How does your bf/fi/dh dress?

paintgirl

My bf loves his jeans, T shirts and sneakers. He will put on "good" jeans or khakis, a button down and real shoes if I ask, if we're going to a nicer restaurant, or sometimes if he sees me dressed well (but not always).

Is your bf/fi/dh stylish? I'm not talking GQ, but does he own more than three pairs of shoes (sneakers, not casual/not dress black, and dress shoes)?

He's a good looking guy and he looks so nice when he wears better clothes. I've tried complimenting him when he looks good (positive reinforcement). I've tried dressing better myself (lead by example). But the man still likes his Ts and sneakers. I don't care day-to-day, but I do like to go out every now and then when we're both looking good. (Does that make sense?)

I'm considering getting him some stylish sneaker-type shoes for Christmas, something he could wear with his Ts and pullovers but take them up a notch. But I don't want him to think I'm trying to dress him.

Do you buy your bf/fi/dh clothes? Shoes? Is he stylish or casual? Do you care either way?

elannis

Fi has to wear khakis and button ups for work, so I see him in that a lot, but I'd say he dresses in jeans and t-shirts any time he doesn't have to be in work stuff. He still has the kind of dressy/casual brown/black shoes even if he wears the jeans though. He usually only wears sneakers if he is going to work out or if he is slumming it, lol.

He really can't claim any of that style as his own though. His mom is a shop-a-holic and buys him new shirts, pants, even underwear just about every other time she sees him. She likes to shop at Kohls and can't turn down a "deal" when it's 40% off even though he and I both have mentioned over and over again that we literally have no more room for his clothes. Our closet is split up 25% mine and 75% his and then he has a dresser too. I currently don't have a dresser because mine is big and heavy and I don't want to move it up to our second floor apartment for a year, lol.

I've asked him before what he would buy if he actually needed to buy clothes and said he honestly doesn't know because he's never got the chance. He's not going to go spend money on clothes when he is over-run already. I think it's her way of showing love to buy him stuff that he "needs" though.

mookow86

I could have written your post, seriously! FI is not stylish in the least and has never bought clothes himself without being prodded and me going with him. He loves tshirts and khakis, and even though he only has to wear polos to work, he will immediately change into a tshirt when he gets home. Because, he says, tshirts are much more comfortable than polos. Huh? lol

We had engagement pictures taken a few weeks ago, and he wanted to wear his ruddy old sneakers for them. I was like, heck no! He failed to understand why this was not acceptable. After much persuasion, he bought a really nice pair of brown shoes, which are dressy enough for him to wear to work. I try telling him how sexy he looks in them, but he just complains that they are uncomfortable. Sigh.

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my H loves clothes and shoes.  he dresses very stylish (bu not too trendy), and sometimes likes to dress me too!  oy!

swhite2012

FI wears a lot of jeans and t-shirts, but enjoys dressing up when he has a reason. I also think I have turned him into a bit of a shoe hoar...lol

Swazzle

Your BF sounds a lot like my FI.  Sean loves jeans, tshirts, sneakers.  He's a skateboarder also so he wears those skateboarder sneakers that are wide & you definitely can't make them look anything better than super casual.  

Also, & this is something I will NEVER understand, he won't use a belt.  He uses a shoelace.  He says real belts are uncomfortable & it's a skateboarder thing.  It is true, whenever we watch the X-Games or something that on TV, they all have freakin shoelaces tied around their waists but I just can't.  That's one of my pet peeves I've learned to deal with LOL

I got Sean Vans shoes & he loves them and wears them pretty much every day even with a little dressier outfit than jeans and a tee. :

Overall, I really love his style. It's laid back & comfortable which is the same as me. I get annoyed though if we're going to a nice restaurant & I'm in a dress & I see him in jeans & a Dolphins tshirt.  I nicely tell him he needs to put on a polo or button-downimmediately lol

tuarceatha

My guy is particular about his clothing. I suuuck at selecting stuff for him. Unless he picks it out himself, I no longer purchase it for him. I used to be all into assisting my BFs with their wardrobes, but its different with my FI.

He dresses nicely. I remember that being one of his pros when we first started dating. ha I used to be all about "fixing" my exs. And eventually I found that burdensome, plus I'm not their mom so I don't need to decide that sort of stuff for them. Going into this relationship it was a positive thing on my part that I didn't want to "fix" anything about him, I just wanted to hang out with him as much as possible.

