FINE! I don't want you to come then. Jerk.

Acrosthec

So we're sending out reminders for RSVPs, and this is the response my mom got from one of their guests they invited.  The man has been friends with my dad forever, and I've known him since I was born just about.

Acro's mom,

 

Kevin sent me a copy of your email about the wedding.  Unfortunately, he says “no” to attending this or any other wedding ever.   Sorry, but I am sure this is his philosophical disbelief in the institution of marriage, based on his personal experience. 

 

Again, sorry,

 

Donna


Jeebus.  A simple "no" would've sufficed.  Douchebag.

Keep in mind this guy is married as well.  Donna is his WIFE.  Does he not believe in his own marriage?  I would be personally offended if I were her, not openly accepting of the fact that he had a "philosophical disbelief" in marrying me.  Ugh.

Oh, and he has two daughters.  God forbid they ever want to get married and ask him to attend. 

Narwhal

Wait. What? Wow.

dwest2201

Wow, what a douche. 

notquiteblushing

Wow, there's some trouble in paradise right there.  Seriously.  And even if her husband is a jerk who refuses to attend weddings his wife could have gone without him.  They both look stupid for sending that email.

Hazel_B

I am so confused...his wife wrote that?! It is one thing if he wrote it and no one in his family knew, obviously paradise isn't perfect. However, for his wife to write that...what was the conversation in that house before that was written? Bizarre!

ekathleen684

Before reading your end paragraph I thought, "who the F is Donna?!" That changed my question to a simple WTF?

I'm embarassed for her/them. I think a simple" no" would have worked also.

hetshup

Dear Sir/ Madam,

There is a decline on the RSVP, much like toilet paper, it is there to be used. Please don't use e-mail as your Sears catalogue.


Love,

Hetshup

Narwhal

It's stuff like this that reminds me that I'm doing the right thing going into marriage therapy. >_>

PaigeMcC

that's hella douche-y

Acrosthec

The guy was married once before, and his daughters (both younger than me, but in their 20s) were products of that first marriage.  He still maintains contact with them, and remarried Donna after his divorce.

From what I gather, Donna wrote the email.  All her husband told her was "I don't want to go to this or any other weddings."  She added in her beliefs on his reasoning behind that response.  But still...come on!

loopy82

Wow! That is bad! Thus far I have not yet encountered any rude RSVP's. Lets hope it stays that way. From lurking around on various boards and seeing a fair number of posts similar to this one, I continue to be in disbelief every time I read one. Why do people think they need to be so rude. They can just check No and put it the mail. End of story. Well.... I guess you can look at it as a few less mouths to feed.....?

aperitisa

Wow...I am speechless.  

GreenPepperBurger

"Given his personal experience"? Well, I just feel bad for Donna then. What a douchenozzle.

bajediva

That Donna is the real piece of work. Anyone can decline any invitation for any reason under the sun - that's his/her prerogative. But to communicate it like that? Ass.

Acrosthec

Got some more information on this guy from my mom during lunch hour.

1)  Apparently he's not concerned about his daughters ever marrying.  He told them that marriage is awful and they should never do it, and they should NEVER have children because their genes are bad.

2)  He's extremely bipolar and tries to self-medicate with various prescription drugs, and has attempted suicide at least 4 times that my mom knew about.

3)  He hates lawyers, so he would probably have given FI and I crap at our reception for this as well as getting married and ruined the whole event IF he had come.

4)  He was seeing Donna while he was still married to his ex, and told both his oldest daughter and my father that he was going to file for divorce BEFORE he told his ex-wife.  He married Donna at the JOP the day his divorce became final.

5)  The rumor mill in Savannah (and it's a HUGE rumor mill btw...gotta love small southern towns) states that he and Donna are currently "not spending time together."  Which to me translates to "separated."  Big shock.


Knowing all this extra info, I'm double glad he isn't coming.  I don't want anyone there that doesn't support our marriage or us, and it sounds like he would not do either.  However, I do hope he can find some help for his issues before it's too late.  If nothing else, for the sake of his daughters.

catemeg

Geez, what a jerk!  Poor Donna and daughters!  I hope the daughters ignore him - my friend's father told her the best thing she could do with her life was be a trophy wife since she was dumb as bricks, so she should hit on rich old men. These people who put their daughters down disgust me!

But Donna could have at least buffered his rudeness - just a simple "no" would have worked just fine, without being insulting towards your marriage.

You're lucky he's not coming.  Sounds like a miserable person, and I choose not to associate with miserable, negative people like that!

dwest2201

Wow, I certainly hope our parents will not include whack jobs like this on their list of friends to be invited!

Acrosthec

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_fine-dont-want-come-then-jerk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:b6092a7b-78a5-4b2f-ae04-17e7dc1fd1cfPost:6c2ab995-d9a8-4217-87c0-6b771acd0d0a">Re: FINE! I don't want you to come then. Jerk.</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow, I certainly hope our parents will not include whack jobs like this on their list of friends to be invited!
Posted by dwest2201[/QUOTE]

To be honest, I ok'ed him before they even sent their list because he's been one of my dad's best friends since I was born and I knew he would want him there.  The guy has never been anything but super-duper nice and respectful towards me.  I had no idea I would get this kind of reaction from him over an invitation to our wedding.  Just goes to show...I've "known" this guy 28 years now, and never knew any of this about him 'til today!