Do you have any secret/not-so-secret hopes for your future wedding?

MissOwl

I would really love a big band/swing band. 

That's one reason that waiting to get engaged is ok with me right now. Each month we are X dollars closer to having the amount saved that we need to have no wedding debt even if we get $0 from family (a total possibility). SO knows about this wish.

What things do you hope to have someday as a part of your wedding that you think will be very special or important? Have you told your SO? For the marrieds, did you have any special requests?

heyimbren

An ice rink, just because that's all I ever hear about having on this board.


But in all seriousness, I'd like my papa to walk me down the aisle. He's my father figure, and he never got to do it so I think it might mean a lot to him. And I'd like my mom to be there. Other than that, I'm not too picky. As long as I come out married at the end of the day, it's all good.

motoLyn

I want tons of lit white paper laterns hung through the reception area. Simple but that's my wish.  Soft and romantic.

rxjen

A billiard table....

bethsmiles

I want my dad to walk me down the aisle and my BF to be waiting at the end of that aisle. As long as I have that everything else is just details.

jemmini6

I'd really like (as in I am making him) my dad to be sober on my wedding day.  And I really really really hope it doesn't rain.  Other than that, as long as I get to marry my FI, I'd be happy.

HeartOverMind

Pretty much what Beth said!

I also want to add that I want my parents to get along and that they can have a good time together...they get along pretty well now, but I hope for my wedding (and for all my sisters' weddings) that they can REALLY get along!

Edit: I also want to get married in BF's "backyard"...his family owns a lot of land and it would be awesome if we could pick a spot to get married and have a reception!

calindi

That we can keep it somewhat intimate.  I'm hoping BF's family isn't insistent on all 60 first cousins and 20 aunts and uncles on his Mom's side to be invited

mookow86

I really want my childhood pastor to do the ceremony. He's just so much closer to my family and I than any other pastor I've had over the years.

becunning2

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[QUOTE] As long as I come out married at the end of the day, it's all good.
Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]

This!  Exactly!  The rest is just details.  Course, if we're talking about the details and people are talking about parents...  there's a little part of me that would much rather have my dad NOT be at my wedding.  Course, I feel guilty for this... 

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you have any secret/not-so-secret hopes for your future wedding? : This!  Exactly!  The rest is just details.  Course, if we're talking about the details and people are talking about parents...  there's a little part of me that would much rather have my dad NOT be at my wedding.  Course, <strong>I feel guilty for this...</strong> 
Posted by becunning2[/QUOTE]

You probably don't need to. If I was to get married in the next year (which I'm not), neither of my parents would be there. That's just the way life goes I guess. And the important thing is that other loved ones WILL be there.

Wrkn925

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[QUOTE]I'd really like (as in I am making him) my dad to be sober on my wedding day.  And I really really really hope it doesn't rain.  Other than that, as long as I get to marry my FI, I'd be happy.
Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]


:-(  My Mom told me about begging her Dad to stay sober the day of her wedding.  He was pretty bad then, but he got completely sober around the time I was born, so I never knew him that way.

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I really wish that we could get Skype to work in the assisted living center where my grandmas live, but it's small town and the center hasn't been able to get it to work there.  So we're going to have a friend set up his video camera to film just the ceremony so we can transfer it to DVD and send it to my grandmas to watch, at least they'll feel like they're with us that day.  Another friend is going to try to call them from their cell phone so they can at least hear the ceremony live.

CASK85

Not to be a debbie downer, but my real hope is for my Grandfather to be there. He might be, but he's been in a nursing home since spring time. He was always so invested in me growing up -- taught me how to fish, taught me how to drive, came to all of my chorus concerts and swim meets. . . it'll be really heartbreaking for me if he doesn't make it to my wedding (whenever it may be). 

SeaTea02

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[QUOTE]I really wish that we could get Skype to work in the assisted living center where my grandmas live, but it's small town and the center hasn't been able to get it to work there.  So we're going to have a friend set up his video camera to film just the ceremony so we can transfer it to DVD and send it to my grandmas to watch, at least they'll feel like they're with us that day.  Another friend is going to try to call them from their cell phone so they can at least hear the ceremony live.
Posted by AngieD&JoeD[/QUOTE]

Awww that is so sweet. I am in the same boat. I wish my grandmother could be there.

lfisher6

I just want everyone to have fun.  I've been to those weddings where you are super awkward and just want to leave, or you can see that other people feel awkward.  I plan on having a small wedding just so that I can try to avoid the awkwardness.

leia1979

I'd like it to not rain (it's outdoors, but in September, so rain is unlikely).

I'd like my grandma and FI's grandpa to hang on until then (not that there's anything imminent, but neither is in the best of health and you never know).

I'd like my dad to not make gagging noises or disparaging remarks if I mention anything wedding-related in his presence (which believe me is infrequent).

Elle1036

I have lots of them, but most of them are fantasy-wedding type things that I just daydream about but could easily do without:

1.  Lakeside Venue
2.  HUGE freakin' cake
3.  Live band for the reception
4.  Acoustic guitarist for the cermony

And several others...

MissOwl

These are awesome. I think it's amazing how many of you are focused on the importance of family at your wedding--making that the most important thing. I'm impressed. 

The frivolous things are fun to think about too though

desertsun

Honestly, having good cake was a big priority.

We got lucky b/c the first bakery we tried was a.ma.zing, AND the owner's daughter was a florist with a shop right next door so they cut us a deal on delivery if we booked them both. I overpaid on the flowers, but the cake was so worth it!

We skipped the fondant and had buttercream frosting in July in Arizona, and it looked beautiful. Highly recommend skipping fondant. I just don't like the stuff, and apparently, our guests aren't big fans either -- we're still hearing about how delicious our cake was!

We had a layer of chocolate and a layer of almond with raspberry filling, and buttercream frosting. YUM!

Brittany421

I want my mom to walk me down the aisle and I want my best (male) friend to be my "maid of honor". 

And as jemmini6 said more than anything I want my dad to be sober so that I can just be happy he is there rather than regret it.

coastiegrl25

I actually wish that I could have a big wedding.  As it is, we are just having a very very small intimate wedding on the beach with no reception.  Just a dinner afterward the photographer is done.  We just have people scattered everywhere and not many at all can travel.  No matter where we go though mostly everyone would have to, so a small intimate one seems like the best option.

All in all, I think I'll really enjoy the wedding though and I'm married at the end of the day.