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Did you/are you planning on getting him something to celebrate your engagement?

I've always kind of thought it seems kind of unfair that when a couple gets engaged the guy usually goes out and gets the girl a ring, and he doesn't really get anything in return (other than a fiancee). I understand the historical reasons behind it, but it just doesn't seem fair. 

I know my partner is going to be proposing sometime in the next few months and getting me a ring (I've caught him loooking at rings online, he's made comments about nice or stupid proposals he's heard people do recently, he's said that when he's done paying off his car this month he's going to start saving for something special etc etc). 

Part of what made me finally create an account on theknot was to get opinions on this (I've been lorking for the last month or so). I don't really know what to get him though. It seems weird to get him an engagement ring. I was thinking cufflinks, but he doesn't wear them often enough. Then I was thinking maybe a really nice watch? All I know is that if I'm going to get him something, I'll have to start saving too! 

So any ideas? Did any of you who already got engaged get your husband/fiance something? Are any of you who think your partner may be proposing thinking about getting him something?
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  • edited December 2011
    It does not surprise me that we would be classified as wierd, but I did get BF an engagement ring. When we were in Ireland for my flatmate's wedding I got him a Claddagh (a traditional Irish wedding ring) from the village in Claggagh, Galway where they originated. He's dying to get his hands on the bling (even more so than me), but I'm pretending I lost it so that he'll be surprised when I "propose" to him after we get engaged.

    Also, alot of girls on here go the nice watch route, which is super sweet, but I know BF wanted to have a symbol of being "taken off the market" like me.
  • Hazel_BHazel_B member
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    edited December 2011
    Having just got engaged on the weekend, I'm really feeling this right now. FI isn't a big jewelery person, so I'm not sure what I should do.
  • mana8503mana8503 member
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    edited December 2011
    FI already bought himself a truck... I've nicknamed it the engagement truck. 

    Like Hazel, I just got in engaged.  FI is thinking about getting a smallish ring for himself.  Surprisingly he's finding it unfair that there's a sign I'm "taken" and he doesn't.  I guess because we are looking at a long engagement (fall 2012), so I might look into a cheap thin band for him.
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  • hetshuphetshup member
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    edited December 2011
    I got H a fancy BBQ. B\c we are super classy like that. 
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    edited December 2011
    FBD got a new PS3 after we got engaged...b/c the old one broke.  Does that count?

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  • edited December 2011
    My sister's husband got an engagement wii, and wii fit bundle; I'll probably get SO some really nice headphones, he's been looking at a super nice set of over-ear ones for awhile. they're like $450. I can't think of any other occasion when I would be able to justify spending that much money on headphones, especially considering he has some amazing in-ear ones. He's into that stuff though, and I love him.
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_did-youare-planning-getting-him-something-celebrate-engagement?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:c9daff94-7049-4dc8-84f1-4aa8d0fdd50fPost:f429e067-0c02-4f4e-8ae5-7f1b11f0e2e0">Re: Did you/are you planning on getting him something to celebrate your engagement?</a>:
    [QUOTE]My sister's husband got an engagement wii, and wii fit bundle; I'll probably get SO some really nice headphones, he's been looking at a super nice set of over-ear ones for awhile.<strong> they're like $450. I can't think of any other occasion when I would be able to justify spending that much money on headphones,</strong> especially considering he has some amazing in-ear ones. He's into that stuff though, and I love him.
    Posted by AbigailMS[/QUOTE]

    Holy cow, all I see when I read that is a plane ticket to Costa Rica. Those most be some really nice headphones. (and a really nice BF :)
  • edited December 2011

    Gah! I can't believe I made so many spelling errors. Guess I shouldn't post at 2:30 am in the semi-dark anymore. The other thing I was thinking of getting him was some sort of Swarovski crystal thing, like the "bride and goom" bear that can double as a cake topper, or a Swarovski frame or two that I can put an engagement and/or wedding photo in. It'll probably be that or a nice watch. I guess it will partly depend on how much I have saved up when he gives me a ring!

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  • edited December 2011
    FI got a hug and kisses and that's it!
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  • edited December 2011
    I borrowed an idea from a really smart Knottie, and got him a nice watch. He absolutely loved it! I like the watch idea because it is something he can wear, and keep forever. I'm sorry I can't elaborate more or provide pictures at the moment, I am posting from my phone.

