Ugh -- this is not going to help me stay patient!

Elle1036

Facebook just informed me that yet another of my friends is engaged.  And while I'm very happy for her and all, I just...  grrrr.  She hasn't been with her guy as long as BF and I have been together, and I know that it doesn't matter, every relationship is different, etc., but I just really think that it should be my turn now.

Talk me down, please, ladies!

rxjen

Hang in there!

Ive seen many people on my Facebook that have known each other for 3 months and are already engaged, it's ridiculous, no jealousy here but it just seems like a lot of women just jump at the first man they can and hold onto for dear life...It's annoying......

It will happen for you before you know it

loopy82

I know how you are feeling. Since DH and I started dating, I watched people get together, get engaged and get married before we got engaged. It can definitely make waiting pure torture. I say good luck!

SeaTea02

BF's cousin has

been single, got engaged, got married, got divorced, met someone new, and got enaged again since we first started dating.

She will be married the 2nd time before our first.

KelseyD207

A buuunch of my friends have been getting engaged this month. I dunno if it's the time for engagements, or what.

But! I bet it'll be awesome for you when it happens.

orangecrush32

I know how you feel (sort of). My bf is going crazy with all his friends getting engaged to girls they've pretty much just met. He wants to get engaged right now, but I told him I want to wait until I'm done with school so I can focus on the engagement and planning better. It bugs me a little too, but not nearly as much as him. You just gotta keep telling yourself that when your day comes people will be jealous of you too. haha.

SeaTea02

Being engaged is so much fun!!!

This is my friend's status right now. I want to slap her lol

orangecrush32

okay now that's just rubbing it in.

Elle1036

Oh jeez, Sea, when I first saw your post I was like "WTF" and then I saw what was written under it.  LOL.

Thanks for the support, everyone.  I know it will happen soon enough -- BF has the ring already -- but I told him not to feel pressured to give it to me right away.  I pretty much took control on the ring, so I wanted him to be able to propose in his own way.  Now, though, I'm wondering just how far he'll take that. 

redheadtmk

Just look at it the way I do.....I am waiting until they are all married so that I am the only one having a wedding that summer and will get all the attention from everyone and not have to share the spotlight!  

stemms8810

Oh the joys of Facebook!  I love FB but sometimes you see things that you really wish you wouldn't have seen LOL.

kate712

I feel your pain, it always sucks to see that. One of my younger cousins got engaged and my grandma informed me that I was three years older and asked when I was getting married. Err. 

Just think of it this way: You will get to see all of their weddings before yours. You will get to see what works, what doesn't, and learn what you want for yours. Doesn't make it much easier, but some of them might not even end up married. A few of my friends have been engaged and then never followed through.

MLekathLEEN

These two someecards made me feel better at times like this...

PaigeMcC

EKath FTW.

bourgehm

O facebook....

One of my 'friends' put "School is SO hard!" as her status.  Her boyfriend commented "That's not the only thing getting hard!"

I just about threw up. Do people know everyone else can see that too....

leia1979

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ugh-this-not-going-stay-patient?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:acd5912b-f1e0-4ab5-8d24-19980b368d0fPost:a74943a6-6e3a-42a1-bbb8-19ac406faac2">Re: Ugh -- this is not going to help me stay patient!</a>:
[QUOTE]Being engaged is so much fun!!! This is my friend's status right now. I want to slap her :) lol
Posted by SeaTea02[/QUOTE]

Really? 'Cause I don't feel any different than normal. I'm not sure what's supposed to be so fun.

Sometimes I think people like that just don't have anything else going on.

**Mutley**

You really need to calm down.  When others get engaged is no reflection of your relationship.  How you respond to those engagements is a reflection of how you feel about your relationship.

motoLyn

I agree with Leia, it was exciting for the two-three days afterward cause I was getting used to wearing a ring (I normally don't wear rings) after that life was the same as before.  I wake up next to my Danish man, we grab coffee together, I kiss him bye for the day and off to work we go.  Do that 5 days out of the week. 

I went through a period in time when all of my high school friends were engaged, it was unnerving cause I was thinking "aren't I suppose to be there too?" that passed cause I realized it was the wrong time to marry, I was still going to school.  Then college friends were getting engaged and yet again I went through the questioning phase.  I had evaluated my life at that point and i came to the same conclusion, WRONG time.  You and your BF have a strong relationship so there's no question that it'll happen.  When I finally gave in and just lived my life in the present was when my BF turned into my FI.  So I know your patience is wearing thin right now, but I do hope that with the up coming holidays that family, friends and love will occupy your thoughts and push out those annoying thoughts of other getting engaged before you.

Elle1036

Ahhh thanks so much everyone!

Ekath - I might still one of those for my signature!

mellimel19

Elle,
You know your turn is coming soon   So as hard as it may be, try not to dwell on the engagements around you. When I found myself in your shoes, I would just daydream about what it would be like when we finally got engaged- how he would do it, where we'd be, what the ring would look like, etc. That may not work for some people - might just end up making them more anxious about it - but for me, just getting lost in those daydreams was soothing, and made me feel less impatient. If that doesn't work for you though, just focus on the holidays! Thanksgiving and Christmas will be here before you know it, and there's always lots to think about in regards to the holidays

paperllama

I used to feel the same way. Especially when my cousin (who is only 3 months older than me) got engaged to a guy she had only been dating for 3 months, and I had been dating mine almost 2 years.

However, whenever I start getting impatient, I look at the people around me. I can count 6 people that I graduated with (off the top of my head, I know there's more) that have been married. Out of those six, only one of them is still married to her husband, and they are expecting their second baby.

The other five, got divorced in a couple of years. One got married at 19, had a baby at 20, and divorced at 21. My cousin (that I will admit I was a little jealous of), is already divorced (it lasted less than 2 years).

Yes, like you said, every relationship is different, but think of it this way. When you DO get engaged/married, there will be a LOT of people that wish they could be as lucky as you.