When did you say, "I love you"?

GalindaElphaba

How long had you been dating?  How long had you known each other?

Also, how did it happen?  I love these stories!!

tafft1

With my FI we met online through a webiste of sorts and started talking via voice chat within a few days of "meeting" online. One night as we were saying our goodbyes , less than a week of talking before he said goodnight he said "I love you". I closed the voice chat and then it hit me..what did he say ??

I didn't sleep much that night but it circled in my head back and forth , then the next day when we talked I asked him if he meant what he had said..and he confirmed he did and was afraid it was going to scare me off..it didn't , I felt the same way and was scared of him running away too.

Button5807

How long had you been dating? 
I said it at 6 months he said it ant 7 months and we'd been living together for three months.

How long had you known each other?
Almost four years

Also, how did it happen?
I got drunk at a party and pulled him aside and said just a heads up, I love you, I don't want you to say anything now though and then scampered off.
 
He said it on halloween when we'd been drinking and got into a fight about what to do that night. I started crying and he told me not to because he loved me, I told him if he was just saying that I'd run him over with my car.

Thankfully we've grown up a bit since then and expanded our communication skills.

katanne9

When he said it we had been dating for about 2 months. He just said it one night while we were just talking.

I didn't say it for a while. Not because I didn't love him, but those things are really sacred to me. I had seriously dated a few guys and had just broken up with an ex when I met him, so I really wanted this to not be forced. He knew I loved him too, but I think I finally said it after we'd dated for 6 months.

We were on inner tubes floating on the lake for hours one day. I just looked at him and knew I was ready. He cried a bit. : ) Sigh, I love him.

Narwhal

i'm through accepting limits
cause someone says they're so
somethings i cannot change
but 'til I try I'll never know.
So long I've been afraid of
Losing love I guess I've lost

Well if that's love it comes at much to high a coooooooost
i think i'll try defying gravity
kiss me goodbye, i'm defying gravity
and you'll never pull me down

PaigeMcC

Hmm...well I THINK it was just before I left for school.  I remember him saying it just not when he said it....3 months of dating? Maybe 4?  We'd known each other for about 6 months at the point.

Anywho, we were just chatting and he grabbed my hand, smiled and then he went on a sphell about how he knew I needed to go back to school but that we'd had this amazing time and he didn't want me to leave and he was comitted to keeping this going if I was and then he just looked at me with his huge wonderful blue eyes and was like "I don't want to let you go. I love you."  I melted. I just took his head in my hands and kissed him and was like "I love you too.  And I'll be back before you know it...and you better be here."

4 years later he still is.  *sigh* I love that silly man....

desertsun

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[QUOTE]i'm through accepting limits cause someone says they're so somethings i cannot change but 'til I try I'll never know. So long I've been afraid of Losing love I guess I've lost Well if that's love it comes at much to high a coooooooost i think i'll try defying gravity kiss me goodbye, i'm defying gravity and you'll never pull me down
Posted by Narwhal[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Yup, BFFs. </div><div>
</div><div>LOVE that song!</div><div>
</div><div>The Glee version is awesome. :)

</div>

Narwhal

Okay my real story.  We were dating.. maybe 2 months.  If even that.  We had "talked" for a long long time before then, it just took him a long time to act on it.

We were in the car and he was taking me home.  We kissed goodbye and he said "Hey. I love you."

I got all giggly and said "I love you too" and jumped out of the car.

Then I had to turn around and go back because I forgot my purse.

I'm really terrible at dramatic exits of every kind.

jeanacorina

After a few months of talking to each other online, I finally typed "I love you" in chat.

He said..... *drumroll* "Thanks."

It took him until I gave up and started dating other guys to get jealous and tell me he loved me, too. Silly FI.

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]After a few months of talking to each other online, I finally typed "I love you" in chat. He said..... *drumroll* "Thanks." It took him until I gave up and started dating other guys to get jealous and tell me he loved me, too. Silly FI.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

Men are so silly!

dwest2201

We had been "dating" for about a month and a half, had been hanging out for about 6 months as just friends and knew each other for about 10 years prior. 

