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Ahhhh! Waiting for the ring is tough!

My BF and I were browsing rings last fall and I fell in love with one. We went Feb to look at it again and get ideas for his ring when the sales person accidentally blew his cover. She started talking about finances with me there! Now I know the ring is coming... I just don't know when and I'm so excited!
I feel like I should stop talking about how excited I am and put the planning aside (and the dozen magazines) so I can actually give him a chance to pop the question. LOL. I'm just so happy that it's difficult to wait. I want to tell all of my friends and celebrate!
Any tips?

Re: Ahhhh! Waiting for the ring is tough!

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ahhhh-waiting-for-the-ring-is-tough?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bd70ffa3-e81e-48b7-8d43-f234c37766b1Post:929ba635-c968-4b43-9a23-dfc2670ea580">Re: Ahhhh! Waiting for the ring is tough!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Yea, definitely put down the magazines and wedding planning. Wedding brain is a dangerous thing, even when you are engaged. Learn to be happy where you're at and enjoy the excitement.<strong> And, he may not propose the second he gets the ring.</strong> My FI held onto it for six weeks. One of the other girls on here has been waiting for almost a year with the ring in the house.  Again, put down the magazines and enjoy being warm and fuzzy with your BF. He'll really really appreciate it.
    Posted by audrewuh[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>I echo Audy on this statement. My fiance got the ring in November 2010. He proposed in August 2011, almost a year later.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ahhhh-waiting-for-the-ring-is-tough?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bd70ffa3-e81e-48b7-8d43-f234c37766b1Post:90529409-b9a3-4d39-abb6-9d7a5aa29a68">Re: Ahhhh! Waiting for the ring is tough!</a>:
    [QUOTE]We want to get married summer 2013. I asked that he just gives me enough time to invite our out-of-country guests. Are there others who have somewhat planned backwards like this? Choosing a timeframe before the ring?
    Posted by stacym13[/QUOTE]

    <div>You'll find they are few and far between. Granted, there are plenty of people who want to pick a particular season for whatever reason (such as I wanted to get married in Spring because the wedding is in Alabama, and summer is much too hot and fall/winter are too chilly for my liking), but most girls around here will tell you to relax and worry about that when the time gets here.</div><div>
    </div><div>Let's say you have your heart set on Summer 2013. What if he doesn't propose until Valentine's Day 2013? You're going to feel rushed to get everything together. A venue you really like may be booked up by then, or your Maid of Honor may be on a 2 week long cruise to the Bahamas during the date you want your wedding. If you want to get married in Summer for any particular reason, then that's fine, but it may have to be the next year's summer, or the next, so you'd be better off waiting for the ring, then deciding.</div>
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    Ditto Hulu.  Don't count your chickens, so to speak.  Until you guys are truly engaged and ready to start making concrete plans, you really shouldn't get your heart set on anything.
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    Elle and HULU are so wise! I particularly like what Elle said about getting your heart set on something. You may find, when it comes down to it, that you may not have the budget for this or the time frame for that. Why not look at other things that interest you (fashion, home decor, pets, etc) and day dream about those things too/instead?
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ahhhh-waiting-for-the-ring-is-tough?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bd70ffa3-e81e-48b7-8d43-f234c37766b1Post:2c53f462-8cbc-457d-a683-97e7973734de">Re: Ahhhh! Waiting for the ring is tough!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Elle and HULU are so wise! I particularly like what Elle said about getting your heart set on something. You may find, when it comes down to it, that you may not have the budget for this or the time frame for that. Why not look at other things that interest you (fashion, home decor, pets, etc) and day dream about those things too/instead?
    Posted by audrewuh[/QUOTE]