I think its important as adults to have a nice selection of clothes. Go ahead and wear whatever you want when you can, but when its time to dress up you should have those clothes available.

paintgirl

My bf does have to dress well for work. Suits a day or two a week, business casual on steroids the rest of the time. So I can see getting tired of wearing good clothes. But I lived in DC too long. The only time you wear sneakers is if you're running or going to the gym. Otherwise...

Rdr I like your idea of a kind of stylish sneaker to dress up the casual look a bit. I might do that for Christmas!

Swazzle

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[QUOTE]My bf does have to dress well for work. Suits a day or two a week, business casual on steroids the rest of the time. So I can see getting tired of wearing good clothes. But I lived in DC too long. The only time you wear sneakers is if you're running or going to the gym. Otherwise...<strong> Rdr I like your idea of a kind of stylish sneaker to dress up the casual look a bit.</strong> I might do that for Christmas!
Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]

<div>Funny enough, I was looking through New Jersey Brides magazine when we first got engaged & they had one of those "Real Weddings" in there.  The guys were all wearing grey suits, white shirts, black skinny ties, & they were all wearing dark grey Vans.  FI & I both fell in love with this look, it's SO him, & so that's what he's wearing for our wedding!  </div>

peekaboo2011

My BF does what he wants.

And I'm really okay with it ;-)

thejucheidea

A t-shirt and khaki cargo pants with sneakers.

At work, he wears a button down shirt or a polo with a pair of khakis and leather shoes.

That is very seriously all he ever wears.

Beads921

I like how BF dresses - it complements my style well - but it's far from fancy. He wears jeans and a t-shirt, but his jeans fit him really well and so do his t-shirts, so it doesn't look anywhere close to slobby. Sometimes he'll throw a hoodie over top, which I don't like as well. I'd like him to start wearing cardigans - I think they'd go well with the rest of his clothes - but I don't know if that will happen.

He wears Sanuks (similar to Toms) on his feet. They're fairly beat up now, but when they were new they looked nice. A definite upgrade from the skate shoes he wore when we met (to be fair, I wore those at that time too). He only owns 1 pair of dress shoes, but they're fairly versatile.

His idea of dressing up is a button down or plaid shirt with the jeans. He has 2 pairs of not-jeans that he'll wear - dress pants and a pair of black Dockers.

We do have a problem with matching a lot of days, since we favour the same coloured tops with jeans on the bottom. He likes his style, and I think it looks good too. He really does worry about how he looks, and feels most comfortable in a few favourites, which is fine. He looks good when he dresses up too, although he's not a fan.

(I should add, he's a carpenter, so he wears rags to work on the daily. He also has his lip pierced [I seriously think it's super hot, most people disagree] and 2 unusual piercings in his left ear, which add to his overall look.)

bsidebella

FI has to wear slacks and a shirt and tie for work, but he can only wear shirts that are purple, green or white (those are his bank's "colors"). So whenever I go shopping and see purple, green or white shirts on sale anywhere, I snatch them up (got a $48 shirt once for $7! WHOO!)

When he's not working, he favors comfortable polos, sweatpants or t-shirts. If he's not going anywhere special (out to dinner or something like that), he doesn't bother with jeans.

Sometimes he gets his tie-and-shirt combos mixed up (he once tried to wear a dark red tie with a light purple shirt...yick), but otherwise he can dress himself pretty well.

Hazel_B

FI's clothes are all over the place.  He wears a full suit to work everyday, dressing up for him is when he breaks out the vests to go with it.

Outside of work he is definitely a jeans and t-shirt sort of guy. He also loves flannel, why I don't fully know. However, I met him when he was dogsledding with a full beard and wore flannel on a daily basis, so I knew what I was getting into.

He just looks so different between day and night. During the day his hair is really straightlaced looking and he's in a suit but at night his hair is disheveled and he wears t-shirts that show off his tattoo.

We both dress eachother actually. Last year I bought FI a suit with 2 shirts and ties for Christmas / anniversary. That's what he asked for and we worked together with a store that he got to try on suits for their fit when I wasn't there and then I worked with salesperson later to put everything together.

