To all those pre-engagement/early planners

[Deleted User]

I just want to say from personal experience, your plans WILL change.  You can day dream all you want and think you know exactly what you want for your wedding, but I promise you, when the time ACTUALLY comes - it will change.  You may like and want different things than you did, you may have to change the entire plan altogether even. 

Take it from a woman who went from planning a traditional wedding back home with both families, to an amazing elopement in Colorado, then to an Alaskan Cruise and you know what we finally decided upon?  Us, a minister, 4 other people, in a backyard and then us leaving on a honeymoon. 

So, just don't get your pretty little hearts and minds set on something because more times then not, plans change.

/rant over

babybchbum

you Jeter... perfectly stated!

KD+BC

Amen. I worship at the house of Jeter.

MLekathLEEN

Bravo Jeter, Bravo!

[Deleted User]

teehee KD

aperitisa

Well said...I whole-heartedly agree!

bethsmiles

Agreed! It is fun to think about sometimes though lol. But mine and my BF's plans have changed a million times, and now are plans are all up in the air again because I decided I should go to grad school too. Now we have no idea when we are gonna get married. Its crazy to think at one time we were planning on this coming January. I've come to learn life often gets in the way of the plans I've made.

loves2shop4shoes

Jeter for president!

[Deleted User]

Oh I agree with that Beth - I know, even before we were engaged, how exciting it was to sit around and day dream about the big day.  I'm not saying that's wrong at all.  I just think it's funny that you REALLY think you know what you want and how you want it all to go and when it comes time, you end up with something completely different.

bethsmiles

Oh yeah I definitely agree with you. I laugh a little when girls come on the boards with their whole wedding planned and they aren't even engaged yet. I bet at least 90% of those plans change, if not all of them!

desertsun

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_those-pre-engagementearly-planners?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:be4a9828-4f70-4cb3-bb9d-cbd33c551439Post:b383a5e6-a4dd-48cb-b97a-d74cbea35afd">Re: To all those pre-engagement/early planners</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh I agree with that Beth - I know, even before we were engaged, how exciting it was to sit around and day dream about the big day.  I'm not saying that's wrong at all.  I just think it's funny that you REALLY think you know what you want and how you want it all to go and when it comes time, you end up with something completely different.
Posted by Soon2BMrsJeter[/QUOTE]

And the thing is, the more time you spend planning, the faster you get tired of/bored with/frustrated by wedding planning.

We really DO know what we're talking about around here. Personal experience.

[Deleted User]

Amen Desert.

tafft1

I totally agree with everyhting Jeter says. MY hubby and I thought we both wanted and needed the big wedding ( for us 75 people was big..heh) - then once we realized that we had no desire to spend so much money nor did we need all the "bells and whistles" and that what mattered most to US was being married to one another with those most intimate fmaily and friends we were able to decide what we really wanted.

I admiteddly had dreamed of being married for years - everything from the change of location , number of guests , invitation style , colors , dress styles changed several times over and over and then over again before the actual marriage took place.

I am just glad there are some awesome people here who were honest enough to help me come up with some contructive ideas/advice and help when needed. The above and more is all why we say what we do - It's not a case of being jealous or wanting to run people off..it might just be because we HAVE been there and are trying to help in our own ways. Those who can't see that are simply short sighted to begin with and sadly no amount of advice or help will convince them otherwise.

leia1979

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_those-pre-engagementearly-planners?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:be4a9828-4f70-4cb3-bb9d-cbd33c551439Post:aee0f549-6991-45e0-a12b-c8df9735a728">Re: To all those pre-engagement/early planners</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To all those pre-engagement/early planners : And the thing is, the more time you spend planning, the faster you get tired of/bored with/frustrated by wedding planning. We really DO know what we're talking about around here. Personal experience.
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

THIS! I really shouldn't have spent so much time on the Knot before getting engaged (and I was not planning at all--just browsing). I'm already sick of it.

oceana919

I un-GBCKed just to endorse this message.

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 Oceana