Do you believe in the rule of 3?

elannis

Have you ever heard that things (bad or good) happen in 3's?

Do you believe in it?

Yesterday FI's coworker was taken to the hospital for a suspected heart attack. Today we found out the heart attack was ruled out. She really had an aneurism, she's on life support, and it's not looking good.

Last night I also found out that my old boss when I worked on campus died. He was such a sweet man. I feel so sad for his family.

Just wondering if there is one more to come.

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I absolutely do not believe in the rule of threes. I do however believe that something good always happens after something bad...so looks like you have some good things coming your way soon!

thejucheidea

Yes, I do. Our patients always die in threes.

peekaboo2011

I don't believe in the rule of three.  But, like Allusive, I do believe that you have good things coming your way.

Ollie08

I believe in the rule of 3, my cousin died a few weeks ago, my grandpa is in the hospital hanging on by a thread, and I can only imagine what will round out the 3. But for me, they always happen in 3s. Then again, so do pregnancies and other happy things.

msuprincess04

I do, and it scares the crap out of me. In the past week my bf's father got into a car accident (not his fault) and lost a finger in a table saw accident (his fault). I'm so worried about what's next!

Hopefully, for both our sakes, the third thing will actually be something minor. Like spilling coffee on a new white blouse.

elannis

I do agree that the good usually does come with the bad.

My mom told me an extreme case of this. There was a family party of some people she knew and S went into labor and in the panic to get to the hospital, the grandma back up over her other granddaughter and killed her. So in the same day, one grand baby died and one was born. So sad.

I don't know if it applies to me, but my cousin's friend (we also kinda grew up together) just got engaged. From what it sounds like, he may not be the best match for her though. I haven't met him. We'll see. I was still super excited for her though. Maybe that's the good to come from all this.

elannis

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_believe-rule-of-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:d1da518c-adb8-4ba0-9e78-a693dd8a1b35Post:b7c3c827-c06f-4f6e-892b-663f49c69d1e">Re: Do you believe in the rule of 3?</a>:
[QUOTE]I believe in the rule of 3, my cousin died a few weeks ago, my grandpa is in the hospital hanging on by a thread, and I can only imagine what will round out the 3. But for me, they always happen in 3s. Then again, so do pregnancies and other happy things.
Posted by Ollie08[/QUOTE]

So sorry again about your cousin Ollie, and your grandpa.

It does seem that pregnancies happen in 3's with us too. I guess everything balances out in the end.

CCO2012

I believe in the rule of 3. Good and bad always happens in my life in 3's. Vibes your way for a very minor #3!

csousa1

I have definitely seen things happen in threes like that. I think there is something to be said about that "rule",  however - many times people see things based on what they want to believe. For example, four bad things could have happened to someone. Since they believe in the rule of three, they don't give as much attention to a more minor misfortune, whereas if only two things had happened, they may view that same misfortune as a third to complete the pattern.

Also, I truly believe that these kinds of things only have power if you let them. Granted, you cannot control bad things happening - or good things, for that matter - but you can choose how you view it. Something bad can always be around the corner, but the power of whether or not you live in fear of that unknown is entirely yours - no matter how many good or bad things have recently happened.

I'm sorry about the things that have been happening Ely, I hope things look up soon!

elannis

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_believe-rule-of-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:d1da518c-adb8-4ba0-9e78-a693dd8a1b35Post:d5530c33-127c-403f-97bd-378b05e477e7">Re: Do you believe in the rule of 3?</a>:
[QUOTE]I believe in the rule of 3. Good and bad always happens in my life in 3's. Vibes your way for a very minor #3!
Posted by CCO2012[/QUOTE]

Thanks! Maybe it will just be my car breaking down. I'm used to that. It happens every winter! It's expensive, but at least nobody gets hurt.

Ollie08

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you believe in the rule of 3? : So sorry again about your cousin Ollie, and your grandpa. It does seem that pregnancies happen in 3's with us too. I guess everything balances out in the end.
Posted by elannis[/QUOTE]

Aww thanks Ely

elannis

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_believe-rule-of-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:d1da518c-adb8-4ba0-9e78-a693dd8a1b35Post:ee3aa45e-9485-4ac7-a394-9b26690b57b0">Re: Do you believe in the rule of 3?</a>:
[QUOTE]I have definitely seen things happen in threes like that. I think there is something to be said about that "rule",  however - <strong>many times people see things based on what they want to believe.</strong> For example, four bad things could have happened to someone. Since they believe in the rule of three, <strong>they don't give as much attention to a more minor misfortune</strong>, whereas if only two things had happened,<strong> they may view that same misfortune as a third to complete the pattern</strong>. Also, I truly believe that these kinds of things only have power if you let them. Granted, you cannot control bad things happening - or good things, for that matter - but you can choose how you view it. Something bad can always be around the corner, but the power of whether or not you live in fear of that unknown is entirely yours - no matter how many good or bad things have recently happened. I'm sorry about the things that have been happening Ely, I hope things look up soon!
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]

I do think that there is truth to this too. Sometimes it's cut and dry 3 bad things/3 good things, but sometimes it's something bad that happened to someone that knows someone, so I don't really count it towards a bad thing for me because I didn't know them, even if I feel bad for the friend.

I'm not going to sit and wait for something bad to happen, but I do believe there is a possibility. Of course, that possibility is there any day. I dunno. I'll see what happens I guess.

Last year, within a week of each other, I ran over and killed 2 cats. Same street within a hundred yards of each other. I was devastate. I'd never done that before ever and it hasn't happened since. That same week I almost got hit twice by some driver not paying attention coming out from behind a car/shed. You can see it as 2 or 4, but it wasn't 3 and nothing like that has happened since. Sometimes things like that happen I guess. I was scared to death to drive for a while though.

jaycee7389

I do, it always seems to happen.

ravenray

I don't.  I sometimes say bad things happen in 3's but I don't really believe it.  Bad things happen all the time, all around the world to everyone.  I think you are just more sensitive to it because something bad happened to you or someone close to you.  If that makes sense.  And I don't mean you as in Ely I just mean in general. 

Peaseblossom55

I think both good and bad things happen in 3's.