CCO2012

When I met BF he wore a lot of what he called "college style" and he had brown shoes, black shoes (not even his) a pair of KSwiss and a pair of Nike Shocks. Since he moved to St. Louis a little over a year ago he has gotten rid of all of his shoes (Thank goodness!) and all of his rugby shirts  and bought a bunch of new stuff.

For work he wears nice dress slacks and button downs with a tie most days and docker style pants and polos on casual days. On the weekends he wears thermal pull overs, sweaters and more fitted v neck type t shirts usually with nicer jeans. When he is super casual he wears gym type t-shirts and sweats, but he doesn't do this often, mostly because I don't like that look for most occasions lol. He also now wears Nike Air Max Tennis shoes for weekends (he has a different pair for the gym) or Sperry Topsiders, he also has a pair of Cole Haan black shoes and Steven Madden brown shoes for work and special occasions.

I definitely think his style has improved since we met, but he still could use a little more panache. Maybe once we have a bit more money he will step things up even more, since  he like dressing nicely.

lunarsongbird

The many sides of my FI....that all kinda look the same, really:

I don't like that black leather jacket...it has orange strips going down the sleeves. Ick. He doesn't buy new clothes very often. Jeans all the time. No bright colors- blue, greens and earth tones. Guess he would be pretty easy to shop for.

However- he really spiffs up for work:

GoldenPenguin

BF is very casual, jeans and a t-shirt - usually a Harley t-shirt of some kind - with casual (ie not workout) sneakers. He can jazz it up a little if we're going out somewhere nice, and he sure can clean up well in a suit & tie for really important events. I like his everyday style - I'm pretty casual myself most of the time, so it works. The only thing I HATE is that he's not a flip-flop guy... he wears Crocs (black ones, thank goodness) in the summer if he's not wearing sneakers. I not-so-silently judge him for it.

paintgirl

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[QUOTE]The only thing I HATE is that he's not a flip-flop guy... he wears Crocs (black ones, thank goodness) in the summer if he's not wearing sneakers. I not-so-silently judge him for it.
Posted by BriSox81[/QUOTE]

LOL no sandals of ANY KIND on my bf. He owns a pair. They're actually cool. They're still in the box. He won't wear them.

paintgirl

Ok, I see two themes here that could spiff my man up a bit without being too obvious or getting picky over nothing:

1. Cool sneaker-type shoes (DSW calls this: sport casual - whatever) that are comfortable but not white Nikes.

2. Ts that fit, rather than big floppy ones.

That's easy enough! And really - he's pretty good about dressing appropriately if we go out. I probably made this sound worse than it is.

QuiltingNurse

My BF dresses better than I do. When we go shopping he always buys more than I do, he has a style and usually sticks to it. He's always in jeans and a t-shirt and if it's cold he will wear a hoodie or plain button down over it. He wears skater type t-shirts and shoes (sometimes he wear converse hightops and in the summer flip flops). He always had a belt on with some kind of different buckle, thats always my favorite part of the outfit since it just adds something different (the Ninja Turtles one is my favorite, but I like the paramedic one too). He wears a uniform at work so it's the exact same thing everyday there. When we go out he usually wears a darker wash jeans with a button down shirt, and if its a very fancy event he has 3 suits he rotates between which are the exact same suit in different colours (black, pinstripes, and white). I love the way he dresses, he looks really put together and it just works on him (especially in the summer when he has the mohawk, the more conservative hair cut for winter just isn't him).

CCO2012

Flip flops an jeans are a huge no-no for me! If it is cool enough for jeans it too cold for fip flops! If the occasion requires more than shorts than its too dressy for flip flops. URGH.
You look like and A-hole Zach Effron!

polkadot111

FI likes jeans and tshirts and sneakers. Granted, he does have a few 'nice' sneakers. Not the gym type ones. But this is all he wears.

Whenever we go to a fancy dinner it includes a polo (always the same one it seems, even though he has a bunch) and khaki pants. But then he complains the whole time.