    <div>Or, you may find that by the time you get engaged, your tastes may change. When FI and I first got engaged, and I started thinking about planning, I originally wanted our colors to be navy blue and champagne. I also wanted a very modern looking dress.</div><div>
    Our wedding colors are peach and chocolate, and my dress has a LOT of vintage-looking lace and pearl beading. Absolutely NOTHING like I had originally anticipated. I also never even entertained the idea of having an outdoors wedding. I'm getting married in a vineyard. I couldn't be happier with how our wedding is coming together. Even when it came to my dress, my tastes changed. I didn't like A-line dresses, and I didn't want a train. I have both and love it.</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ahhhh-waiting-for-the-ring-is-tough?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bd70ffa3-e81e-48b7-8d43-f234c37766b1Post:7eabdd85-61eb-4975-9106-eebe6aae36c3">Re: Ahhhh! Waiting for the ring is tough!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ahhhh! Waiting for the ring is tough! : Or, you may find that by the time you get engaged, your tastes may change. When FI and I first got engaged, and I started thinking about planning, I originally wanted our colors to be navy blue and champagne. I also wanted a very modern looking dress. Our wedding colors are peach and chocolate, and my dress has a LOT of vintage-looking lace and pearl beading. Absolutely NOTHING like I had originally anticipated. I also never even entertained the idea of having an outdoors wedding. I'm getting married in a vineyard. I couldn't be happier with how our wedding is coming together. Even when it came to my dress, my tastes changed. I didn't like A-line dresses, and I didn't want a train. I have both and love it.
    Posted by HULU[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>HULU, I cannot wait to see pics from your wedding. :) </div><div>
    </div><div>And OP, she also gives even more good advice! And your BF may have a lot of ideas on his own. Mine sure does. This is both of y'all's wedding and something you need to plan together, once you are engaged, whenever that happens. 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ahhhh-waiting-for-the-ring-is-tough?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bd70ffa3-e81e-48b7-8d43-f234c37766b1Post:90529409-b9a3-4d39-abb6-9d7a5aa29a68">Re: Ahhhh! Waiting for the ring is tough!</a>:
    [QUOTE]We want to get married summer 2013. I asked that he just gives me enough time to invite our out-of-country guests. Are there others who have somewhat planned backwards like this? Choosing a timeframe before the ring?
    Posted by stacym13[/QUOTE]

    We actually had decided when we wanted to get married (month, not necessarily what year) a few months before we got engaged. But for now, put the wedding stuff down and back away. Take it from an old married hag--the planning thing is exciting at first, but after awhile you'll just want to get the silly thing over with.
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    Thread jack since these ladies are amazing and summed it up right.

    Where in WI are you from? Whats your favorite cheese? Do you like wine? I see you have a fur baby, whats his/her name?

     

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    edited March 2012
    Enjoy your relationship now.  And enjoy wearing non-engagement/wedding rings on your left hand while you still can.
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    How old are you?  What graduation are you waiting on next year?


    Forget just putting the magazines away.  STOP trying on dresses.

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_petite-bride-needs-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:b7e7df28-66c7-421f-ab1a-2f4a4d7b7007Post:cd7c1617-63d3-44df-acae-c3a3b07604b9">petite bride needs help</a>:
    [QUOTE]I am 5'1'', size 2/4, but I have curves. All of the info that I am reading says that someone my size should wear a sheath, nothiing fluffy, no bows, not a beaded bodice.... pretty much everythiing I find fun and sweet in a dress is not recommended. I want to look as happy as I feel, but all of the gowns suggested for me feel very plain. Here is a pic of one of the gowns that I tried on at David's Bridal that I think fits my personality. Let me know your suggestions (keep in mind it is 2 sizes too big). Any pics of petite brides or suggestions? Thanks!
    Posted by stacym13[/QUOTE]

    Is he your boyfriend or your fiancee? 

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_help-how-the-heck-do-you-know-which-dress-is-the-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:caa2106f-d6e6-4110-a345-86412c911d7fPost:a84a2afe-b584-4e8f-afd5-0cdb1141b26b">Re: Help! How the HECK Do You Know Which Dress is "The One"?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]BTW, <strong> I helped <u>choose my engagement ring</u> and after picking it I became almost obsessed looking at other options and started to panic a little. Eventually, I realized that the one I chose is absolutely perfect! I feel I will be similar when it comes time to dress shop. <u>The good news is, that when it comes to <font color="#FF0000">my fiance,</font> I don't have to second guess!</u> LOL</strong>
    Posted by stacym13[/QUOTE]
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ahhhh-waiting-for-the-ring-is-tough?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bd70ffa3-e81e-48b7-8d43-f234c37766b1Post:aba961d0-d69b-467d-8bcc-112dddb1a0d5">Re: Ahhhh! Waiting for the ring is tough!</a>:
    [QUOTE]How old are you?  What graduation are you waiting on next year? Forget just putting the magazines away.  STOP trying on dresses. In Response to petite bride needs help : Is he your boyfriend or your fiancee?  In Response to Re: Help! How the HECK Do You Know Which Dress is "The One"?! :
    Posted by TheMutleys[/QUOTE]

