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When my mother was my age...

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I saw a link for this thread on SB and decided that we needed one of these, too!

When my mother was my age...

- she had already been divorced twice and was married to my father for about a year...
- she had lost 2 babies at birth and had 2 miscarriages...
- she was pregnant with me...
- both of her parents had passed away...

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  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    When my mother was my age...

    She had a nearly 4 year old (me)
    She was living up north, farrr away.

    and that's all I know! So mysterious haha
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  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    edited December 2011
    I saw this on SB a few days ago.  Good idea SB!

    When my mother was my age...
    - She worked for the Red Cross...
    - She was bordering on anorexic....
    - She had a stalker...
    - She had her Soc. degree and was working on nursing...
    -  She was getting married in 10 months...

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  • sessionsweddingsessionswedding member
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    edited December 2011
    When my mother was my age, she was getting ready for (or had just had, I can't remember which) her first marriage and was working at an optician's office.
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  • motoLynmotoLyn member
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    edited December 2011
    When  my mother was my age...

    • she had just moved to California after living in Baltimore, Maryland for 7 years dealing with snow.
    • she had survived crossing the pacific ocean on an air craft carrier escaping Vietnam with her hubby (my dad) and other family members.
    • she was pregnant and given birth to me. 
    • she was putting herself through school to get her degree in Electrical engineering.

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  • Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited December 2011
    I just C&P this, I asnwered on SB

    Hmmm, Mom is 50, I'm 25.

    In October, she had me!  
    She was 3 weeks past what they told her was her due date.  She was watching an Oprah special about an IUD that was pulled off the market for causing infertility.  She got pregnant with me while using it. She gave up on BC and got her tubes tied after I was born.

    Today, she had a two-month old baby, a 6yo daughter, and was back at her job being a GM at a Pizza Hut. It was a great paying job that she later gave up to be with us.

    She had been married for 8 years.

    A little before she got pregnant with me, she became the first female member of a non-profit young professional organization that finally went Co-Ed.
    (I am now a member of this also.)
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    edited December 2011
    she had been married to my dad for at least 2 years.
    her dad was going through kidney failure and dialysis and had only a year to live.

    that's all i know!  they waited 6 years before having kids, and they don't talk much about their marriage pre-children.
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  • CASK85CASK85 member
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    edited December 2011
    When my mother was my age she:

    Had an almost 3 year old daughter (me!) and was pregnant with my sister! 
    Was married to my dad (she isn't anymore)
    Had been married and divorced once already to another guy (before dad). 
    Loved the crap outta me :) 
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  • Blue & WhiteBlue & White member
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    edited December 2011
    She had been married for 2.5 years (her anniv. is right next to my bday, it's very easy to do the math)
    She worked at a bank.
    She was married to a man who worked...at a cheese factory (in logistics, but it's still CHEESE!)
    She didn't want kids, at all (and didn't have them for another....7 years)



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  • calindicalindi member
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    edited December 2011
    When my mother was my age...

    She had been married 7 months.
    She was moving to Ft. Lauderdale, Florida.
    She was a special education teacher.
    She was trying to get pregnant, and would have 2 miscarriages before she had me.

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  • Bec20Bec20 member
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    edited December 2011
    When my mother was my age she was one month away from graduating high school.

    It sounds really bad when I put it that way haha.  Ontario had Grade 13/OAC up until a few years ago and she has a February birthday, so she was 19 and 4 months when she graduated.  My birthday is in September and there's no grade 13 so I graduated a year and a half ago .  Now that makes me seem really young.
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  • HeartOverMindHeartOverMind member
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    edited December 2011

    When my mother was my age she...

    -February: Got pregnant with me
    -April: Married my dad in Kenosha, Wisconsin
    -November: Gave birth to me

    Wow...she had a very busy and life changing year!

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  • skyler1108skyler1108
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    edited December 2011
    When my mother was my age......

    -she had been married to my father for a year
    - she was in the process of buying a house
    - she was pregnant with my older sister
    - she was working as a cake decorator at the family bakery and as a gas station attendant.
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  • eidna22eidna22 member
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    edited December 2011
    She had a 7 year old daughter.  
    Had been divorced once and married twice.

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  • mellimel19mellimel19
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    edited December 2011
    When my mom was my age...

    She had endured a very long and stressful escape from communist Czechoslovakia (still one country then) and was already living in New York, married to my father and a stay at home mom to a 12 year old and a 4 year old (me!).
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  • sweetplevsweetplev member
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    edited December 2011
    when my mom was my age she was married to my dad for 6 years and has 2 boys and at this time of year was 9 months pregnant with her 3rd son....she was living in south africa
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  • bsidebellabsidebella
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    edited December 2011
    This all of a sudden made me very sad. I don't know a whole lot about my mom's life when she was my age. I spend a lot of time with her, but I never thought to ask.

    I can only assume that when she was my age, she was probably living with my dad and finishing up culinary school. She wouldn't marry him for another two years or have me for another seven years.