We were at my apartment watching a movie on my couch and we were kissing and just cuddling.  He said I have something I just have to tell you but Jimmy (his best friend) told me that I shouldn't tell you.  I didn't really know what he was going to say or not say but I said if you feel like you need to tell me something feel free but there's no pressure if you don't feel comfortable or don't trust me enough you don't have to tell me anything.  Then he got a little flustered and said "No, no its not that I don't trust you at all babe... it's that I love you" and I was looking into his big brown eyes and my heart just melted and I knew that I loved him too.  I said "good, because I think I love you too".

desertsun

Oh, and to answer the question:

We'd been dating about 6 months and had known each other about 9 months.

I was pretty sure we loved each other, but I waited for him to say it first b/c I wanted to KNOW he said it b/c he meant it and not just b/c I said it first. 

So we were laying in bed one night and he says, "I think I love you."

I shot back "You do or you THINK you do?"

And he said "I do. I love you."

I replied, "Oh, good, b/c I love you, too."

It still makes me laugh that I gave him a hard time about it!

catemeg

Oh, this is a good one!  And my story makes me smile every time because it's just so... goofy!

Okay, so I should preface this by saying we are not frequent drinkers, so we tend to have low tolerance.  In December 2008, my boyfriend had taken the LSATs after about 2 months of dating, 5 months total of being really good friends.  He got really drunk that night while we were celebrating with friends.  When we got home, he walked straight into my room and lay spread-eagle on the bed.  I closed the door so my roommate and her boyfriend didn't see, and proceeded to try to get him to drink water or throw up (he was REALLY drunk).  He eventually started getting sick, still laying face down on my bed with his head over the side and I was holding a trash can.  So romantic, right?  And he started mumbling, "I love you, you're the best, I love you so much."  I told him that I understood, but that he should tell me again in the morning.  I also wasn't sure he was cogniscent of who I was, so I asked, "What's my name?" and he got so indignant, "I know your name!  I love you!  Who you do think you are?"  Made me laugh, though he was a little pathetic.

He totally forgot, but I wasn't going to remind him!  Two weeks later, at my birthday party, it was my turn to get a little drunk.  My roommate's boyfriend had heard the drunken declarations of love, and asked me if I had discussed it with my BF.  I said no, I was waiting for him to bring it up again.  So he talked to my BF separately, and asked what was going on and how he felt about me.  He told the friend that he loved me, and the friend asked, "Well, why don't you tell her that?"

So walking back home that night, my BF turned to me and said, "So I was talking to Bobby..." and I cut him off and said, "Did he tell you that I love you, because I do!"  He looked at me a little stunned and said, "No, he didn't tell me that, but I love you, too."

Sounds like a hot mess, right?  But it was so cute at the time!  We had been the best of friends from the beginning, and we were both worried about rushing things because we wanted to be able to save the friendship if the relationship didn't work out.  Turns out we had nothing to worry about - two years later, we're planning when we want to get married (complicated because of school/military commitments), picking out engagement rings, and discussing venues and budgets!  He's the absolute love of my life, and I never thought I would ever find someone as perfect for me!

chipypony

Well, I had known my boyfriend since I was a freshman in high school, we were in band together and I tortured him on a trip to VA. Anyway, we started dating towards the end of my senior year in HS (he was in college) and since he was 4 hours away we spent a lot of time chatting on the internet, and he just typed it one day, it was very cute, although I was in shock. I think we had been dating about a month? But we had known each other for like 3.5 years and I knew he had liked me for a long time (he asked me out twice I said no just because I wanted to see if he'd keep trying and to make a point) but it worked out in the end. Anyway, not that spectacular of a story, but now I get I love you texts at random times through out the day. He's sweet like that.

[Deleted User]

Well, FI & I have known each other 8 years.  To be honest, I knew on our first date that I loved him and that he was the one.  We dated for a while and then went our seperate ways in life (I was young - like 18 and knew I wasn't ready to settle down).  We always kept in touch and then about 2 or so years ago we started talking more seriously agian and I can't remember what we were exactly talking about but I just very non-chalantly said "Well, I've been in love with you for 6 years...".  That was the first time I had ever told him and much to my suprise he responded with "I've been in love with you since the moment I met you.  I knew back then that you were the one".  We still both wonder "What if we would have told each other back then how we felt..."  But, I'm happy we both waited - I think we needed those life experiences in order to be at the place we're in now. 

