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AW: bad news... (and kind of a vent)

So, I got my Bar Exam results last Friday, and from the title of the post, you can probably guess, I didn't pass. I was seven scaled points from being an Esq. That's one actual point (I know, I did the math.) One more point on an essay, and I'm looking at a summer of fun with my BF and my friends. But as it stands I'm looking at a summer spent inside with my flashcards...
I am trying so hard to stay positve. I was so close, so I know that I CAN pass this test. But I feel so bad for BF because he he deserves better then to have to keep  supporting me though this. I wanted to pass so that I could get a job and he could go back to school. I want to buy a house, and get married, and start a family. But all of that depends on my passing and getting a job.
It also doesn't help that my parents haven't really spoken to me since I got my results. They haven't called to see how I am, or to invite me over to dinner, or acted caring in any real way. In fact, my mom even asked if I was still going to walk at graduation next weekend. (my reply..."um yeah, the Ohio Supreme Court can't take my JD away. I still earned that...") Its hard not to feel like a failure when your family is treating you like one...
In conclusion, I want to thank you all for the good vibes in Feb, when I was studying/taking the Bar. I really could not have made it though that time without the good thought/prayers. I felt that I should give you ladies an update ( and I needed to vent...) Thank you again for all the thoughts/prayers.
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Re: AW: bad news... (and kind of a vent)

  • edited December 2011
    I'm sorry to hear that you didn't pass and that your family isn't being the most supportive. :(

    I know how you feel. I didn't pass my candidacy the first time I took it, and I completely beat myself up over it. Try to remain positive. This is a just a small bump in the road of life. It might seem like the worst possible thing right now, but I believe everything happens for a reason. Try to keep your chin up and continue studying (just instead of studying inside while it is snowing, now you can go outside and enjoy the warm weather and study).
    ~~December 3, 2011~~
  • lmwilberlmwilber member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks Ember. I keep telling myself that everything happens for a reason, and that we learn more in life from our failures then our successes. So, I'm trying to keep my eyes open for important life lessons...
    I guess the silver lining is that I can sit on my porch and study, so I might not miss the whole summer :)

    PS-I know that you have moved, but if you find yourself back in the NE OH area PM me, we should have a mini NEY meet up!
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  • edited December 2011
    I studied for my candidacy test on my back patio. I thought it was very relaxing, or as relaxing as studying can be :)

    I'm inbetween KY and OH right now. I haven't completely moved to KY and my house is about 1/3 packed up :) I'll PM you in a few weeks and maybe we can figure something out for this summer. Maybe there are other NE Ohio people around here too?
    ~~December 3, 2011~~
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    edited December 2011
  • lmwilberlmwilber member
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    edited December 2011
    THX Lunar!! Welcome to NEY as well!!! You see like a really cool chica and I look forward to getting to know you! (<--clicky) (sorry, I've had some wine....)
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  • lunarsongbirdlunarsongbird member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_aw-bad-news-kind-of-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a39fc6b9-7de6-49b5-9d8b-07f2cb7ece17Post:f0540b34-5989-4627-95df-fcc4f8702803">Re: AW: bad news... (and kind of a vent)</a>:
    [QUOTE]THX Lunar!! Welcome to NEY as well!!! You see like a really cool chica and I look forward to getting to know you! (<--clicky) (sorry, <strong>I've had some wine..</strong>..)
    Posted by lmwilber[/QUOTE]

    Thanks!
    ::looks at Andrew with big, wild eyes:: <em>I need more wine!!</em>
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  • peekaboo2011peekaboo2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    LM, I'm sorry.  That sucks.  *hugs*  Although it sucks more that your family is being a bunch of stupidheads.  *double hugs*

    They'll come around.  And you'll rock it the next time you take it.  :)
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm sorry you didn't pass :( It is really crappy of your family to not support you when I'm sure you feel bad enough as it is. They will come around though, I'm sure they are just disappointed right now but they will get over it.

    Until then we are always here for you!


