Future In-laws

zaneopal

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_future-laws?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a3f71a2d-cccb-4997-b4b7-9f0f63a8e313Post:4fcdfce2-4661-4f58-96df-c79d54cb257c">Re: Future In-laws</a>:
[QUOTE]1-he is very independent financialy  as am i, i have 3 jobs to keep it that way. 2-when are you officailly "ready" to get married? is there an exact age that i can go by? if so, by all means, name it. :) oh and how is any of this to help about my mans parents?
Posted by Kayla&Coby[/QUOTE]

1. You said you have these 3 jobs to pay for school. Where will this money go when you start school again? Will you still have all three jobs, or at least one?

2. I believe you are ready to be married when you are able to identify yourself without your parents or him. You know who you are as a person, how you respond to challenges, how you can survive on your own. You don't want to have to live without him, but you are able to do so. You can go out and be in the world as Kayla-on-her-own, not just as the Kayla-and-Coby unit.

I believe you need to be able to rely on yourself--having someone else there to lean on is a bonus.

**Mutley**

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[QUOTE]1-he is very independent financialy  as am i, i have 3 jobs to keep it that way. 2-when are you officailly "ready" to get married? is there an exact age that i can go by? if so, by all means, name it. :) oh and how is any of this to help about my mans parents?
Posted by Kayla&Coby[/QUOTE]

A few edits

1.  He is very independent financially, as am I.  I have 3 jobs in order to keep it that way.

2.  When are you officially 'ready to get married?  Is there an exact age that I can go by?  If so, by all means, name it.  Oh, and how will any of this help me deal with my man's parents?

sapphirebaby926

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_future-laws?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a3f71a2d-cccb-4997-b4b7-9f0f63a8e313Post:4fcdfce2-4661-4f58-96df-c79d54cb257c">Re: Future In-laws</a>:
[QUOTE] oh and how is any of this to help about my mans parents?
Posted by Kayla&Coby[/QUOTE]

Well we can't help you with that until you give us some details as to why they don't like you which has already been asked for and you haven't provided the information

Button5807

YOU ARE A FRIGGEN IDIOT

Marriage is not about colors or destination that's the wedding.

sapphirebaby926

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_future-laws?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a3f71a2d-cccb-4997-b4b7-9f0f63a8e313Post:4322a649-4a13-4aba-951a-e48f20972c7a">Re: Future In-laws</a>:
[QUOTE]Before his Mission we talked about getting married in depth. Colors, Destination, We looked at lots of rings, how many kids we want, how we want to raise our kids, Where we would live after we got married.
Posted by Kayla&Coby[/QUOTE]

I don't have time to write out a full response but the first 3 things you mentioned have NOTHING to do with a MARRIAGE!!

ekathleen684

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_future-laws?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:a3f71a2d-cccb-4997-b4b7-9f0f63a8e313Post:580bbf5f-d59e-4b97-b41c-90f909c43a37">Re: Future In-laws</a>:
[QUOTE] please, give me two reasons you would want to wait to get married to the guy you love.
Posted by Kayla&Coby[/QUOTE]

1.) I did not want to live in his parents basement...ie wait to be financially stable and be able to give ourselves the "life we've become accustomed to"
2.) We needed health insurace- somehting you will not have once you are married.

I  know how you feel. I've been with my "lover" for 6 years. We started dating at 17/16 and at 18 we were secretly planning on getting married once we were both 18. After all, he had proposed and given me a promise ring. Am I glad we waited (and are still waiting) yes I am. I got to go out and do my thing, he got to do his. We both were able to grow not only on our own but with each other. 


 If your 100% sure your going to marry him, why not wait? Your going to be together forever anyways, what's a few years of not being married going to hurt?

Now please, give me two reason why you wouldn't want to wait to get married to the guy you love.

ekathleen684

There is a difference between talking about "marriage" and "getting married".

Color, destination, and rings all fall under the getting married column, NOT marriage.

noelle24

Ladies, thanks so much for quoting.  Deleting Debbie left a lot of holes in the conversation otherwise....

Also, I'm not touching this post with a 10 ft pole.  My brain would explode.

sapphirebaby926

And to think I was actually going to write a good response to this and I come back to find she has deleted most of her posts

katanne9

Hahahahaha. Deleting Debbie.

bajediva

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_future-laws?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a3f71a2d-cccb-4997-b4b7-9f0f63a8e313Post:75eaf2f0-fea2-4e76-a9ba-9bf96fa62919">Re: Future In-laws</a>:
[QUOTE]Ladies, thanks so much for quoting.  Deleting Debbie left a lot of holes in the conversation otherwise.... Also, I'm not touching this post with a 10 ft pole.  My brain would explode.
Posted by noelle24[/QUOTE]
noelle, you stole this right outta my head! Ditto!

nefariousmango

Button- I want that button!

zaneopal

You know, I got up this morning and had hoped that DD had responded to our questions.

Anyone want to put money on how long it takes her to run crying to E or WW about how mean we are?

PaigeMcC

I can't believe I missed all the fun! Damn dinner parties.....

Thanks for quoting tho ladies, I'd be so confused otherwise.  Whata tool.

jgcohn

Woah, I can't believe I missed this!  The quoting definitely helped with the entertainment factor