Was going to pop the question but our plans were cancelled ugh

dmz916_22295092

I found out that my boyfriend was going to propose 2 weeks ago when we were supposed to go away with friends, but our trip was cancelled due to an illness.  He still hasnt asked and I am not sure what he is waiting for!!  Should I try and plan a romantic evening for us and maybe that will give him another opportunity?  We have already agreed that we will be married next year but I don't want to start planning until I have the ring.  What to do? 

CT324

How did you find out that he was going to propose?  I dont see anything wrong with planning a nice dinner out.  But at the same time I feel like the guy should be the one planning everything for the proposal.  Maybe he already has something in the works. 

I also think my BF has the ring and its going to happen soon but at the same time I know that he would never do it in a restaurant.  So even if you plan a romantic dinner that may not be his ideal setting where he wants to do it. 

GL and keep us posted

GreenPepperBurger

I wouldn't try and "push" your boyfriend into proposing. He's probably very upset that he didn't get to propose the way he wanted to, and is now thinking of another way to propose. Just let him do it on his own time - if you have mutually agreed to get married next year, then a proposal should be coming soon. Just relax.

Also, it's bad internet safety to have your screenname as your username.

ekathleen684

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[QUOTE]I found out that my boyfriend was going to propose 2 weeks ago when we were supposed to go away with friends, but our trip was cancelled due to an illness.  He still hasnt asked and I am not sure what he is waiting for!!  Should I try and plan a romantic evening for us and maybe that will give him another opportunity?  We have already agreed that we will be married next year but I don't want to start planning until I have the ring.  What to do?  Dana
Posted by dmz916@comcast.net[/QUOTE]

I would wait it out and let him essentially plan the proposal. You know it's coming so try not to think about it and just enjoy the dating phase since it probably own't last much longer. After he proposes your mind will be racing with all things wedding, even if you haven't really started planning yet (like me)

Also, delete your username and make one that doesn't include your email address. Unless of course, you like recieving tons of spam mail :)

loopy82

Maybe he already has something else planned. It has only been 2 weeks. I know that feels like an eternity when waiting for a big thing like a proposal. However after the proposal happens the floodgates of stress are bound to follow. I know you will not believe it now, but at some point you will be sitting there and wonder why you were so eager and impatient to bring all this work upon yourself. Just relax and let him plan his proposal. Would he want you to plan a night out for him to propose or is it something he would want to do on his own? Even if you were to plan a nice night out doesn't mean that he would take the clue to propose then. Guys can be pretty clueless. Good luck!

dmz916_22295092

I emailed Knot help to have them remove my email address.  Thanks for the heads up. 
I am trying to be patient.  I hope he figures out how to do it again:)   

CT324

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[QUOTE]I emailed Knot help to have them remove my email address.  Thanks for the heads up.  I am trying to be patient.  I hope he figures out how to do it again:)   
Posted by dmz916@comcast.net[/QUOTE]

He will in the meantime just make sure your nails always look pretty :)

jeanacorina

He'll figure something else out. I'm sure it's disappointing for him to have it all planned out and then the rug pulled out from under him.

Let him figure out another way to do it. You have plenty of time, it's no rush. Try not to think about it and let him surprise you.

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I agree with everyone else, he's probably working out another way to propose so that you'll still be surprised.  It was so important to my FI that I be completely surprised when he proposed.  I had some idea that it was coming soon, but he had my parents and a couple other people who were in on his plans work very hard to convince me it wouldn't happen the day it did so he could make sure I was surprised.

It'll happen when the time is right and you'll be so excited.  Enjoy it!