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  • Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited December 2011
    Bren, I'm being nosey.  You can tell me to shut up.

    How old was your mom when she had you?
    Meaning, how old were you 4 years ago?
    You said your mom had a 4yo at your age now, if so, bless her heart, that had to have been hard.
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  • sparkles88sparkles88 member
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    edited December 2011
    -She was living out of wedlock in San Diego with a truck driver (my dad) she met in a bar one night in her hometown in Illinois. She moved half way across the country to be with him after writing letters for 6 months. They dated for another 14 years (15 years total) before they got married.

    -She was doing cross country truck driving with my dad.

    -She was taking some college courses in San Diego.


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  • GreenPepperBurgerGreenPepperBurger
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    edited December 2011
    -She was still living at home, studying to become a teacher (she actually never became one).

    -Her mother was already sick with the cancer that would eventually kill her.
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  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_mother-age?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:ac7d13d4-546a-43a0-b8ea-2f3344bb3dfcPost:4469d2d6-3d45-4f69-a20b-cd76c9d5cae8">Re: When my mother was my age...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Bren, I'm being nosey.  You can tell me to shut up. How old was your mom when she had you? Meaning, how old were you 4 years ago? You said your mom had a 4yo at your age now, if so, bless her heart, that had to have been hard.
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    I don't mind. My mom was 16 when she had me. But she moved away when she was 17 (and I was 1) so my grandmother actually raised me after that.
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  • calindicalindi member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_mother-age?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:ac7d13d4-546a-43a0-b8ea-2f3344bb3dfcPost:26e32e93-eee8-4922-a696-8d032660b876">Re: When my mother was my age...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: When my mother was my age... : I don't mind. My mom was 16 when she had me. But she moved away when she was 17 (and I was 1) so my grandmother actually raised me after that.
    Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]

    Wow... that had to be challenging on all involved.  I'm really glad you had a grandma who was willing to raise you!  You seemed to have turned out good, so she did a good job!

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  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_mother-age?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:ac7d13d4-546a-43a0-b8ea-2f3344bb3dfcPost:61450381-7be1-4e7d-8f84-9022bf0ccda7">Re: When my mother was my age...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: When my mother was my age... : Wow... that had to be challenging on all involved.  I'm really glad you had a grandma who was willing to raise you!  You seemed to have turned out good, so she did a good job!
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    My grandparents are both awesome. They love me to pieces and spoil me rotten <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-innocent.gif" border="0" alt="Innocent" title="Innocent" /> but really, they gave me the life my mom never could have. So it's all good! And thank you, Cate! That's a wondeful compliment.
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    edited December 2011
    - she was in college (she went to a school that had just recently become co-ed)

    - she hadn't even met my dad yet


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  • NarwhalNarwhal
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    edited December 2011
    when my mom was my age

    she already had a toddler, my older sister.
    she had been married to my dad for three years.
    she was living in Germany (or France).
    Soon after she would move back to the States and wait for my dad's deployment to end.
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  • JMM4208JMM4208
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    edited December 2011
    When my mom was my age...

    -She had been married for 4, almost 5 years.
    -Lived in a decent house for the time.
    -Worked for a linen store.
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  • mookow86mookow86
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    edited December 2011
    She was teaching middle school and wouldn't meet my dad for another year or so, wouldn't get married for another 6 yrs, and wouldn't have me for another 13 yrs.
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  • HaneyMobileHaneyMobile
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    edited December 2011
    When my mother was my age

    -She had already been married and divorced.
    -Had remarried (my dad) and had been for 4 years
    -Worked in real estate

    That's pretty much all I know up until that point. I'm 24 and my mom didn't have me until she was 26. My parents didn't originially plan to have kids. It's hard to think that my mom had been married twice by the time she was 20. Gross. Don't tell her I said that though. ;) 
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  • calindicalindi member
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    edited December 2011
    Yeah, I hadn't realized until this poll that she had already gotten married by the time she was my age.  I always figured she was 25, but then I stopped and did the math (and used a handy online calculator to tell the time difference between dates - her birthdate and her wedding date) and realized she was 24 years old and 5 months when she was married!  I'll be 25 next week.

    My grandma pulled me aside at my 18th birthday and said, "You beat me!  Keep going - you gotta beat your Mom."  Meaning my grandma was pregnant at 16 and got married and gave birth before she turned 18.

    Guess I've already "beaten" my Mom!  Craziness...

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  • StarGazingHikerStarGazingHiker member
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    edited December 2011
    When she was my age...

    She'd been married and divorced
    Remarried to my dad for 4 years
    Had a 1 year old (me!)
    Was a stay at home mom
    and living in the town she was born and raised in
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  • leia1979leia1979 member
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    edited December 2011
    Hmm...When my mom was my age, it was early 1982 (I'm 31 today, she turned 31 in March of '82). She had been married six and a half years, had a daughter that was just over two (me!), and was working at Intel as an engineer with a bunch of technicians reporting to her. She'd also owned her own home (with my dad) for three years already and drove a maroon Plymouth Sapporo.



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