Gahhh, I fall more in love with that man more and more every day...

catemeg

*warm fuzzies*

I love hearing everyone's "I love you" stories - so sweet!  Makes you remember we all love our guys, huh?

bethsmiles

We met at school, he lived in the dorm room below mine and we started dating a month after we met. I said I love you after Christmas break. He had gone back home to Colorado for the month and I had gone back to Idaho and it was the first time we had been apart for that long. When we got back we were cuddling on his bed talking about the break and I told him that I had something to tell him. But I was too nervous to say it so I wrote it on his hand with a pen. He took longer to say it though, he didn't say it until we had been dating for 6 months. But that day he got me flowers and took me out to dinner and then he said it at the end of the night.

zaneopal

We'd been together about three months, and known each other for six months or so.

I was showing him a dress I bought for some occasion (don't know what) and he got off his bed, put his arms around me and kissed me. I don't know what came over me but I just whispered "I love you" and then proceded to clap my hands over my mouth. I was mortified that I said it. But then he told me he loved me back.

The reason I was so embarrassed was because I'd never said it before. And to boot, the guy I dated before BF straight up told me at the beginning of the relationship that he felt that saying "I love you" cheapened the feeling and he never said it. So I got into the habit of not saying it, even if I wanted to do so.

But I got lucky with BF...he tells me he loves me every day.

PandaBurr

My FI said it to me at about 2 weeks, and my response was "What?" I reciprocated a week later.

**Mutley**

I don't believe in love.

Button5807

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[QUOTE]I don't believe in love.
Posted by **Mutley**[/QUOTE]

But I LOVE you!

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]I don't believe in love.
Posted by **Mutley**[/QUOTE]

I call bull!!

<3

Simply Fated

It took awhile for him to say and I knew I wasn't going to say it first... I was ready to pack up my bags and move back out west with my mother.  I was at his house and told him that he needed to give me more of a reason to stay. I never nagged him or sulked or pouted or any thing like that. He just wouldn't say the L word because (as he told me) He's been hurt before. I told him, well, I've been hurt before, too. And then I got over it. And I told him to give me a call when he was ready. I didn't even leave in a huff or anything. It was just that I had to leave, anyway. I went to my car and I wasn't even upset... or anything. I was just... done, lol. He caught me as I was getting into my car and told me. It was really cute, but a year later I asked him if he only said that as a way to ge tme to not leave or if he really loved me. I used to be very cynical, lol.

TuffysMommie

I don't really remember all the details, but he said it first after we had been dating for about 6 months, and I had just come back after a weekend getaway with friends. We were hanging out and he sorta just came out with it. And I replied "I love you too"

No crazy story, nothing out of the ordinary. 

crystal8503

My boyfriend and I have known each other since we were 8 years old and were in the same class all the way through senior graduation.  We are high school sweethearts and went to prom together.  When we went to our senior prom and were dating for only 5 months.  We were dancing to A Moment Like This by Kelly Clarkson and he sang almost the entire song to me.  Before the song ended, he told me this song fit perfect because there isn't a more perfect time to tell me how much he enjoyed being with me and how happy I make him.  He told me he loved me and I had butterflies and cried a bit because he is not the romantic type and it just made my heart skip!  It's 7 1/2 years later and I still have the butterflies and love him even more than that day, so hopefully he will get a move on things soon!  We are beginning to discuss marriage and I might have the same song as our first dance song because it means so much to me.  I can't even imagine how memorable his proposal will be because I know he wants it to be a lasting memory for the two of us, just as our first I love you is. 

catemeg

Kelly Clarkson came out 7.5 years ago?  Really?

That made me think you were really young at first (like, just barely 18 years old) but I guess you're probably early-mid 20's if 7.5 years is correct.  Geez....

crystal8503

Haha.....Yes, we were only 18 at the time but now we are 25.  I guess we were lucky and found it early in life.  :- )