Pretty good article on weddings

Ollie08

http://hindsightbride.com/2011/10/10/open-letter-wedding-bloggers/#axzz1avivswmf

Some of the highlights:

"I’ve had a lot of photographers tell me that they only blog about weddings that are highly detailed or where the bride is pretty and skinny."

"How did this turn into high-fashion? Why are we daily hosting a who-can-have-the-weirdest-decorations-and-wedding-dress contest?"

Thoughts?

[Deleted User]

I like the overall message of the article. I felt terrible for the brides that said their weddings were boring and that the photographer probably didn't have much to work with. Not everyone can afford a $20K+ wedding - I know I won't be able to.

As a reader of blogs, however, I do think that most girls want to see the over-the-top stuff. Not because we want to replicate it for our own weddings, but because it's interesting to see and sometimes you get some creative ideas from it.

I think it would be wonderful to see a little more diversity in posted wedding pics, but I don't think it's the blogger's responsibility to attempt to change the entire industry. Would you expect to see a car advertisement with their most basic model, no extras on a boring dirt road? Doubt it. No one would buy that. And let's just all admit it, the wedding industry is selling an image here.

cu97tiger

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pretty-good-article-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b6bc2ea8-0250-4c41-8cde-d8dc016ae596Post:17bf016a-fc75-4613-8070-9d7c15c26bfa">Re: Pretty good article on weddings</a>:
[QUOTE]I like the overall message, too. I wish that blogs would feature more diverse weddings.  I don't think the blogger's post will change the whole industry, but I think that ideas like hers are valid and should be shared. <strong>And from what I understood, she was talking about photographers' blogs, not blogs like Style Me Pretty, which feature weddings from all over (and that often look the same). I think she was saying that photographers won't take on or won't blog about "boring" weddings. Which is sad and could make those of us who won't have weddings like that feel sorta bad. </strong>
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

<div>I got the opposite idea from the post. I thought she was talking directly to blogs like SMP or 100layercake, where a lot of the weddings feature gorgeous people, intricate (read: expensive) details and similar photography styles.</div><div>
</div><div>Most photographers that I've followed blog ALL the weddings they do, not just selected ones, so this piece wouldn't really speak to (about) them.</div><div>
</div><div>I feel like there are websites out there for everyone, it's all a matter of finding the blog/photographer that speaks to your sense of style.</div>

leia1979

I think allusive makes a good point. I guess I figure most "normal" weddings would not be featured because they are normal. That's why there are shows like "Platinum Weddings," where everything is over the top.

I was very happy with how my wedding turned out, but I would never expect it to be featured anywhere. It was very pretty, but also not out of the ordinary.

Now, if someone skipped an interesting wedding because the bride wasn't a toothpick, that's dumb.

wink0erin

I like mason jars and twine =X

Then again, I've ALWAYS liked those things because I grew up with them. I'm a little bit country =P

BUT, I'm sick of the rustic/vintage trend, especially when it gets really tacky. I love that kind of stuff and always have, but it's turned into a stupid trend and that makes me sad. =(

I also giggled by thinking about people looking back on their rustic weddings in 10 years and thinking "WHAT WAS I THINKING?" Kind of like the brides of the 80s with their giant poof sleeves and curled bangs. =D

wink0erin

Also, I have several photographer friends, and some of them use WAYYYY too many crazy filters on their photos. A couple here and there are ok, but EVERY PICTURE is a bit lame.

Narwhal

I liked this article. Sometimes when I was researching photographers I would think that I was working for them, instead of them working for us. I felt like I needed to "sell" our wedding to them. I still kind of feel like I'm going to disappoint the photographer because we aren't going all out the way some people do... we just don't have the time, money, or energy. And it's not what we want.