Whatever. Not worth the argument.

paintgirl

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[QUOTE] Whatever. Not worth the argument.
Posted by polkadot111[/QUOTE]

Hehe that was funny. :)

BF doesn't complain when we need to dress up a bit. He just naturally reaches for the casual stuff.

sparkles88

When BF and I met, he definitely had a dressier style than I did. I was fresh out of high school and still wearing Roxy tees, jeans, and skater shoes. He was sort of eccentric for an 18-year-old, and he wore things like pea coats, dressy jeans, and boots. He got into weight lifting just before we started dating, so he quit buying nice clothes. He didn't want to spend the money on them when he was going to grow out of them so quickly. For the longest time he wore T-shirts from the lifting meets he competed in, gym shorts, and flip flops. During that phase I always out dressed him. He's stepped it up a little now, because he's in grad school. He now wears button ups and nice jeans, so he at least looks semi-professional when he's meeting with his research advisors.

dwest2201

My BF's wardrobe is all over the place...he has more than a few pairs of shoes, even though he mainly wears just a couple.  He has two jobs with varying styles...day job (project and website manager) he wears dress pants or khakis with a button up and either brown or black shoes.  For job number two (friefighter/EMT) he wears a uniform and boots.

When he's at home he's usually pretty casual, gym shorts or sweatpants and t's or hoodies.  When we're just hanging low key (someones house, bowling, etc) he'll just throw on jeans an gym shoes with his t or hoodie.  If we go out to dinner or things like that he'll usually wear a polo or button up with nicer jeans and his brown shoes and brown belt.  He wears brown flip flops in the summer a lot, which doesn't bother me...he does have a thing for plaid shorts that I don't understand, but he wears kahki cargo shorts a lot too.

csousa1

BF works construction, so he wears crappy clothes for work. Other than that, he wears shorts or warm-up style pants around the house and for errands and such, or to a low-key friend's night, and he will wear jeans and a polo out to dinner or to a bar. We are fairly casual people all around, but I do like to get gussied up every so often. We did go through a mutual fat phase together last year where everyone we knew was hard-pressed to find either of us in anything but sweatpants.

BF is fairly....ripply in the muscles department. He has a serious booty and REALLY broad shoulders with big arms, so he has a hard time finding clothes that fit and feel comfortable to him. Anything that is constricting is not well-loved by him at all. If I find something that I think he will like, I pick it up. It ranges from nicer shirts to jackets to funny T-shirts (he LOVES those). I never even try to pick out pants for him. Most of the time he likes what I get.

He's a pretty casual guy, and I am A-ok with that. I have never been a fan of men in suits, and the dressy look on guys does not do much for me. Give me my dirty construction worker any day

sparkles88

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[QUOTE]BF is fairly....ripply in the muscles department. He has a serious booty and REALLY broad shoulders with big arms, so he has a hard time finding clothes that fit and feel comfortable to him. Anything that is constricting is not well-loved by him at all. If I find something that I think he will like, I pick it up. It ranges from nicer shirts to jackets to funny T-shirts (he LOVES those).
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]

This is the same problem my BF has! He has really broad shoulders, and it's hard for him to find shirts that aren't constricting! He also has fairly long legs (he's 6'5") and his thighs are really muscular, so he needs to try on like 10 pairs of jeans before he finds one pair that fits just right.

Swazzle

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[QUOTE]BF is very casual, jeans and a t-shirt - usually a Harley t-shirt of some kind - with casual (ie not workout) sneakers. He can jazz it up a little if we're going out somewhere nice, and he sure can clean up well in a suit & tie for really important events. I like his everyday style - I'm pretty casual myself most of the time, so it works. The only thing I HATE is that <strong>he's not a flip-flop guy</strong>... he wears Crocs (black ones, thank goodness) in the summer if he's not wearing sneakers. I not-so-silently judge him for it.
Posted by BriSox81[/QUOTE]

<div>SAME. Sean wears sneakers TO THE BEACH. </div>

csousa1

This is an example of a nice outfit being Jon-ified...

GoldenPenguin

RDR - that's hysterical!! I am a big fan of khaki/cargo shorts & flip flops in the summer, but BF insists that his Crocs (cringe) are wayyyyy more comfortable. They're lucky we love them ;-)

csousa1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How does your bf/fi/dh dress? : SAME. Sean wears sneakers TO THE BEACH. 
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

So does Jon! I find the sneakers at the beach thing a little overboard, but in general I'm okay with no sandals. I tend not to like men in sandals much.