  • desertsundesertsun member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh, boo, I'm sorry to hear you were soclose and didn't pass. :( But it sounds like you're trying really hard to stay positive and just put in the work to make sure you pass next time. It's not uncommon to not pass the first time, from what I understand. You're a smart lady, and you are gonna ROCK that bar next time! I wish your family was being supportive, but I ditto Beth -- WE are here for you! ::HUGS::


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  • edited December 2011
    I'm sorry that it didn't work out, but at least your so close and you know what to expect next time. 
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  • becunning2becunning2 member
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    I think the worst part of all of this is your family not supporting you.  But sometimes parentals are stupid.  :(

    You're doing the right thing by trying to stay positive; you definitely want to be positive NOW so that when you come time to rock your test you can focus on how you KNOW you can do it and ROCK it!

    I like studying on my patio.  So you won't have to miss all of summer. And it's a good idea to at least take *some* time for fun during the summer. 
  • edited December 2011
    I'm sorry that your family is not being supportive.  It could be worse though. 

    Studying outside sounds awesome!!!! I have one class to take in the summer and summer is my favorite semester because it is always so nice outside and the campus isn't crowded so I can eat my lunch outside wherever I want in peace.

    Summer is so good for studying, you will pass your next bar.
  • edited December 2011
    *HUG*  I'm sorry.  As a fellow lawyer-in-training, I know how much material you have to master to pass the bar.  It's really tough.  Really, don't beat yourself up over it.  It won't help.  Take a day (or seven) to feel like shiit, then pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and hit the books.  You said it yourself, you CAN do this.

    As for your parents...no offense, but they kind of sound like tools.  Why do you need unsupportive, critical, and frankly cruel people like that in your life?  Admittedly, I am biased (because I am NOT close to my parents and draw very FIRM boundaries regarding what I will and will not tolerate from them)...but seriously, if your parents continue this behavior, I wouldn't hesitate to let them know that their jobs as parents are to love you unconditionally and support you and the way they are behaving is only making things worse.
  • leia1979leia1979 member
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    edited December 2011
    So sorry! But you know you're almost there. I'm sure you'll get it on the second try.

    I'm also sorry your family isn't being supportive. You can always come here to get some cheering up.

    I don't know how it is in Ohio, but I've heard that most people don't pass the CA Bar on the first try. One of my friends went through this same situation. But she passed on the second try, got married, started her practice, and now has a new baby.

    Things will go the right way for you!
  • luvdncn90luvdncn90 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm so sorry to hear that! I know it must stink because you were so close but just think of it this way, now you can pass it with flying colors next time because you know what you need to work on. *Hugs*

    I agree with PP's, I think the worst part is your family being so unsupportive. That really sucks and you shouldn't have to deal with that. At least your have your SO there and we are always here to support you. Congrats on graduating, that's super exciting!
  • IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    edited December 2011
    *Hugs* LM, I'm sorry you didn't pass, and that your family are being patootieheads...Or if you could see me sign *Stupid cows* :-P It's funnier when you see it...it's one of my go to moves when people are being retarded.

    Know that we are here for you, and I know you will ROCK and kick some serious a$$ when you re-take it :)
    love thoughts and prayers :)
  • ravenrayravenray member
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    edited December 2011
    *Hugs*  I am sorry you didn't pass!  You are not a failure!  Everything happens for a reason.  Sorry your family is being stupid.  :(
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  • lmwilberlmwilber member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks Ladies!! SO is being awesome about all of this, very supportive and loving. I'm very lucky to have him.
    As for my parents, in hindsight (and after a talk with SO a/b the situation with them) their actions are kinda par for the course. I know that they love me, they're just not really good at being supportive. Plus, as SO pointed out, they prob expected me to have some big dramatic melt down. I can not change how they treat me, just how I react to it. My sis have been pretty good a/b everything, she was with me when I got the results (she came over on her way to work). My parents seem to be coming around slowly, I'm walking in the graduation ceremony a week from today, and next Saturday we have having a grad party at their house with some family. They are trying to be supportive in their own way. I can't make them act in the way I would like, but I can control how I react to their actions.

    Thanks again for the hugs and support!
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  • lunarsongbirdlunarsongbird member
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    edited December 2011
    Make sure to post some pictures of your graduation!! :)


    Let's see if I can find any of mine...Ah ha!



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