTW...  absolutely gorgeous.
</strong>Posted by CocoBellaF[/QUOTE]

aw...thanks coco! My hair is my natural color. I keep thinking about coloring it for a change, but then I can't commit to it. My stylist calls me "virgin hair" because I'm pretty much the only person there who hasn't had highlights or at least <em>something</em>. haha

Hazel_B

I agree, you definitely don't look older than you really are.

I'm 30 and I can be mistaken for someone in their early 20s dpending on my clothing (because I have a bit of a baby face).

My feeling old moment was when I was home for Thanksgiving and realizing that someone I used to babysit is married with children and didn't do so ridiculously young either.

Lil B Mama

You dont even look 28. If I was to guess I'd say theres no way the girl in that picture is older than 24!
I bet that lady felt pretty stupid after saying something that, dont take it to heart (easier said than done, right? LOL)
You are young and gorgeous, so dont sweat it!

CASK85

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[QUOTE]You don't look older than your age AT ALL. I'm sorry that the masseuse said that, though. Offhanded comments like those (for me, it's when people ask if I'm pregnant) really sting. Sounds like you handled it well, but I'd try not to give it a second thought. You definitely don't look old enough to have a teenage daughter, never mind a 26 year old one!  I have always been the youngest of my friends, so I had never really had that "I'm old" feeling until this year (I'm also 27). I don't know what the shift was. I think that I was always the youngest to do stuff (like, I graduated with my Masters at 21) and now I'm not in that category anymore. But, as I've been telling people for a long time, <strong>I think the 30s are going to rock...I feel like by the time I'm 30 I'll feel a lot more settled, and more established in a career, etc. and I think that that feeling will be great. So bring it!</strong>
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]
This. I'm excited for that stage of my life! <div>
</div><div>You do not look at all old enough to have a grown daughter. That masseuse should keep her day job and not sign up to guess ages at carnivals. </div>

leia1979

She probably misunderstood what you meant by "girls day." You look like you're in your 20s.

My best friend and I were going to a Paramore concert about four years ago. She got there first and is waiting outside for me. Well, it turns out this concert is full of teenagers, so one of the moms asks my friend (who was 27 at the time) if her kid is going to the concert. She was flabbergasted.

We were quite possibly the oldest people at that concert who weren't there with kids.

[Deleted User]

I have never dyed my hair either!  I guess we are both hair virgins.    it's gorgeous, anyhow.

becunning2

I'm 28 too--and I know what you mean about feeling old without actually being "old."  I just feel like there's so much I want to do, and I really need to get on it.

You look GREAT, btw!

duckymonkey

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[QUOTE]I have never dyed my hair either!  I guess we are both hair virgins.  :)  it's gorgeous, anyhow.
Posted by CocoBellaF[/QUOTE]

+1 :)

I'm 27 and there's been times when I've felt old..... but then I do my next childish thing and realize I'm just a kid! LOL :p

Yeah I try to keep my inner child alive.... I've always thought it's not about how old you are, but rather how old you FEEL!

Peaseblossom55

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[QUOTE]you don't look older than your age.  AT ALL.  just shrug it off.  I'm 25, and I look about 17...  <strong>combine that with my height (4'10")</strong>, and it's just NOT a good combination. :(  I get comments all the time (especially at work, it's really hard for me to move up the ladder)...  they sting a little, but what can you do?  so just shrug it off.  oh well.  who is that lady, and will you ever see her again?  nope!  :) but you do not look older and you're very pretty!  I love your hair coloring, BTW...  absolutely gorgeous.
Posted by CocoBellaF[/QUOTE]

<div>I am 4'10" also wow, people always think I am younger and it's the height thing most.</div><div>
</div><div>Allusive you look great and don't look your age at all.  People can be so insensitive.</div>