GAH. A vent.

marleylikeair

So today, my sister has been posting statuses on Facebook about hurting, crying, "f%^# everything" and more. Aaaaaaand she won't talk to me. Which we can usually do. We FB chatted for about 2 minutes and I didn't ask what was up because I'd texted her earlier asking if something had happened, and she said, "Yeah. I don't want to talk about it." The FB chat ended because she signed off (or got disconnected...?).

I'm her sister. Why doesn't she want to talk to me? I guess we used to be closer than we are now, which makes me sad. But we're still pretty close.

I'm pretty sure I know what it is--that her BF broke up with her or asked for a "break" again. I think that's probably the only thing that would elicit a status like the first one of the day that said "never thought it would hurt this much." Unless someone died, which I'd know about.

I guess I just need to let her come to me and not pressure her to talk. Which is hard--I want to help. GAH. Frustrating. Upsetting. GAH.

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bethsmiles

When I am upset about something I usually don't like to talk to people about it right away (although I don't post about on FB either) but let her come to you on her own time. If you pressure her to talk about it she will probably just get mad at you, so its better to just let her know that you are there for her. Maybe you should try giving her a call...just to let her know you are thinking/care about her.

Simply Fated

It's funny how she won't talk to you... but she'll post all over facebook how she's so upset.
Honestly, when people do that, it's usually just for attention so people will ask what's wrong. They're 'false' cries for attention.

If she wants to talk to you about it, she will. Otherwise, don't worry about. You offered an ear and she declined.

Elle1036

I'm sorry she won't talk to you.  It's hard to feel helpless when someone you care about is hurting.

I agree with Beth, though.  I think the most important thing you can do is just let her know that you're there for her if she needs you.  That alone may be enough to help her feel better.

[Deleted User]

She may be posting on FB to get the attention of the person who hurt her...

Give her time, she'll come around...

PaigeMcC

I know she's your sister but I have to say this : Posting stuff like this on FB is generally done for attention.  She's looking for attention from someone and she's not getting it so she's posting about it.   AW to the extreme.

That being said : I'm sorry she doesn't want to talk but I'd just let her know that you're there if she needs you and then leave it be.  

marleylikeair

Gals, thank you so much for your thoughts on this.

I absolutely agree on the attention-getting part of it. She picked that up from our mom. (Yep, unfortunately, I have a mother with the emotional maturity of a teenager.) I wish she'd cut it out. At some point, I want her to learn to trust how terrific she is and how many people love her, instead of seeking validation every so often by posting on FB.

Sunbird--wish I could do your pizza idea, but she's about a 7 1/2 hour drive away. :-/

I did offer to send her cookies or explosive devices (JOKE!), her choice. Hopefully that was enough to let her know I'm here without being too invasive or feeding too much into the AW.

Thanks again, ladies.