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  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_did-youare-planning-getting-him-something-celebrate-engagement?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:c9daff94-7049-4dc8-84f1-4aa8d0fdd50fPost:d6592ccf-8723-4284-9d6b-1e0dfc354cd4">Re: Did you/are you planning on getting him something to celebrate your engagement?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I borrowed an idea from a really smart Knottie, and got him a nice watch. He absolutely loved it! I like the watch idea because it is something he can wear, and keep forever. I'm sorry I can't elaborate more or provide pictures at the moment, I am posting from my phone.
    Posted by musikbx[/QUOTE]

    Musik did post pics a few days ago though, and it was quite possibly the best double-engagement ever ;)
  • edited December 2011
    We talked about it, and I was going to buy him a GPS watch that he's been drooling over. Instead he told me to save the money. We agreed that after the wedding, we'd take some of our wedding cash and buy him the watch he wants :)

    So, he got a hug and a kiss (Oh, and he got the girl :) )
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  • edited December 2011
    I would go the nice watch route because I think it's classy and really great, but DH wanted an XBox 360 more than a watch. So, I got him an Xbox 360 after we got engaged. He loves it.

    I still want to get him a nice watch, though. Maybe for a birthday or anniversary.

    OHH. One-year anniversary coming up! Maybe I should save my pennies, too! Laughing
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  • Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited December 2011
    I fixed BFs watch for him. When I did it, I decided he was getting it for Vday or when he proposed, which ever came first.  <--Because I'm impatient about having a gift to give.

    I may get him a right-hand ring.  I don't know.  We'll see.
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  • edited December 2011
    I'll probably get my FI the kickboxing classes he has been wanting.
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  • hannahnolahannahnola member
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    edited December 2011
    I absolutely will not get him anything bc he forgot about VDAY AND OUR ANNIVERSARY all within 2 wks of each other. And I went out my way for both events. (still fuming, lol) on the upside he bought my ring Tues!
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_did-youare-planning-getting-him-something-celebrate-engagement?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:c9daff94-7049-4dc8-84f1-4aa8d0fdd50fPost:af34abea-863a-42eb-9e35-2e1a766106d2">Re: Did you/are you planning on getting him something to celebrate your engagement?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I absolutely will not get him anything bc he forgot about VDAY AND OUR ANNIVERSARY all within 2 wks of each other. And I went out my way for both events. (still fuming, lol) on the upside he bought my ring Tues!
    Posted by hannahnola[/QUOTE]

    Well that's sweet of you. Sounds like you're more into getting than giving. Superb. Sometimes people forget. Get over it.
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_did-youare-planning-getting-him-something-celebrate-engagement?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:c9daff94-7049-4dc8-84f1-4aa8d0fdd50fPost:ac491b93-b888-44bd-b02c-2941118ffadf">Re: Did you/are you planning on getting him something to celebrate your engagement?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Did you/are you planning on getting him something to celebrate your engagement? : Well that's sweet of you. Sounds like you're more into getting than giving. Superb. Sometimes people forget. Get over it.
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  • HeartOverMindHeartOverMind member
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    edited December 2011
    My BF already told me that he would like a really nice watch. Getting a watch (a nice one) can be passed down to a son or son-in-law, so I think that's a nice engagement gift. A ring can be passed down....so can a watch.
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  • PolkaDotBellaPolkaDotBella member
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    edited December 2011
    My BF and I have talked about it... I told him I'd get him a nice BBQ, since he loves to BBQ. He really liked the idea, though he mentioned one day that he really wants a nice watch. So I've been playing around with the idea of a watch as an engagement present, though I like the idea of a BBQ for the engagement and a watch as a wedding present... who knows though, I have awhile before I have to decide!
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  • JBC123JBC123 member
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    edited December 2011
    My FI and I got my engagement ring at a pawn shop, believe it or not.  Hanging at the shop was this framed print from a US Open golf championship.  It was signed by the artist and had an actual ticket in it.  FI said offhandedly "You can get me that as my engagement gift."  I said, "okay" and asked how much they'd take for it.  The price was right, so I bought it then and there. 

    After my FI put my ring on my finger and asked me "will you marry me?" (and I said yes), I hoisted this huge picture to him and asked him "Will you marry ME?".   Everyone in the shop chuckled when I did this.  And he said "Yes" and kissed me.  So FI got something he loves for his golf "man cave" and I got a beautiful diamond engagement ring Wink 

    And I smile whenever I look at that print!
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    edited December 2011
    Since FI bought my ring, I paid for most of our Disneyland trip on which we got engaged. I also just took him to dinner and gave him his ring last night. It's actually his wedding ring, since he didn't want a separate engagement ring. He's just wearing it early.
  • edited December 2011
    I think what I'll do is wait until he acutally pops the question, then see how much money I've saved up at the time and kinda decide from there....
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  • katanne9katanne9 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_did-youare-planning-getting-him-something-celebrate-engagement?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:c9daff94-7049-4dc8-84f1-4aa8d0fdd50fPost:4005e787-8629-4b32-ae7e-f0cf429c4eda">Re: Did you/are you planning on getting him something to celebrate your engagement?</a>:
    [QUOTE]FBD got a new PS3 after we got engaged...b/c the old one broke.  Does that count?
    Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]


    FTW!!!

    I got him... erm nothing? Haha. We bought a camcorder for our wedding gift. Does that count?
  • edited December 2011
    An iPad? Something techy? A man cave?
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