    Detective Mutley is at it again!  No news on the baby front yet?
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ahhhh-waiting-for-the-ring-is-tough?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bd70ffa3-e81e-48b7-8d43-f234c37766b1Post:3ac0d8d3-a67e-4576-966d-786402d8b348">Re: Ahhhh! Waiting for the ring is tough!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ahhhh! Waiting for the ring is tough! : Detective Mutley is at it again!  No news on the baby front yet?
    Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

    He's sitting tight.  I'll see him Monday, one way or another.  If he hasn't made his appearance, I'll have an ultrasound to check fluids levels.  I'll have other tests as well to make sure he is doing well.  If everything looks good, I'll get until 42 weeks before my OB will want to induce.  I want to go as natural as possible.  This means that I will be getting accupuncture, going to the chiropractor and a massage therapist next week in order to avoid an induction.  Haha.  If I do have to get a medical induction, DH and I decided to try for a St. Patty's Day birthday. 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ahhhh-waiting-for-the-ring-is-tough?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bd70ffa3-e81e-48b7-8d43-f234c37766b1Post:18b90e74-3df4-4906-98ee-94f40b2e9df8">Re: Ahhhh! Waiting for the ring is tough!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ahhhh! Waiting for the ring is tough! : I am not sure this is an age issue. If I am coming across as immature that's mostly bc of my excitement. It surprises ME how giddy I have been about this. It just feels that I am doing something for myself for a change and I got carried away. I have never been a person to fantasize about a wedding so when I leared it was going to happen to me and my BF I wanted to start brainstorming and got carried away :) My mom and sister were equally as happy and we all went out ONE day to try on dresses and we had a blast. I even had my sis try on one and she doesn't have a BF. Just girl fun. Did you have a specific reason for asking about my graduation or was that just tied in with the age thing? Choosing to call my BF a fiance in that post had to do w the context. Nothing was meant to intentionally deceive anyone. Sorry for the confusion. I just didn't feel it was necessary to describe in the selected post why I had known about the ring if I was not engaged (unlike this post which specifically addresses that issue). I didn't realize the way I was coming across online. Sorry if there was any confusion. Just can't talk right now w my friend's about it bc I want to wait until there is an actual engagement to announce. lol. Trying to find a way to let out the excitement resulted in theknot.com community
    Posted by stacym13[/QUOTE]

    I think the fact that you are avoiding answering Mutley's questions is very telling.
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    Welcome to The Knot, stacy. :)

    You'll get used to everyone as time goes on. Some are more brash and straightforward with you, and they only do it with the best intentions. I don't think anyone here would deliberately try to make you feel uncomfortable, they just come right out with what they say, and if you respond genuinely, then you'll find a nice community of girls to chat with.

    Are you graduating highschool? College? :)
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ahhhh-waiting-for-the-ring-is-tough?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bd70ffa3-e81e-48b7-8d43-f234c37766b1Post:6f896a79-1477-4535-8578-2c3d8c98e74a">Ahhhh! Waiting for the ring is tough!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Any tips?
    Posted by stacym13[/QUOTE]
    Chill your sh*t.

    That's all the advice I have to give. My boyfriend's had the ring for nearly a year now and we're still not engaged. Chill. Your. Sh*t.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ahhhh-waiting-for-the-ring-is-tough?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bd70ffa3-e81e-48b7-8d43-f234c37766b1Post:6f896a79-1477-4535-8578-2c3d8c98e74a">Ahhhh! Waiting for the ring is tough!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Any tips?
    Posted by stacym13[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yeah, I agree with everyone else--as excited as I know you must be (I was just there a few months ago), just try and put it out of your mind.  </div><div>
    </div><div>I am currently away at school; I've been away for a litte more than 6 months, with another 6 to go.  My fiance bought the ring (unbeknownst to me) in August, a week after I moved.  My dad let slip that something was up, although didn't give any specifics.  When I started asking questions around September/October, my fiance apparently called my parents and told him he wasn't going to propose as originally planned.  Once he calmed down, he stuck to his original plan--Christmas Morning!</div><div>
    </div><div>It took both him and my parents throwing me off the scent, distracting me, and encouraging me to focus on something else to get him comfortable enough to be able to propose in his own way, in his own time.  </div><div>
    </div><div>So, just as many others have said, just enjoy your relationship where it's at right now.  And yeah, with the planning I've done so far in the past couple of months, I've already hit a wall where I just don't feel like doing it anymore!  </div><div>
    </div><div>Good luck!!  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /></div>
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